[lilmissdirty]

Your wifes attitude to semen is the norm for women. Cum is icky and women are in general prude and think cum is gross, can you blame them? I'm a guy too, and even I think semen is icky.

Ehhhh?
Cum isent icky, I love to see my hubby cum. nothing icky about it, its natural part of life, its sexy, errotic and a huge turn on knowing that I can create that reaction in him.

[cathygirl]

I have more of a question than an answer. If you had never seen a porn star do this, would it ever have occurred to you? In my experience, my partner would much prefer to come inside me, or in my mouth than to pull out and come on my breasts or belly. My husband has actually joked about how "unnatural" it seems when porn performers do this, because the last thing in the world he wants to do at that moment is pull out and splash my belly or where ever. I kind of agree, I much prefer taking his cum internally. If he said he wanted to do that, it wouldn't be a big deal, I'll do most anything that turns him on, but it's not something that just occurs to people unless they've seen it done, and what is done in porn movies is usually far from what most people actually like to do. It's what men like to watch, usually.

[Jim60]

Jeez WC - if dealing with my emotional pain and becoming a better person requires having a high speed crash on my motor cycle or a serious illness I think I'll live with the emotional kind of pain and being a less than perfect person thanks!

It's a bit off topic, but.....

"Unfortunately men seem to have more trouble resolving their emotional pains in a positive manner than women and it seems to often take something that shoves their mortality in their face, like a heart attack or an accident, to jar them into dealing with their cumulative feces. Then they may become much better people but they are requiring a lot more caregiving and an active healthy woman is still getting the short end of the stick. No winning it seems sometimes."

If one swapped women for men in the above paragraph, and it was written by a man, it would not be an over attractive piece of writing. However, I am a man posting on a womens board, so maybe I am just hearing how the other half see it, or perhaps it didn't quite come out the way you meant it.

Anyway, I hope you find what you are looking for, and anyone getting himself off several times a day when there is a real woman around has issues whatever his age!

[WildChild]

Sorry Jim, don't mean to step on any toes. I know there are some really good men in the world but I and many women I know have repeatedly found men who haul around quite a load of baggage and just can't seem to get past it. Np doubt there are women who do the same but it's a general societal thing, I think, that many men have been taught that even admitting any emotion other than anger really isn't acceptable. Men often don't pick up on this from other men because joke bashing women are so socially acceptable.

The man I was with who was so fond of Rosie and who pretty much only wanted bjs and hjs, would make jokes about women not wanting sex all the time. Other men would laugh. You have no idea how many women bite their tongues on stuff like this because Joe Stud who is telling the jokes is a non starter and may turn down the woman in his life down just about daily. It seems to be partly a control issue, part laziness and I don't know what else.

Do some reading here. Men who just aren't interested are far more common than you may think.

[Jim60]

Well, yes. My first long term GF would sometimes like me to cum on her - neither of us had seen porn then (late 70's early 80's) - mostly between her breasts. It was not a big part of what we did, but an occasional thing.

And, mostly I would prefer to cum inside my partner, though not her mouth as it is something she would find gross and revolting so I'm not going to do that. Do you ever give your partner a handjob or enjoy to see him masturbate? - if not the question doesnt really arise, but if so isn't it more intimate if he cums on you than elsewhere? It's not like it's the major thing, just a once in a while diversion.

Since porn has come up - unsexy things "pornstars" do....

1 Spitting
2 Sticking their fingers in the womans mouth (why?)
3 lines (ooooh yeah baby!)
4Facials (Does it have to be every time?)
5Pulling their penis away from a perfectly beautiful mouth/hand/vagina to do it themselves.
6Slapping their penis around the womans face (mostly saying no3)
7Loads more I cant think of now

Porn - a good idea made tedious by poor execution.

No offence taken WC - I'm a stranger here, and chatting with people with different experiences and opinions is what makes it interesting.

Sooner or later you will pull a diamond out of the rough, just make sure you don't throw him out with the rest of the dross! (Mixed metaphor?)

Anyway, off to bed now, look forward to exchanging views again soon.

