[Little]

Found this graph while googling for a penis size bell graph. Suddenly my supposition that a penis under 3" long might not do the trick doesn't look so callous, does it? But I do feel badly for the guys at 7" and up. There are statistically a lot more of them, and they would never have had a chance.

[dlanier248]

I am 6ft 7in, 290lbs, huge hands, size 14shoes... and I am NOT in the porn business. big hands and big feet do not mean big *****. therefore small hands and small feet does not mean small ***.

Sorry, I had to correct my weight, I am a big guy, but not that big. lol......

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I must respectfully disagree with my fellow Administrator, CW, on the idea of

gender differences beyond the physiological.

Just throwing out there that I don't think one gender is superior to another in any way, but instead try to judge on an individual basis.

That's cool, internet typing sucks

It is on a physicological point of view that I made that comment... Most definately, we are all individuals. If we use the word gender perhaps in a different form, and use the terminology of being "in-tune" with the opposite sex. In my opinion, a man who is able to tap into his feminine side, is more in-tune with how a woman thinks... That' more to the point of what I was trying to get across.

Point scoring, is ego, pertaining to your comment Skip re:- your size.... There really isn't much room for that in relationships when it's too high. Because "people" become self centred.

I do not think that there is anything wrong with being an individual, knowing what you want out of life, what fits and what doesn't what will ensure a lasting fullfilling relationship and what wont. If you know of this, you are not settling, you are ensuring you are giving yourself one heck of a chance of a long beautiful life with one partner...

We all I believe as women agree, size doesn't matter. But, it's impossible honestly to say that if someone bonds with another, via penitrative sex and can not get that, that they should dismiss that feeling/thought and go with someone else and live an un-fullfilled life for the rest of their lives.

There we are talking about "choices"

A person chooses to tick the boxes of her/his future partner and makes a choice.

Typical dating is different...You are not looking at forever, until you've bonded and you can bond, from personality, charisma, and work with toys, and other methods as a result... It's later that you decide you want to marry that person.

If that makes sense.

[Guest]

That's cool, internet typing sucks


Point scoring, is ego, pertaining to your comment Skip re:- your size.... There really isn't much room for that in relationships when it's too high. Because "people" become self centred.


If that makes sense.

CW:

I do not have the time to reply at length -- maybe I can tomorrow to your post and others. But can in explain what I quoted above? I am not understanding what you sayng. Sorry.

[Troop]

Okay, this is a general reply to all, but here goes. Things wouldn't be so bad, if it were just those couple of instances, and the end. But it's not. It's also society at large (ha ha). I can't go anywhere, watch a movie, listen to music, or do much of anything without being slapped across the face with the general societal belief that yes bigger is better. There's even some sort of song called "Short D**k Man" all over YouTube with very young girls singing along with it. It's become perfectly acceptable to humiliate guys that are smaller because really, what guy is going to stand up publicly and say he's offended?

As for the breast augmentation thing? I think it's entirely up to the woman if she wants them or not. She shouldn't get them to make someone else happy, only herself. But she does have that option, I don't. There's nothing that can be done for me. I appreciate everyone's comments, and there's no hating on anyone. It just is what it is.

[BugSauce]

Penis size is not usually a deal breaker, but it is still important. Please remember that most doctors will tell you that the girth is what gives the woman the fullness feeling and not the length. (They will also tell you that the top two thirds of the vagina have no nerve endings). Also, the majority of women cannot orgasm without clitoral stimulation (there are those that can!) so either way you need to learn how to use the mouth and hands regardless in my opinion. Remember, not every woman is the same and the likes and dislikes can be drastically different so be sure to be open with discussing said things with your partner.

[Little]

BugSauce - It's nice to see a new face with a positive attitude, but I think maybe your doctor is a little quacky. Though there may be fewer nerve endings in the latter portion of the vagina, they aren't altogether missing. If they were, it would be simply numb. There's even at least one erogenous zone back there: the A-spot or Anterior fornix erogenous zone.

[Guest]

Let me just make a few quick comments before I disappear for a week of traveling.

