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[Millania]

I would be super annoyed, so is he not willing to work with you and give you sex a few times a week? I mean if he has the energy to stroke his own, why cant he give you sex? I just dont understand some men, OK so I understand that masturbation maybe an easier release but this is crazy. You have needs to u know? I cant believe he would choose this over you. how was your sex life before you left? good? I just dont understand why some men would rather touch themselves than get full on penetration, it just boggles my mind, I hope that you 2 can work something out, because what he is doing to you is not fair

[WildChild]

Interesting that he set up the self expectation several days ahead of time, that he would be too tired, but he is very graciously willing to allow you to pleasure him.

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[Hopeless Dork]

If a guy has a high enough drive that he isn't able to restrain himself from masturbating to porn... it would lead me to believe that if they didn't masturbate, no matter how 'tired' from work they were.... they'd pull the energy out of their rear to find for sexual relations because they'd be driven to it.

But of course if they are already sexually satisfied, why would they fish for the energy to provide you with sex when they are tired.

Its a very selfish situation. Unfortunately I cannot say I've never been there.

I'd never cheat on my boyfriend, its just not in my nature. And masturbation only fills half of my needs that sex fills. My own orgasm is only 50% of what satisfies me from sex the other half is pleasing my partner.

So if he made me feel unwanted more than he made me feel wanted I'd have to re evaluate if I could be happy in the relationship.

If my guy was genuinly too tired for sex, I'd never leave him over that. If his drive was lower, never would the thought enter my mind to end a relationship because of it. I love him with all my heart.

But if he were to on a continuous basis choose avenues like porn/masturbation, knowing full well it will take away from his drive to be with me I'd have to take it for exactly what it is. That he just doesn't value what I do for him as much as I value what he does for me. And from that point would have to figure out if I could be happy with that.

I think the fact that you were away... does lend it self to some degree of fairness in him pulling the wank card while he couldn't have you. But the least he could do his save up some pent up energy in the day before you were coming home to make you feel as desired and wanted of a woman as you need to feel from him.

Him asking for oral but not wanting to please you after you spent the same week without sex that he did does reek to high heck of selfishness. You spent every day a way thinking of him, missing him, wanting sex with him and to come home to honey you can blow me , sorry thats all I have the energy for is both insulting, hurtful.

If he had thought for one minute about how that sounded I'm sure he wouldnt have said it. From an objective stand point it was a self-centered request, and as insulting as throwing a dog a used bone... like here... take this, it should be enough to make you happy. Well its not.

I hope he gets his act together and realize that you have needs too, and part of those needs include feeling desired by the one you love.

[Greydog72]

I would be super annoyed, so is he not willing to work with you and give you sex a few times a week? I mean if he has the energy to stroke his own, why cant he give you sex? I just dont understand some men. I just dont understand why some men would rather touch themselves than get full on penetration, it just boggles my mind

I don't understand either...

Stressed: Amazing how simular but different our lifes are. Hope everything works out for you.

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[WildChild]

Later he'll be wondering why you aren't interested anymore.
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Later he'll be wondering why you aren't interested anymore.
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He better start wondering that now, as I'm not...

[Hopeless Dork]

Later he'll be wondering why you aren't interested anymore.
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My thoughts exactly.