Everything You Want To Know About Cock And Ball Torture (CBT)

Why Do Men Like Cock And Ball Torture?

Why men like cock and ball torture depends on the man, with everyone having different preferences and proclivities for liking it.

However, there are some common reasons that many men may be able to relate to for enjoying cock and ball torture:

• They identify as a masochist and enjoy the pain, whether it’s physical or emotional
• Some men find it erotic and sexually arousing to engage in CBT. For some, it may rise to the level of a fetish, where they need it in order to feel aroused or to climax
• They love the control their partner has over them while engaged in cock and ball torture
• There are some men who may do it because it pleases their partner
• They’re able to explore other kinks as part of the cock and ball torture experience

According to sex educator Nina Nguyen, “CBT can be a deeply erotic and satisfying experience [for many men]. There are a number of reasons why men may enjoy CBT. For some, the physical sensations of CBT can be intensely pleasurable. The release of endorphins during CBT can lead to a natural high.”

“For some men, CBT can be a way to explore their submissive side,” continues Nguyen. “Additionally, many men find that CBT helps them to achieve longer-lasting and more intense orgasms. For these men, the benefits of CBT outweigh any potential discomfort.”

While there are no specific studies on cock and ball torture, one study looked at sadism and masochism amongst kinky people. 19% of men indicated a desire for masochism (pleasure from feeling pain).

While there’s no way to know exactly what kind of pain those men enjoyed, it points to the very real phenomenon that some men are masochists.

For non-kinky people, the first question you might ask yourself is, “Why would anyone want to feel pain or find it pleasurable?”

Studies have asked this question, too.

Most kinky people, about 78%, report their interests in masochism are part of who they are and were developed throughout their life.

Liking pain doesn’t necessarily stem from childhood trauma or the result of mental illness.

Until the 2013 version of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) de-pathologized consensual BDSM, this was the prevailing belief – one that continues to linger.

What Does Cock And Ball Torture Feel Like?

Everyone will have a different experience with cock and ball torture, not just on how they do it but what it feels like.

One kinky man, known as @becoming_bear on Twitter, explained it to me like this:

“What is particular about that is what I enjoy and crave the most I can best describe as intimate pain and suffering. Not the distant cruelty of neglect, or pain inflicted at a distance. I like my pain and suffering to be up close and personal, offering myself up.

The idea of being cozily cuddled by a gleeful Goddess [his dominant partner], a flash of sadistic pleasure in her eyes as she torments and teases me and indulges her whims is the stuff of ultimate squirminess. The intimacy of my writhing in delicious agony as she grips my balls, all the while knowing my suffering is turning her on and getting her off, is all the yum. 

Much of that can be accomplished without toys, or with a bare minimum. Squeezing and slaps on their own do wonder.”

In cock and ball torture, there are two feelings you can expect to have: the physical feeling of whatever is done to your penis and testicles and how it makes you feel as it’s happening.

Even with the word “torture” in the name, people on the receiving end of CBT should only do what they consent to.

And how you feel as you’re engaged in your kinky fun should only be something pleasurable or worth the effort and pain to you.

Is Cock And Ball Torture Safe?

All forms of BDSM come with inherent risks.

Even with all the preparation in the world, things can still go wrong.

Cock and ball torture safety is extremely important because damage to the penis and testicles is a very real, very big risk if you’re not careful.

That being said, CBT can be done safely, as long as you understand what can go wrong.

• Any pain that stops feeling pleasurable is a sign of going too far. Stop immediately.
• Blood flow to the penis is important, so pay attention to signs of reduced circulation, such as numbness or tingling. Make sure you know how to remove or undo any device squeezing the dick or balls as fast as possible.
• While there are no bones in the penis, a “broken penis” is a possibility if it’s yanked or jolted too hard.
• Testicles can be crushed or ruptured and are much more delicate than the penis, though it takes 110 pounds of force to do so. When applying pressure, stretching, squeezing, or “crushing” the balls, go gently and only increase pressure or pain based on your tolerance level.
• When in doubt, go to the ER or see your doctor. It’s better to be temporarily embarrassed explaining why your penis looks like it does rather than let an infection set in or allow a temporary injury to become a permanent problem.

