[DreamP346]

Let me jump into this discussion and provide some scientific facts I learned from my human sexuality class.

Although there isn't a lot of research done on sexuality, there are some. There was a "stinky shirt" study that observed which shirts (worn by men for several days with not deodrant/cologne) women were attracted to. The men and women did not see each other at all. it was done purely on scent. Women found shirts of men whom they were more genetically suited for (meaning their genetic makeup wasn't too similar where they are likely to produce children with genetic disorders). So there is a subconscious selection towards the better genetic partner. this is animal insticts at its pureness.

However, we have to remember that humans tend to defy animal instincts with the use to pharmacueticals, social constructs, religion and cultural factors. therefore there is truth in both sides of the arguement.

I also wanted to clarify about the novalty factor. Women are more likely to orgasm for a long term parnter than a one night stand. Now these are pure numbers. It could be because the long term partner know's her body better, could be he is a better genetic parnter (that is why the relationship has lasted), etc. We don't know the reason. I want to point out that novalty does not necessarily mean more orgasms.

[Palerider]

Thanks for your input! Have you read Baker's book, "Sperm Wars"? You can read most of it for free on Scribd.

I just know what I've experienced the last couple of weeks. Whenever we do the fantasy thing, it's much different. When we're having sex and I'm fantasizing that it's another man's penis thrusting into me (I usually have a particular man in mind), I get more excited and I have more (and better) orgasms. Is that a novelty thing? Maybe. I don't know.

[Guest]

If u r comfortible with it?

[InLove19]

i would say if it is really something you guys really are thinking about, then talk about doing it, and look into swingers clubs. if it stays just a roleplay in the bedroom cool if not cool. but you guys really should talk about it.

[Guest]

i would say if it is really something you guys really are thinking about, then talk about doing it, and look into swingers clubs. if it stays just a roleplay in the bedroom cool if not cool. but you guys really should talk about it.

That can be dangerous.. Swingers club..
We r talking possible sex disease. Hi and plezd to meet u. inlove Interesting user name.. Btw
:-)

[Harmony]

Re the cuckold fantasy there is a good Ibook called, 'sloppy seconds' for about a dollar, which contains a very explicit and erotic short story about cuckolding.

If you (understandably) don't want to jump into introducing another man into your sex life a good role playing idea may be to have him wait outside the bedroom door while you masturbate noisily inside then let him come in once you're ready and or have climaxed. Leave the window open and as part of the role play tell him the 'other' man has just climbed out of it. Then squirt loads of water based lube into yourself and tell him it's the other guy's seaman ;-) Then tell him he's 'allowed' to get stuck in and have his seconds... Talking to him and telling him how about the imaginary sex with the other man should help him get off too, you could even create a fictional character like an author!

[Harmony]

Google search 'the sperm wars PDF' and it should be available free.

[Palerider]

Re the cuckold fantasy there is a good Ibook called, 'sloppy seconds' for about a dollar, which contains a very explicit and erotic short story about cuckolding.

If you (understandably) don't want to jump into introducing another man into your sex life a good role playing idea may be to have him wait outside the bedroom door while you masturbate noisily inside then let him come in once you're ready and or have climaxed. Leave the window open and as part of the role play tell him the 'other' man has just climbed out of it. Then squirt loads of water based lube into yourself and tell him it's the other guy's seaman ;-) Then tell him he's 'allowed' to get stuck in and have his seconds... Talking to him and telling him how about the imaginary sex with the other man should help him get off too, you could even create a fictional character like an author!

That sounds like an excellent idea! Thanks!

Sounds like you've had experience doing this.

I haven't been back to this thread in quite awhile, so I thought I would give an update. The fantasy is working out quite well. I've been thinking about other men while we're having sex and I've orgasmed much, much more when I do...and I don't orgasm during intercourse with my husband very often.

[Palerider]

I just wanted to update everyone regarding this issue...

My husband is still into this fantasy...and so am I. During sex, he describes in detail what another man is doing to me sexually. I enjoy it quite a bit. Sometimes he'll rub my clit while talking about a fictional scenario involving me and another guy. It really gets us hott and my orgasms are a lot better.

What really gets him going too is when I tell him that I think about other men when I masturbate. And I'm not lying to him. He works long hours during the day, so I'm at home with the kids. When I take a bath, I usually fantasize about getting ************ by another man.

Things are very healthy right now. Everything has remained in the fantasy realm, but I wonder if he will ever ask me to do it in real life? I'm not afraid of fulfilling this fantasy for him. In fact, I hope he'll ask! I would never cheat on him and he does turn me on...but I think about other men quite a bit.

The other thing is that we're trying to conceive right now. If we did go through and find another man to have sex with me, he would have to wear a condom. But this wouldn't do because he's specifically turned on by the idea of another man cumming inside me...and even impregnating me. That turns me on too.

One of my fantasies involves my husband cumming inside me and then another man doing the same--inseminating me at the same time and seeing which of them would father my child. I have no idea why, but it get turned on by the whole "sperm wars" thing.

[Palerider]

One thing I've noticed too...

When I fantasize about another man cumming inside me, I usually have those fantasies during my fertile period.