How To Use A Vibrator On A Man, Or His Penis

Men enjoy vibrators just like anyone else. In fact, using a vibrator on a man is easier than people realize and can lead to better sex for both of you.
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If you’ve ever wondered, “Can a vibrator make a man cum?” The answer is yes!

Vibrators aren’t just the domain of women and other people with vulvas. They’re absolutely a sex toy that many men use and enjoy.

When you’re ready to encourage your man to use a vibrator or use one on him yourself, here’s everything you need to know.

Editors Note: for our purposes, the term “men” encompasses both binary and non-binary men.

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How To Use A Vibrator On A Man

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It’s not unusual for a guy to enjoy vibration on his sensitive bits, although a lot of men don’t know if they’d like to use a vibrating sex toy, if they can, or how to use one.

If you’re suggesting a vibrator as a fun, sexy thing to explore in the bedroom, there are a few things to keep in mind.

First, remember that while a man’s erogenous zones definitely include his genitals, that’s not the only place a vibrator might feel good.

Any area of his body that responds to sexual stimulation might be thrilled by vibration.

Types of vibrators you might explore using on a man include:

  • Bullets, eggs, wands, clit vibrators used against the shaft, testicles, and any erogenous zone on the body
  • G-spot or vaginal vibrators used externally (only!) against the shaft, testicles, and any erogenous zone on the body 
  • Finger vibrators worn on your own hand can be used during handjobs or blowjobs and used anywhere on the body (except for inside the anus)
  • Vibrating penis rings worn on the penis during a handjob, blowjob, or during partnered sex
  • Prostate massagers, which are inserted into the anus to provide direct stimulation to the prostate

You might try using a small vibrator — such as a finger vibe — on his nipples during sex play or against his shaft and testicles during fellatio.

If you’re both into it, and with his consent, go lower and toward his backdoor — specifically his perineum, located between the genitals and anus — for potentially more powerful orgasms.

Perineum stimulation is an external form of prostate massage that’s a great option for guys who are curious about anal play but not yet ready to try anal penetration.

If he’s willing and ready to experiment a little bit, anal stimulation without penetration can be achieved with a vibrator placed against the anus — but not inside it.

The next level involves prostate massage, which is often helped with a vibrating prostate massager that is inserted into the anus.

Vibrator newbies should start on low settings and only move up to higher speeds or more intense vibrations if it feels good.

When using a vibrator on a man, make sure to keep the lines of communication open at all times and respond to your partner accordingly.

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How To Insert A Vibrator Into A Man’s Anus

Whether he’s ready for a prostate massage or just some up-the-bum fun, there are a few things to know before you insert a vibrator:

  • Use plenty of lube. Particularly for those who are new to anal, there’s no such thing as “too much” lube.
  • Get him turned on and relaxed before penetration even begins. It’s easy for anal muscles to clench up, which can make insertion painful.
  • Make sure to turn the vibrator on before you start insertion. The vibrations often feel very good against the anus, which can help him relax as it’s inserted.
  • Go extremely slow. Don’t ram it up there — penetrate a little and then stop and relax before inserting further. Let him acclimate to the sensations slowly.

The first time you try to insert a vibrator in a man’s anus, you may only get a little bit in, and that’s okay. You can always try again another time.

Rome wasn’t built in a day.

Anal penetration doesn’t have to hurt and if you take your time with it (and use plenty of lube) you can avoid pain completely.

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How To Use A Vibrator On A Penis

Just about any type of vibrator used on a vulva can be used on a penis.

It may require a little creativity, depending on the vibrator type, but as long as it can be placed against the shaft in some way, it can be used to deliver vibration to a penis.

Bullets, vibrating eggs, vaginal or G-spot vibrators, and wand massagers can be used against the shaft of the penis (or even the testicles!) during sex play or fellatio.

Finger vibrators are particularly great for handjobs, and they can be used to tickle the testicles with pinpoint precision if your guy enjoys it.

Additionally, male vibrators — or masturbators like those carried at Adam & Eve — can be used on a man’s penis exactly as they were designed.

In most cases, this involves putting personal lubricant on the penis or toy — which is (usually) meant to be penetrated during use — providing stimulation through vibration, stroking, or both.

You can even experiment with clit sucking toys!

Although “clit” is right there in the name, a clit sucking vibrator can be used to add sucking sensations up and down the shaft, the underside of the head (frenulum), and even against the testicles.

