[CHANDLERS WISH]

That's so not fair JG. lol.

Okay, try this,


What did your past relationships say, how did they re-act, when did you tell them?

Assuming you have enjoyed this "Style" for a few of those 44 young years of yours.

I think it's like seeing a guy with black tights on, showing his um,, then he puts holes in his bum on those tights, and tops it off with a bright pink Lycra tank top and jewelery and perhaps lipstick or not.

Now, personally, I am assuming that that person, is "screaming GAY"... but maybe not, it may simply be " I am me, bad luck".. Fair call. Be whom you want to be, I can't see that as being wrong at all.

You are not talking about that I understand, well you weren't, you were talking about you in knickers a "kinky" side. Not what you have now bought to the table.

Now you are talking about dresses, and going to the shop in same, I assume no wigs. But, see how "we, any Human," not necessarily Women may percieve?

I think that the ladies here "SAW" exactly the picture you just created in their typical, normal for a Woman "intuitive" "side of their nature" instead of the simple nickers, kinky side you initially conveyed...They saw deeper.

So....I am sorry to ask this and I don't think you will take offense, after all you are asking for suggestions but to get to the answer, let me ask you, Are you Gay? Bi-Sexual? Wish you were a Woman? Sorry, but your adding all the little things that usually tend to be one of those three.

However, there is one more side, is it purely and simply that you are as straight as the door when closed, but like to be "open" and envious of all the wonderful things we get to wear that you don't. joking but it could be. Yes i think women, we are lucky, pertaining to what we can wear, stockings, heels, however, what is it? The feeling against your skin, the frillies, florals, or simple cross dressing and straight as that door.

If you don't wish to answer, don't, we don't know you remember, so it doesn't matter, here you can basically say what you feel, within reason and I am not trying to offend, rather understand.


You need a woman who absolutely loves "kinkiness" and thinks that it is wicked to see a Man be him, however, he is him and love him for him. That is the bottom line, she has to love you for you... Hense I think replies "WAIT" but then replies of " Give her Hints" How else to you establish if she may or may not accept?

We may be "kinky" some of us, as Women go, but there is a line to draw for a lot of us, you know like attracts like, if we no like, we no like.

How to tell her?

Think there were some reasonable answers there but more to the point, you need to find her, that lady, amongst LIKE ... Not try to date Women whom can't see beyond Kinky and see her man dressed in that fashion and walk to shops, in her neighbourhood...

There is nothing wrong with what you want, you are you and so you should be you just can't expect every woman or the majority to see it your way...

We are all so different.

Not a category of WOMEN, rather each to their own on WHAT THEY want or don't within a relationship...

Agree on the Boston Strangler bit though.

CW

[millicent]

What's not fair? Ms Moderator.

My last long term partner wasn't so keen, as I have said. She ended up getting overly paranoid about her knicker drawer. We parted not due to my kinkiness, sadly it was rather that after 10 years we kind of got tired of one another.

I'm 45 actually, not 44, I lied, that was my feminine side speaking... lol.. Age and all that.
Also, I'm not Gay, never have been. I have been approached by men over the years, but I don't really bend that way.

You asked if I might be Gay, Bi-Sexual or wish to be a woman.. Well I guess I do fantasize about being a woman and having a female partner. I'm not a woman and never will be a woman in this lifetime so thats that. I am envious of all the wonderful things you women get to wear though. Yes I do like the feeling of a silk chemise against my skin, wearing pretty frilly knickers is fun and exciting.. My doctor doesn't say a word when she puts a stethoscope to me and I'm stood in a teddy, she takes it in her stride.
Although I do have a small collection of dresses, I very rarely wear them.
I have thought though, about advertising my services as a male maid dressed to please, with a whole host of costumes...lol..lol.. That would be fun.
Am I touching on exhibitionism! Oh No..I never really thought about that side of the equation.

I did have a female friend who was quite into my "kinky" dress sense, she was very keen on me, I liked her and we seemed to click, but I just didn't fancy her sexually. She couldn't handle just friendship and basically stalked me to death, I had to move houses in the end.

