[sallyskellington]

wild: thats the problem I don't have any features to work with. I'm not blonde my hair is curly not straight, my legs have fat on them I'm not thin and I have a fat bum, I'm useless.

[sallyskellington]

I just googled her, just wow....

[sallyskellington]

I know it's dumb to focus so much on beauty, but I guess I do it b/c also out of my friends I'm the stupid one. Everyone is so much smarter the I or well traveled, I'm just the dumb one thats not good at anything. Even my husband says it well he says it's not that your dumb you just have a short attention span.. So he is just calling me stupid in a nice way. So like I said I know I shouldn't focus on looks but I really am the useless one out of the people we know. All our other friends have gone to columbia or cornell or like I said are well traveled or have degrees in stuff I'm the dumb one who could barely graduate H.S. and had to get a job doing grunt work b/c I'm not smart enough to do anything else.

[Ashlee T.]

Hmm guess I'm useless too then. Cause I'm not blonde either. And I don't have big boobs. And I'm athletic but I do have fat on my legs....even some cellulite. And I know people that , are doctors, lawyers.......and I'm not. So I must be useless too.

[WildChild]

Rather shocking huh?

Sally I don't know how to help you see what others see.
You are a lovely woman.
Very few people are naturally blonde, being blonde doesn't automatically make someone attractive. When I was a pre teen in the 60s, my freinds older sisters were all ironing their hair to straighten it- heck I did it for awhile when I was 13. In the 70s and into the 80s people were spending a fortune getting perms to make their hair curly. All that changed was the advertising hype.

Unless you are anorexic, your legs will not look like sticks. Unless you are a high performance athlete, your legs will have some flesh to them - they should -it's healthy. Your bum, darling, is made for running, it balances our bodies for it and those gluts are made for it. You could take up running and get it down to pretty much pure muscle but hey a little cushioning is a good thing.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You are your own beholder.

[sallyskellington]

BD, I don't think you are, you seem very sweet and intelligent.

[sallyskellington]

I'm trying to see wild it just doesn't make sense to me.

[sallyskellington]

I'm reading what you guys say over and over I don't get why this is hard for me to believe but I literally just can't I don't know why.

[sallyskellington]

like a small part of my brain gets it for a min or two then it's like their is another part my brain that fights it

[ItsASecret]

I think it might be because you seem to have decided that the standard of beauty is an airbrushed Holly Madison instead of the true beauty that you are composed of.