It’s a good idea to use a bit of lube for better suction, but the sensations from a clit sucking vibrator might just surprise him!

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How To Use A Vibrator On A Man During Sex

To figure out how to use a vibrator on your man during sex, you’ve got to decide where to touch and what vibrating sex toy to use.

They’re called toys for a reason, and the point is to play with them.

You can play together or he can play alone but have fun with the process and experiment with erogenous zones, types of vibrators, and settings to find what he enjoys most.

There are so many different sex positions with a vibrator to try.

When using a vibrator during penetrative sex, you both have options.

  • Vibrating penis ring: He can wear a vibrating cock ring that lets him feel the vibrations, too.
  • Eggs, bullets, wands, G-spot, or vaginal vibrators: You can use your own vibrator on your body in any sex position that lets him feel it, too. Spooning and missionary are great for this.
  • Vibrating butt plug: He can insert a vibrating butt plug or prostate massager inside his anus while he’s penetrating you.

During arousal, you can use a finger vibrator and simply touch his erogenous zones.

Yes, this likely means his penis and testicles but he might enjoy vibration against his nipples, neck, or inner thighs, too.

He may enjoy a handjob with a lightly buzzing vibrator like a bullet pressing against his shaft.

If you try this method, don’t neglect the tip of his shaft or the underside of his balls if he enjoys the sensations.

Let him tell you what feels good and what doesn’t — and use that as your guide.

An underrated way to have sex with a partner is mutual masturbation.

You can bring him to orgasm using one of his vibrating sex toys, like a masturbator – essentially a penis vibrator — or you can lie side by side and masturbate yourselves in full view of each other.

The possibilities are only limited by what sensations he likes and where he enjoys them the most.

A vibrator can be added to any kind of sex you want to have with your partner.

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Will Vibrators Cause Penile Desensitization?

No. Your vibrator won’t make your penis go numb or otherwise desensitize it.

(There are similar myths about clitoral desensitization and vibrator use, too.)

Studies show that a vibrator may help some men who suffer from erectile dysfunction. In one study, 72% of men who hadn’t orgasmed in the previous three months were able to do so with a vibrator.

They may be good for your sexual health overall, as well!

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Choosing A Vibrator For A Man

If you’re buying a vibrator for a man, it probably shouldn’t be given as a surprise gift to him unless you regularly use vibrators together.

Talk to him about it first — don’t just bring home a vibrator you think he might enjoy, especially if he’s never used one before and has no idea what’s in the box he’s about to open.

If you intend to purchase a vibrator for him, it’s a good idea to know what types of stimulation he might enjoy — or prefers.

For adding stimulation during arousal and sex play, consider finger vibrators or bullet vibrators.

If you’re focusing on the penis or prostate, vibrators to consider include:

  • Vibrating cock rings
  • Vibrating masturbators
  • Vibrating butt plugs
  • Prostate massagers

Even though vibrators are often considered “sex toys for women,” there’s an entire range of male-specific vibes that provide all kinds of stimulation.

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Do Men Like Vibrators?

Some men definitely like vibrators. As with all things in life, however, it’s not universal.

Some men won’t like the intensity or the buzzing sensations.

Others may not like vibrators because of what society and culture have taught them to believe about what is “manly” — or what sex should be.

(Thanks, toxic masculinity, for ruining yet another thing for everyone.)

Men can use vibrating versions of their favorite sex toys or use vibrators that are marketed and sold “for women” simply because they feel good.

If your partner is open to the idea, there’s no way to know if he likes a vibrator until he tries one out.

Encourage him to experiment and remind him that not all vibrators feel the same.

If he doesn’t like the first one, he may like something else.

And of course, it is “normal” for men to use vibrators — so we can put those fears to rest right now.

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In Conclusion

Vibrators, like all sex toys, are tools.

They enhance pleasure, increase intimacy, and in some cases, improve sexual health.

Men can enjoy the benefits of vibrators just like anyone else.

Using a vibrator on a man is easier and more straightforward than people realize. Even better, it can lead to better sex for both of you.

Consider us fans of men using vibrators.

If you’re still searching for a vibrator — for yourself or your man — check out our Everything Vibrators guide to explore your options.

And if you don’t know what kind of vibrator you should try, take our vibrator quiz to find some suggestions!