Although my kinky side doesn't have to be all consuming, it is there.
It is unfortunately limiting my sexual partners, maybe I should just hide it, keep my lingerie trunk locked [the drawers are full.. have filled a big trunk and more!].
I like to be honest and open with my life, and would hope a partner would be the same with me. Life is too short to be hung up on such trivia. What happened to lie back and think of England?..lol.. Its a joke!
I'm well and truly your new man, open, caring, attentive, your pleasure is my pleasure, and I do what I'm told.
A little more for you to dwell on Ms Moderator..lol

But honestly, I'm not much different from the next man or woman.

JG AKA Mr Millicent x

[millicent]

Sorry I didn't mean to say "dwell on" I meant to say "Ponder Over"
Thanks

[CHANDLERS WISH]

What's not fair? Ms Moderator.

lol, mmm... why is it that everyone else says CW?

Fact:- My questions opened you up to answer more and provide more information to your question...

Fact:- The amount of Posts I have done doesn't make me a Moderator, rather, a person to talk to

My last long term partner wasn't so keen, as I have said. She ended up getting overly paranoid about her knicker drawer. We parted not due to my kinkiness, sadly it was rather that after 10 years we kind of got tired of one another.

Okay so I missed that, did others? I can't even recall that and for that I am sorry, as I am known to not only READ but Read into what you , a threader may need as some form of "Opinions"... Okay so, you are no different than the next person, than me... If it doesn't work it doesn't work... Try, try, try again if you don't succeed, move on.


I'm 45 actually, not 44, I lied, that was my feminine side speaking... lol.. Age and all that.

Why lie? haha, it's okay I always say the next year up except for now, I stick way to the year. AGE IS NOTHING, remember that, it is how you feel, inside. I am actually 35 ask anyone here....


Also, I'm not Gay, never have been. I have been approached by men over the years, but I don't really bend that way.

So men don't attract you check.

You asked if I might be Gay, Bi-Sexual or wish to be a woman.. Well I guess I do fantasize about being a woman and having a female partner.

Way not unusual, but see how it gives more insight? So if you were a Woman, you would be Bi... You wished you were born a female, true? Nothing to be ashamed about there, but points to my comments, find someone that "matches" we Women are not all the same, you are talking to Women that are, in a commited relationship, partiually Bi-sexual, or Guys that are Normal and just hungry for sex....

I'm not a woman and never will be a woman in this lifetime so thats that.

Can't change who we are and why would you want to? Can't be born again as we want, that's life. So yes, that's that.


I am envious of all the wonderful things you women get to wear though.

If you wish to be a Woman, or wanted to be off course, why would you not want to put lipstick on, wear high heels, stockings, sexy underwear best part of being a WOMAN, very sexy what can a man bring? His size? six pack ? Usually none of that, rather Charisma, Cool, Confidence the rest fits in.

Yes I do like the feeling of a silk chemise against my skin, wearing pretty frilly knickers is fun and exciting.. My doctor doesn't say a word when she puts a stethoscope to me and I'm stood in a teddy, she takes it in her stride.

I thought that you might as to why you like wearing it... It is nice, soft, sexy, and I can see why it is exciting to you.... And, great Doctor don't change her, she is Professional.


Although I do have a small collection of dresses, I very rarely wear them.

Then Cross dressing is not your fantasy.


I have thought though, about advertising my services as a male maid dressed to please, with a whole host of costumes...lol..lol.. That would be fun.

And, a good ,living and a way you may meet the type of Women you desire, not a bad thing to think about.


Am I touching on exhibitionism! Oh No..I never really thought about that side of the equation.

Perhaps you are, perhaps it's just whom you are and no offense, accept whom you are, as i said, don't expect US WOMEN to see a sexy side of THE MAN we want, you have a believe as you have agreed to of WANTING really to have been born a WOMAN, can you not therefore see the answers you are getting as not them? Not the Woman of This particular Forum but a Fetish Forum perfect, perhaps that is where you need to go from here.

I did have a female friend who was quite into my "kinky" dress sense, she was very keen on me, I liked her and we seemed to click, but I just didn't fancy her sexually. She couldn't handle just friendship and basically stalked me to death, I had to move houses in the end.


