[gardngrl]

It is good to hear of someone else that has these thoughts. This has been happening to me since November. I have actually had to give my husband a breaks. This happens in phases but it has been like every once in a while we will have a week where I’m only want sex about 3 times. (which was the norm before November) I actually made an appointment with my doctor. My hope is that this is my 30- something peak. I have my appointment in March.

[WildChild]

Women and men have heat cycles which explains some of this. I have found that given a high enough level of frustration without any real release or affection for long enough, I lose interest. It's difficult, it's painful emotionally and physically but eventually I shut down and essentially go emotionally numb. While that takes care of the problem of unfullfilled desire and need, it tends to make me more emotionally flat line and less fun. The problem with this situation is that I am then unlikely to be able to renew any interest in the man who shut me down by shutting me out. In a marriage or LTR this pretty much means its finished.

[cassie66]

im also the same way shame my hubby doesnt feel the same

[adel]

سعودي saudi arbic

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[mymirrose]

I was never able to ask the question "Is there something wrong with me" quite so well? I am so glad it isn't just me who feels this way.

[madetolove]

You ladies husband are Blessed!

Wow...reading the articles makes me kinda envy you ladies husband where you ladies have high sex drive.

As for me, I barely make love with my wife more than 2 times a year, and it would be like an obligation from her than pure enjoyment of 2 person (husband and wife) relationship.

This year alone we only had once, but can't really consider making love as she doesn't has the "mood" to do so, and where we stopped just after I "went in her".

Well, I have been together with my wife for nearly 8 years. I wouldn't deny that she is a very good faithful woman, and I love her a lot and she loves me deeply too.

Perhaps this sexual issue between me and her is due to I did not make any romantic moves, but try as I may, it doesn't seems to work. She seems to have some reasons for me to get "intimate" with her.

I love to cuddle her from the back at times when she is watching tv. It is pretty upsetting sometimes when she would told not to get too close to her when she is watching tv.

I find that it is pretty strange as some women I know would love their husband to cuddle more, to hug them more, and make love with them, but my wife doesn't seems to be so.

Instead of having sex, it seems my wife would tell me that "can we just hug?".

My wife doesn't seems to enjoy "french kissing" too, which I would crave to have it with her. Perhaps I'm not as a good kisser, but even if it is true, can't we work it out together?

Before we were married, we still have some intimacy, but not so much on making love too, as she had mentioned she love to make love too but after marriage and I respect her for that. But after we were married, she doesn't seems to have any changes.

I wonder if it is her low sex drive or would it be because I did not have much success in my career. I had business plans and business projects which I'm working on which are not bearing much fruits for the moment, but has great future potential (as I saw some results).

I really wonder if I'm the problem or my wife.

It seems hard for me to talk about this issue to her as she may considers if 2 person together really need to have sex?

It seems having sex is the best with your love ones, where spiritually, emotionally, and physically both can be connected in an amazing ways and try "new interesting" things together.

It seems I'm losing out in this part and I'm kinda give up on this issue. It seems that no matter how hard I try it is pointless as it takes both hands to clap. Where there's a synergy flow it is less effort and more effective, but when it is a one sided thing, it seems that the results takes longer time or never happen.

I tried to to satisfy my sex drive by fantasizing my wife and musterbate. But it seems that the thoughts of fantasizing her seems to be fading and where now I'm turning to nude women pictures or videos and musterbate. It seems to be a Phenomenon when the more I see the lady enjoying herself, the more I enjoyed and am happy.

I really do not know what to do and I'm afraid I may be unfaithful or might affect our marriage which leads to divorce which is what I do not want. It is not worth to have marriage divorced and years of relationship ended because of sex. Deep down I know I love my wife and she loves me deeply too. Deep down I know I do not want any other woman other than my wife. If I were to have sex with any other woman, I would say it is only for Sex and not love. But to have sex with my wife, it is truly making love.

Am I desperate of her or what, I do not know.

I really love to get close with her but seems it is tough.

You ladies with high sex drive are amazing, I wish my wife is so.

It would be so nice to have like... In the day, go out and go shopping or travel together, in the night, make love together and explore new things together.

And also, I wouldn't mind and would love to lick her private part but it seems that she doesn't like as she may be conscious of herself..etc? I have read articles where some women would love their husband to lick her private part, but their husband doesn't like.

I love to fondle her breast but she doesn't like it as she may say, "is it my breast that you like?". I would then tell her that, "it is your breast that I touch and not others. If I don't touch and cherish yours, who's shall I touch? It is better for me to touch and enjoy hers than any other women" After said that, then she is starting to get used to it. Perhaps I'm too direct and it is ruining things, but it seems strange also as I have ex-girlfriend (before I met my wife) who loves me to fondle her breast.

This seems to be wierd... Sigh*

What I would say about you ladies with high sex drive are indeed special good woman for your man. They are Blessed to have you.

If you ladies out there have good suggestion or advice for my situation, I would deeply appreciate if you can offer some help to me. Thanks.



Sexually Deprived man

[WildChild]

Ya know the Powers that Be, whatever we define them as, must have a perverse sense of humor! I like to believe that there are millions of people who are in happy, well suited relationships, who simply feel no need to talk about it. AH, but the rest of us must have a lot to learn yet! I'm alternating between frustration and a bemused growing awareness that the Discordians may be right!

[mymirrose]

WC, I try not to think "everyone" out there but me has a relatively good sex life, cause then I get jealous of them, lol. Goodtolove, I am in the same boat, so to speak, but I am the woman who gets the brush off from her bf. I am to the point where I really don't even try anymore, but I commend you for trying. Have you sat down and talked to her about how you feel? Ask her how she feels? I am the last person to give advise, but I think you should ask her how she feels and work on it from there. There may be something in her past or something that has made her the way she is now, that you can deal with and help her through. Just a suggestion.

[mymirrose]

Sorry, Madetolove, I got your name wrong!

[madetolove]

Ya know the Powers that Be, whatever we define them as, must have a perverse sense of humor! I like to believe that there are millions of people who are in happy, well suited relationships, who simply feel no need to talk about it. AH, but the rest of us must have a lot to learn yet! I'm alternating between frustration and a bemused growing awareness that the Discordians may be right!

Indeed it seems to be a joke and I feel likewise.

*sigh* I'm sobbing deep down in my heart now as I really deeply love my wife and would want to be faithful and love her as long as we live together.

Truly do 2 persons being together really have to have sex?

I'm trying to work on my high sex drive problem, and prayerfully I'm able to get through with it and to love and be faithful to my wife.

However, if anyone has any suggestion that could help to improve this sex drive difference, I would deeply appreciate your advice.