[Guest]

I have more of a question than an answer. If you had never seen a porn star do this, would it ever have occurred to you? In my experience, my partner would much prefer to come inside me, or in my mouth than to pull out and come on my breasts or belly. My husband has actually joked about how "unnatural" it seems when porn performers do this, because the last thing in the world he wants to do at that moment is pull out and splash my belly or where ever. I kind of agree, I much prefer taking his cum internally. If he said he wanted to do that, it wouldn't be a big deal, I'll do most anything that turns him on, but it's not something that just occurs to people unless they've seen it done, and what is done in porn movies is usually far from what most people actually like to do. It's what men like to watch, usually.

Yeah pulling out right before seems really uncomfortable and I'm a guy. But I wouldn't want to cum inside the woman either out of respect... I'd pull out, way in advance and not cum at all. And then finish myself of later on in the day, in the bathroom or something where the woman can't see it.

[WildChild]

Yeah pulling out right before seems really uncomfortable and I'm a guy. But I wouldn't want to cum inside the woman either out of respect... I'd pull out, way in advance and not cum at all. And then finish myself of later on in the day, in the bathroom or something where the woman can't see it.

I'm curious, why would you think it disrespectful to cum inside your lover? I find that intensifies the whole experience. Women can often feel a man ejaculate, he gets harder just before and we can feel the contractions. That can put it right over the top for us. Why not find out what she wants?

[Texasred]

I'm curious, why would you think it disrespectful to cum inside your lover? I find that intensifies the whole experience. Women can often feel a man ejaculate, he gets harder just before and we can feel the contractions. That can put it right over the top for us. Why not find out what she wants?

Maybe "disrespectful" is a euphemism for "not wanting to get her pregnant." ;-)
But except for that reason, I agree completely.

What I don't at all agree with is your generalization a few posts back about men standing around making fun of women: I can't say I've heard that a lot among the men of my acquaintance - we don't feel the sort of antagonism toward women that would lead to making jokes like that.
Which doesn't of course change the fact that some men have that sort of experience: being married to a partner with no discernible sex drive. Women too find themselves in the same predicament, as you well know. The question is, I guess, why do we pick partners like that?
The question is NOT: "Why are men so immature and unable to deal with their feelings," or whatever other derogatory spin you wish to put on it.
Men are a bit less introspective than women, perhaps, more focused on things - making things, doing things, working with things - and less focused on micro-analyzing "feelings" . That's a genetic thing; we're hard-wired that way.

[WildChild]

What I don't at all agree with is your generalization a few posts back about men standing around making fun of women: I can't say I've heard that a lot among the men of my acquaintance - we don't feel the sort of antagonism toward women that would lead to making jokes like that.
Which doesn't of course change the fact that some men have that sort of experience: being married to a partner with no discernible sex drive. Women too find themselves in the same predicament, as you well know. The question is, I guess, why do we pick partners like that?
The question is NOT: "Why are men so immature and unable to deal with their feelings," or whatever other derogatory spin you wish to put on it.
Men are a bit less introspective than women, perhaps, more focused on things - making things, doing things, working with things - and less focused on micro-analyzing "feelings" . That's a genetic thing; we're hard-wired that way.

I have to agree with you. Why do we chose partners who: disrespect us? don't want sex with us? prefer masterbation? have no sex drive? won't communicate? abuse us? and on and on.

I should have qualified my statement to read that Some men have these issues. Unfortunately I seem to be very good at finding them and they seem to pretty good at presenting themselves one way and then changing to be another altogether.

I have had the experience of men making nasty remarks about women or cracking "jokes" about them repeatedly. Making as aside, saying, "except you, you're different" doesn't make it ok.

[Texasred]

...Unfortunately I seem to be very good at finding them and they seem to pretty good at presenting themselves one way and then changing to be another altogether.

That sort of misrepresentation isn't unique to men, now is it?

I have had the experience of men making nasty remarks about women or cracking "jokes" about them repeatedly. Making as aside, saying, "except you, you're different" doesn't make it ok.

And this isn't really any different from the "joke lists" folks will circulate to every person on their email lists, men and women alike, disparaging everything about men. I do seem to see a lot of these, but then, maybe that's saying more about the people I know...