Attraction attracts attraction.. You weren't.. She was, welcome to the real world.. Regardless of whom you are and what you are looking for.

Although my kinky side doesn't have to be all consuming, it is there.

It is unfortunately limiting my sexual partners, maybe I should just hide it, keep my lingerie trunk locked [the drawers are full.. have filled a big trunk and more!].

God no, then you will attract the wrong partners, concentrate on where to look for that partner, it's way not here hey? Nor a normal dating site.

Never hide who you are what you want? What for?


I like to be honest and open with my life, and would hope a partner would be the same with me. Life is too short to be hung up on such trivia. What happened to lie back and think of England?..lol.. Its a joke!

Yeah English Man fair call, haha, said you had a sense of humor along time ago.


I'm well and truly your new man, open, caring, attentive, your pleasure is my pleasure, and I do what I'm told.

WTF? Little can I say That? lol, see Mods are just Mods, Admin are "the boss" now, you will suck her toes, massage her back, surcum to her wims, give her what for, a Woman's expectation and hope of a man, great, but she HAS TO BE ATTRACTED to whom you are, as I said, try fetish internet sites.


A little more for you to dwell on Ms Moderator..lol

CW, (not Mod) doesn't dwell, she speaks, ask anyone.


But honestly, I'm not much different from the next man or woman.

No you are not, you want what everyone wants, Happy Ever After, with acceptance.


JG AKA Mr Millicent x

Call me Mod again and I will kill you, lol, JG, Millicent,

[millicent]

Thanks for your thoughts Ms CW.
I'm not too sure about fetish internet sites, aren't those places often frequented by people with "Disturbing" practices?
I kind of like it here..
I would like to find a kind, loving partner, but that isn't why I came here.
To learn, gain skills in good practice etc...
What you say about the admin gals sound kind of fun an interesting though.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

OH MY GOD!

YOU'RE FROM LEWES!

hahaha.

I might even know you.

teehee

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Thanks for your thoughts Ms CW.
I'm not too sure about fetish internet sites, aren't those places often frequented by people with "Disturbing" practices?
I kind of like it here..
I would like to find a kind, loving partner, but that isn't why I came here.
To learn, gain skills in good practice etc...
What you say about the admin gals sound kind of fun an interesting though.

Anon is from England not sure what he meant' but I get the drift.

Why? it is a fetish, why deny that? You wanted and wished to have been a female?

Who said it was "disturbing? " Did I not say be whom you are but to find what you want means find it in the right place?

GLad you like it here, we all do... I understand what you are "really saying" you feel fetishes are deviate feelings but you want SOUL..

I am only feeling that all people have SOUL but what you want is more than that, it is different, like it or lump it, it is.

I am not talking SM - bondage, kill her .... like you feel, I am saying find a SOUL whom likes a border line of difference, will that be here? I don't think so.

Admin? lol...so you like a BOSS... Okay... that also is a controlling thing, something "different" mind you, I like a MAN whom is a MAN and can Control me in the Bedroom but let me be me in all other aspects.

CW

[millicent]

OH MY GOD!

YOU'RE FROM LEWES!

hahaha.

I might even know you.

teehee

I live in the block next to you Anon!
Ho Ho, Ho Ho, Ho Ho.

[millicent]

Ms CW,
Quote: "I like a MAN whom is a MAN and can Control me in the Bedroom but let me be me in all other aspects".

Me, I'm a Tiger when I get going! Grrrrrrr

But seriously, I could read a lot into that short sentence of yours. It would appear you like to be in control really, let the man off the leash at your choosing and attentive to your space when you require. I think that is quite fair and normal, others might say, Its having your cake an eating it.
I'd much prefer a female partner who can articulate her opinions and wishes than not.
Please don't take offense, cos no offense was intended. Its just the way us kinky white English boys jabber jabber.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Yeah, women always like to be in control, they are the ones in the position of power, when they want a little rough treatment, as it is they that have the power of veto and will get quite angry when they feel like their soverignty is invaded.

However, since that sucks, I seem to have a habit of pushing that boundry, and removing that element of control from them... Though obviously you have to be careful as it could land you in jail, ahah. I think I just like a challenge, and I don't like authority. It's never good for one person to hold all the power.