How Do I Talk To My Partner About Cock And Ball Torture?

Conversations about kinks can be fraught, especially when it involves causing pain to a partner.

The fear of judgment is real.

If this is a partner you’ve been vulnerable with in the past or you’ve experimented sexually with before, this may be easier than you imagine.

Here are a few suggestions to make the conversation about bringing cock and ball torture into the bedroom a bit easier:

• Let them know you want to talk about something and ask to set a time when you’re both free from distraction – from work, kids, whatever
• Ask if they’ve ever heard of cock and ball torture or a specific type of kinky play you want to try that will be part of CBT
• Let them know you enjoy the sex or kink life you have with them (assuming that’s true) and you’d like to explore new desires with them
• Give them a chance to ask questions and give them plenty of time and space to think about it
• Share any sites, books, podcasts, or videos that have helped you learn about cock and ball torture so they can become better informed
• Reassure them that you can take things slowly
• Be real about potential risks while also discussing how to play safely.
• You can shop for cock and ball torture toys or gear together, too, which can build excitement for future kinky fun

If, and only if, they’re open to the idea, then you can begin to discuss what you’ll do and when.

Dr. Susan Milstein, a human sexuality health educator on our medical review board, noted, “This may take more than one conversation.”

“If your partner has never thought of this before and seems hesitant, tell them it’s okay to revisit this another time. They shouldn’t have to make a decision immediately,” she advised.

Never pressure a partner into any kinky play before they’re ready.

For Beginners

Anyone new to cock and ball play needs to start slow and small.

Even if you’re drooling (and cumming) over the idea of having your dick smashed flat, that’s not where you start.

Try some of these ideas as a beginner to cock and ball torture:

• Think about what you’re curious about and start lighter and slower than you think you should
• Use hands for gripping, squeezing, pulling, or twisting instead of buying dick-smashing toys
• Instead of having a stiletto pressing down on your nuts, start with a finger or hand while applying light pleasure. Increase the pressure slowly, until you find the point where “good pain” becomes unwanted pain
• If you want to experience impact play on your dick, start with light taps and smacks before pulling out paddles and floggers. Even when you do introduce toys, start with light hits before getting into heavy play
• Want clamps and clips on your junk? Have a partner pinch with their fingers first
• Orgasm denial and edging can be a form of torture for some penises and the only pain involved is a rock-hard erection you can’t do anything about
• Before you drop hot wax directly on your penis, try it on a less sensitive part of the body first to make sure you actually enjoy that sensation

As a beginner, there are a few forms of dick and ball torture that you may be safest using toys and gear with, especially electro play and urethral sounding.

Electrostimulation toys will have low settings to try first.

Urethral sounding can be done with fingers but if both partners are new to it, it may be better to choose a product specifically made for it.

Keep in constant communication with your partner.

The top or dominant partner should be constantly checking in, especially with new activities.

Having a safeword is always a good idea, but if there’s ever any question from the top about whether to continue or not, stop until you’re sure.

Additionally, Dr. Milstein, the human sexuality health educator we spoke with earlier, advised, “Have different words — not just one.”

“One word may mean ‘stop!’ while another may mean ‘slow down.’ Some people use colors for this, yellow for slow and red for stop,” she explained.

Whatever you try, begin with light sensations before slowly increasing the stimulation.

With each increase, check in with each other before you continue.

If something feels bad, off, or just not quite right, stop completely or go back to the previous level of sensation and stimulation.

Advanced Methods

Everything stated above still applies even when you’re an expert cock and ball torturer or torturee.

But once you have more experience and know more about what you enjoy (and don’t), you can start to explore more extreme cock and ball torture.

Now it may be time to get into gear or simply do more of what you’ve been fantasizing about.