Little:

Despite your graph – which does not jive with scientific studies by the way – I still think your specific comments were callous (please note I am referring to your specific comments to Troop and am not making character or universal attributes and in other areas your comments are wise, educational, and kind). We simply have differing views on this subject, and my view aligns with the sound wisdom that CW gave – which is that mind over matter is key in life and I think with the right attitude you can conquer perceived needs. I’m an old-fashion romantic that believes you fall in love with the personality of the person and then you can change attitudinal barriers to other aspects of a relationship. I really think the world would be a batter place if we could learn to see the inner qualities of people and I flat out respectfully disagree that any women “needs” a certain size for a relationship to bud or that a man needs a certain breast size. We just disagree and I am glad you are not going to use the ban hammer because I simply have a difference of an opinion.

Troop:

I agree with you that comments about a larger penis being superior are everywhere in society. Just the other night my wife and I watched a fun comedy and out of nowhere are comments about the advantages of a man with a bigger penis. As I visit the different threads on this website – they are everywhere, despite women who make them saying otherwise. So, I can empathies and will make two suggestions.

First, may I ask what your age is? The reason I ask is that I have come to believe that as people get older – as a general rule (but not always) – they become more mature. A well know psychologist by the name of Dr. Hauser created a model of human development and in early stages (which you usually see in adolescents, but there can be 50 plus year olds who are stuck in a young adult stage of development). Those people in the immature stages respond to other with self-involvement and those in the latter stages learn to make personal changes to accommodate others. Sadly, Troop, there are going to be some women who are in the immature stages of ego develop that will be more focused on their own sexual desires rather than learning to change their own attitudes to accommodate and respect others. Fallen’s advice is sound – do not seek such women out; rather find a woman who cares about your personality (a women of higher ego development) – and there are more women that are in the stages of higher development than lower development. And I honestly think that in general, more women than men are in the higher stages of ego development and then try to be that type of man, knowing that you will find some women in the lower stages of ego development.

Second, you need accurate information regarding the size of a penis. I think the best public site is Wikipedia under the term “human penis size.” It lists a variety scientific study in which men are randomly selected and average is 5-5.5 inches long and 4.5 inches in girth. Larger is truly around six inches long and 5 inches wide. Further, something like 90-95% of men are between the sizes of 5-6 inches in length and 4.5-5 inches in girth. People who claim they are longer or bigger are either (1) not measuring it in a standardized scientific manner (e.g., putting a ruler against the public bone above or to the side will give a different measurement of one to two inches) or are simply making things up, sometime believing their own made up version of measurement. In the age of the intent, everyone claims to have a larger penis. Comments in movies are done to catch people attention and the pornography industry has used media tricks forever. For example, the pornography industry for years claimed that Johnny Holmes had the longest penis, claiming it was 10 inches long and Johnny Holmes personally claimed it was 15 inches long. He even has an ex-girlfriends testimony who claimed she measured it. It is well known that the pornography industry used trick shooting and constantly had him engage in intercourse with smaller women so that it made him look larger than what he was. Yet, there never was an independent verification of his size, even when requested, he would not let others measure it and the porno-industry protected him in this area. . As long as the porno industry can keep this myth alive, people will want to watch and people will see things that are fake and actually begin to believe them, and then make things up like the size of their boyfriends. When you compare what people say – friends to friends or website comments –to real scientific research and it does not hold water. And in my mind, standardized scientific measurements in which men have been randomly selected are the only true way to know size. So, even if you measure and it seems smaller, make sure you are comparing to real scientific size, not to what any yahoo or dupe posts on a website or a fake script in a movie show or a product trying to sell some type of technique to help develop a larger penis.

I hope this helps, Troop.

[maleview]

I am not sure how John Holmes and trick photography works into it but i would say to Troop that just as there are women who prefer a larger man there are also women who would prefer smaller. Go find her and have fun!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

CW:

I do not have the time to reply at length -- maybe I can tomorrow to your post and others. But can in explain what I quoted above? I am not understanding what you sayng. Sorry.

Having sons and a daughter has helped me realize how harmful my past behaviors – which is viewed as normative male behavior – have been in thinking bigger was better.

If a male thinks bigger is better and he is big and he states that his past behaviour was harmful, the only conclusion that can be had is ego over that size and harmful equates to "hurting" someone, yourself or "women".