[cocoa]

Just a note: Already started a thread on dating older men in the "Dating" section but didn't want to pose this question there.

How is sex with older men (10/15+)? Are there particular issues or concerns which arise during intercourse with older lovers/partners? How are older partners different in their views or behaviors related to sexual activity?

[justcuriouz]

I guess it depends on what age they are and what age you are. I am younger than my fiance by almost that much and while we have no other issues, we have some bedroom issues. Their views may be more conservative as they grew up in a different generational culture. Or not. It depends. They may also have a tougher time getting physically aroused, but again that probably depends on exactly how old we're talking about. ED is not common in men under 50 or so, I think. And while it's apparently not normal at any age, it gets more common the older they get. But if the older man you have in mind (I'm assuming you do or else you probably wouldn't be asking) is anything like the older man I have found, the pros outweigh the cons. But there could be some sexual issues, just to warn ya.

[cocoa]

I guess it depends on what age they are and what age you are. I am younger than my fiance by almost that much and while we have no other issues, we have some bedroom issues. Their views may be more conservative as they grew up in a different generational culture. Or not. It depends. They may also have a tougher time getting physically aroused, but again that probably depends on exactly how old we're talking about. ED is not common in men under 50 or so, I think. And while it's apparently not normal at any age, it gets more common the older they get. But if the older man you have in mind (I'm assuming you do or else you probably wouldn't be asking) is anything like the older man I have found, the pros outweigh the cons. But there could be some sexual issues, just to warn ya.

Thx for responding. Actually, i don't have anyone in mind. I was am just curious (no pun intended ;D). What are the pros which outweigh the cons?

My next question is does sexual satisfaction decline? As the older man's body changes because of age, does it affect how you feel about about them? Do you struggle to maintain interest if they can't perform as well as someone would expect a younger man would?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Don't fear what you read, because it's all honestly about the "woman you feel " . I appreciate your young and viewing older.. I am older and with a partner the same age. But I can guarantee you that it can be like your teenage years for both. It's about ensuring the spark is kept alive, both are taken back to that inquisitive time, in your lives or venture further into more adventurous..

Lets look at Angelina Jolie, she has seduced every man with perfection...

CW

[Hopeless Dork]

Its more about chemistry and physical health than it is to do with age. There are men in their 20's that have erectile dysfunction (although usually anxiety based, or due to overly frequently masturbating and unable to perform later for intercourse), Their are men in their 40's that know no more about a womans body or how to please it than a 19 year old guy having sex for the first time. Its going to be a case by case basis, there just is no real way to generalize or prepare for sex with an older man. Its going to be as good or bad as it would be in any other age bracket depending on the man, his passion, his interest and willingness to learn your body and what pleases it. Some older men are really open minded and ready to explore, some are reserved and stuck int heir ways. You will just have to get to know the man you are with , there is no way you are going to understand what he wants or likes or is ready/not ready for by simply knowing his age.

[Day Tripper]

Its more about chemistry and physical health than it is to do with age. There are men in their 20's that have erectile dysfunction (although usually anxiety based, or due to overly frequently masturbating and unable to perform later for intercourse), Their are men in their 40's that know no more about a womans body or how to please it than a 19 year old guy having sex for the first time. Its going to be a case by case basis, there just is no real way to generalize or prepare for sex with an older man. Its going to be as good or bad as it would be in any other age bracket depending on the man, his passion, his interest and willingness to learn your body and what pleases it. Some older men are really open minded and ready to explore, some are reserved and stuck int heir ways. You will just have to get to know the man you are with , there is no way you are going to understand what he wants or likes or is ready/not ready for by simply knowing his age.

Good answer!

[cocoa]

Don't fear what you read, because it's all honestly about the "woman you feel " . I appreciate your young and viewing older.. I am older and with a partner the same age. But I can guarantee you that it can be like your teenage years for both. It's about ensuring the spark is kept alive, both are taken back to that inquisitive time, in your lives or venture further into more adventurous..

Lets look at Angelina Jolie, she has seduced every man with perfection...

CW

This is less about fear, than about general interest and curiosity. Being informed about anything regardless of age makes more sense than walking into something blindly. On another note, I think I'll leave the "seduction" and "adventure" to the pros. Something simple, direct, and stable is more my cup of tea.

[Ashlee T.]

I have a little fantasy about sleeping with an older man...someone 15-20 years older than me...... maybe someday I'll be able to answer this question. haha. I think it will be very hot and passionate.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Ah don't take me out of context

Stable, simple, direct.. is all good... But, there is a "myth" about an older man, losing his sexual drive and an older woman gaining hers. My point is simply, that is not the case. Certainly love has alot to do with it, alot... And, in that, you can be free to express and be yourself... and that can also be a direct approach in a stable relationship....

I'm not at all suggesting you have to be a wild woman in order to make a man interested in more sex... Rather confident, in your love and therefore, in your love making, what ever you desire in that respect.

On a side note myself... There is nothing wrong with gaining people's opinions, thoughts, facts, and using that information within your life.. That is better than going in cold turkey in any situation.. After all that is how the successful business people in life became successful, it applys for all aspects of life.

CW

[cocoa]

I have a little fantasy about sleeping with an older man...someone 15-20 years older than me...... maybe someday I'll be able to answer this question. haha. I think it will be very hot and passionate.

Yeah . . . haha

Ah don't take me out of context

Stable, simple, direct.. is all good... But, there is a "myth" about an older man, losing his sexual drive and an older woman gaining hers. My point is simply, that is not the case. Certainly love has alot to do with it, alot... And, in that, you can be free to express and be yourself... and that can also be a direct approach in a stable relationship....

I'm not at all suggesting you have to be a wild woman in order to make a man interested in more sex... Rather confident, in your love and therefore, in your love making, what ever you desire in that respect.

On a side note myself... There is nothing wrong with gaining people's opinions, thoughts, facts, and using that information within your life.. That is better than going in cold turkey in any situation.. After all that is how the successful business people in life became successful, it applys for all aspects of life.


CW

Thx for your response. Sorry about my misreading there. I see what you mean. yeah.