• Ball-busting typically involves kicking or kneeing someone in the nuts
• Ball stretching involves pulling the testicles away from the body – this can be done gently and slowly or with force. You can use toys or your hands.
• Ball-crushing sounds like what it is. In the beginning, you might do this with hands or feet but as you advance, there are all kinds of toys that will do the job with more pressure and pain
• Chastity cages may be worn for a short time as a beginner but for longer durations as you advance. You may also look for a cage with spikes, teeth, or other sharp edges on the inside.
• Orgasm denial and edging may begin with short durations but as you advance, some people may go days, weeks, or even months without an orgasm.

An important thing to remember with advanced or extreme ball torture or dick torture is that you should start slowly with any new technique.

Even if your balls have been slapped around for years, once you try a new method – wax, electricity, sounding, new toys, etc. – approach it as a beginner.

Most importantly, no matter how long you’ve been practicing CBT, the basics of clear communication and consent remain a necessity.

Beginner-Friendly, Affordable Cock & Ball Torture Toys

If you’re looking to try out cock and ball torture for the first time – or for some more affordable options – I’ve put together a list from Lovehoney’s line of cock and ball torture toys*.

Master Series Silicone Urethral Sound Set

$34.99

Bottom Line: The Master Series Silicone Urethral Sound Set is perfect for beginners thanks to the variety of sizes and the soft, flexibility of the silicone. Start at the smallest size and work your way up, as your tolerance and desire dictates. The rods are also long enough for direct prostate stimulation through the urethra.

$34.99 @ Lovehoney $36.99 @ The Enhanced Male

DOMINIX Deluxe Corkscrew Male Chastity Cage

$69.99

Bottom Line: This stainless steel cage doubles as a chastity cage to keep his dick under lock and key while also adding the torturous fun of urethral sounding. The sound is removable if your dick’s not ready for it yet. Urination and ejaculation are still available while wearing the cage, and the stainless steel keeps it body safe for long-term wear and use.

$59.49 @ Lovehoney –> CODE: AFF-WH15

EDGE Silicone Cock And Ball Sling

$22.99

Bottom Line: Want to stretch those balls out as part of your cock and ball torture exploration? Try the Tracey Cox Edge. It’s made of body-safe and comfortable silicone that can stretch to fit any size balls. It’s great for solo fun, penetrative sex, and whatever kinky desires you want to fulfill. The ball divider is effective but gentle, making it perfect for CBT newbies.

$19.54 @ Lovehoney –> CODE: AFF-WH15

Top Of The Line Cock And Ball Torture Devices

The Stockroom has been in business for over 30 years serving the BDSM community with the highest quality toys and torture devices.

Below are recommendations from their entire line of cock and ball torture (CBT) products*.

Extreme CBT Ball Crusher

$64.00

Bottom Line: This toy lets you take your ball-crushing fun to the next level. The plates allow you to control the level of pressure placed on the testicles so that you can take things slowly or get as extreme as you both want.

$64.00 @ The Stockroom

Mike's Spikes Cock & Ball Torture Device

$79.00

Bottom Line: For those who want to add an extra layer of intensity to their cock and ball torture fun, the Mike’s Spikes Cock & Ball Torture Device will make sure there’s plenty of pain mixed with pleasure. It’s made of body-safe stainless steel and includes both blunt and sharp tips so you can play at your own pace.

$79.00 @ The Stockroom

3 Way Stainless Steel Urethral Stretcher

$50.00

Bottom Line: Want to take urethral stretching to the next level? This urethral stretcher opens up the urethra to let you add extra stimulation with other toys or hands or simply look inside. Make sure to use plenty of lube for a safer, better insertion experience.

$50.00 @ The Stockroom

Cock Ring Pillory

$89.99

Bottom Line: Combine your love of bondage and cock and ball torture with this pillory made for cocks and wrists. You (or your partner) will be helpless and at the whim of whatever your dominant or top wants to do next.

$89.99 @ The Stockroom

Ze Mango Magnetic Ball Stretchers

$89.50

Bottom Line: These magnetic ball stretchers come in a variety of sizes and allow you to play with ease, comfort, and an added layer of safety. The rings can function as a cock ring or add extra weight to the balls for CBT stretching fun. They come off quickly and easily, so you can keep yourself or your partner safe if things go south.

$89.50 @ The Stockroom