[WildChild]

You know I'm just having fun?

Ah, but this isn't an issue of the bull wanting a new cow (btw, a mixed group is cattle, there are no bull cows-LOL that would be what? a dyke cow?)
This is about the cow goes into heat the bull just stands there. Or complains that she is too demanding, after all she goes into heat every year, she got some last year.

Or are you saying you think the men lose interest in what they have available because they are looking elsewhere?

[Guest]

This is about the cow goes into heat the bull just stands there. Or complains that she is too demanding, after all she goes into heat every year, she got some last year.

I think that is what you are discussing here, yes or no, I think that.......

Or are you saying you think the men lose interest in what they have available because they are looking elsewhere?

this , yes is part of it it some cases. You can never know what is going on in a mans mind. He's certainly not going to tell you "cassie" if that is what he is doing, is he? If his mind is preoccupied with another woman, in whatever capacity he may become incompetent. Could be he or any man has his thot's elsewhere and therefore disinterested in his beloved wife.

I apologize, I'm not trying to start suspension!

[Little]

From cassie's other posts I see that she is TTC.
Isn't it pretty common that a guy feels pressured when a woman wants to get pregnant? It could be just as simple as that. I hope for your sake it is.

[buddy]

um mine uses the head ache back ache excuse so often. its the best they can come up with, sometimes sure, they actually do! but really i think you should keep complimenting, he could be suffering low self esteem does anyone else agree?

[Guest]

Yes I agree, it could be a multitude of things but until he's will to open up about it, it will remain a mystery.

Problem is he's blaming her on being too driven with the thot of sex. I don't know how many times I've tho't this on here but I wish I was in his place, no offense cassie.

I had the opposite things going. She always blamed me of talking about sex all the time too and I really didn't but said them at times that I was working up to try and get her interested.

[WildChild]

So we have to assume Someone, Somewhere gets what they want - they just don't talk about it? Probably quite a few don't get what they need and don't talk about it. And then there's the rest of us always belly aching?!

[Guest]

Probably quite a few don't get what they need and don't talk about it.

I feel this is definitely the biggest problem, "communication" Problems are over looked for too long then instead of putting out a small fire it becomes "Damage Control"

Then too often things become unrepairable!

[WildChild]

Probably but how do you deal with someone who shuts down when you try to talk? This seems to be a pretty common male response.

[Guest]

Now heres where I think just the opposite, I think for the most part the woman shuts down way more than the man.

Even tho some men might see their issues a problem they want to address it, they want to fix it!

Most the time women do not want a conflict of sorts! Where the man will attack the conflict at hand, doesn't always do a good job of fixing it but at least he trys.

[buddy]

how do you deal with someone who shuts down all the time?
well they could have trust issues, if he does, its big and it will take time for him to open up to you