[somerandomguy]

Is appearance the most important thing for your? (honestly asking). I asked if you were settling, and you mention the appearance of the women you date.

I have a friend who dated based on appearance - and who went through a series of miserable relationships with women who were not a good match for him, or some who were outright nut-cases .

As you get older would you still want to date young beautiful women?

Well that is the thing. As women get older/more experienced they tend to look for a more mature relationship. At this point they fall in the "love-the-man-accept-the-penis"-category. Before this however, are they still not even remotely interested in a larger penis (mind you, when I say larger I mean as large as the woman can comfortably handle)? Are you telling me that even for a one-night-stand, women would pick the nicer, smaller guy over the somewhat arrogant, bigger one? Even though they are only out for sex?

[rcoreyus]

Is appearance the most important thing for your? (honestly asking). I asked if you were settling, and you mention the appearance of the women you date.

I have a friend who dated based on appearance - and who went through a series of miserable relationships with women who were not a good match for him, or some who were outright nut-cases .

As you get older would you still want to date young beautiful women?

I don't even know how to answer this without sounding shallow. Particularly since very few women I've dated were stunning. 80% have been homelier.



There is a level that cultural norms have shaped certain preferences between people.

With that said, I would honestly like to know how many women would prefer a 4" penis over a 7" penis, from whatever culture they are from.

If you can show me any amount larger than 5% you might have an argument.

[Stillness]

With that said, I would honestly like to know how many women would prefer a 4" penis over a 7" penis, from whatever culture they are from.

Would you prefer a 4" vagina over a 7" vagina? How much does it matter to you?

[Obelisk]

I may regret my decision to get involved in this discussion.....

I'm a 41 yr old woman and I've not slept with a lot of men, but a few-less than 10. They are all about the average size, I suppose. I'm estimating 6-7" and one was obviously wider to me-maybe closer to 8", I don't remember for sure. In looking back, it isn't the bigger guy I tend to fantasize about, but actually a smaller, curved one who happened to be attached to a less experienced man even...who was simply more caring, attentive and I think he truly loved me. I think that's where my satisfaction came from.

And I cannot honestly say that I would prefer that bigger one over the smaller one...maybe the smaller guy was harder or it was simply the love we felt, but I was much more satisfied...
Bottom line for me is, sex is a mental exercise...the penis matters less to me.
So there, for what it's worth.

Hmm, thank you for your honest opinion. I believe you.

[atskitty2]

I may regret my decision to get involved in this discussion.....

I'm a 41 yr old woman and I've not slept with a lot of men, but a few-less than 10. They are all about the average size, I suppose. I'm estimating 6-7" and one was obviously wider to me-maybe closer to 8", I don't remember for sure. In looking back, it isn't the bigger guy I tend to fantasize about, but actually a smaller, curved one who happened to be attached to a less experienced man even...who was simply more caring, attentive and I think he truly loved me. I think that's where my satisfaction came from.

And I cannot honestly say that I would prefer that bigger one over the smaller one...maybe the smaller guy was harder or it was simply the love we felt, but I was much more satisfied...
Bottom line for me is, sex is a mental exercise...the penis matters less to me.
So there, for what it's worth.

[Obelisk]

Do you feel like you are settling for the women you date?

I don't even know how to answer this without sounding shallow. Particularly since very few women I've dated were stunning. 80% have been homelier.

Adult humans don't have instincts. This is the problem with evolutionary psychology. It treats us just like any of the other animals. We're not. Culture, individual preference, and background play a major role. It's why some people like really big butts, others like them small, and others prefer them in between. The same goes for any physical feature. Bigger does not equal better.

There is a level that cultural norms have shaped certain preferences between people.

With that said, I would honestly like to know how many women would prefer a 4" penis over a 7" penis, from whatever culture they are from.

If you can show me any amount larger than 5% you might have an argument.

[Stillness]

Adult humans don't have instincts. This is the problem with evolutionary psychology. It treats us just like any of the other animals. We're not. Culture, individual preference, and background play a major role. It's why some people like really big butts, others like them small, and others prefer them in between. The same goes for any physical feature. Bigger does not equal better.

[rcoreyus]

Do you feel like you are settling for the women you date?

[Obelisk]

That would be my sister and every time she finds that the guy she upgraded to has just as many problems as the one she left. She has yet to have a happy relationship for any real length of time and she's dated practically every guy in highschool including cheating on her bf for the foreign exchange student, every guy in her college program (she was going to marry one and cancelled last minute), and every unmarried guy at her work. I gave up keeping up with who was her bf at any given time. I'm not sure she'll ever accomplish a good relationship and have the kids she wants. Of course she's a chemical engineer making 6 digits 2 years out of college so she can be a single mom and just pay someone to look after them all day.

Well forgive me for saying this, but how is this situation the exception rather than the norm? It's been the norm for me, and I want to find a woman who doesn't feel like she's settling for me.

[kira]

It make you think that a woman who is with you has settled, and might at any time find someone higher on this "ladder".

That would be my sister and every time she finds that the guy she upgraded to has just as many problems as the one she left. She has yet to have a happy relationship for any real length of time and she's dated practically every guy in highschool including cheating on her bf for the foreign exchange student, every guy in her college program (she was going to marry one and cancelled last minute), and every unmarried guy at her work. I gave up keeping up with who was her bf at any given time. I'm not sure she'll ever accomplish a good relationship and have the kids she wants. Of course she's a chemical engineer making 6 digits 2 years out of college so she can be a single mom and just pay someone to look after them all day.