[jns]

a_dub, you have stated why many women are frustrated in their relationships. The guy they are with is only truly interested in his pleasure. All guys are not the same. Some guys want a more even relationship, so they work at making sure they can help their SO get there. Reaching orgasm is often harder for women than for men. Therefore, in an even relationship the guy has to work at it in a correct way. The clitoris is the most sensitive part on a woman. Intercourse seldom stimulates it enough for a woman to reach orgasm. Therefore fingers or a tongue during foreplay are a normal way to get the woman to orgasm.

Getting a woman to orgasm is great fun for me. It provides connection on another level. It also provides something else to talk about when the conversation gets intimate.

[jen1447]

a-dub, you're going nowhere fast with that attitude.

To the OP, my boyfriend is about 8 inches and average girth, and I have no problem taking him. And believe me, he works hard and puts in his time for the privilege. If he didn't, he'd be gone fast.

[Lady Syrinx]

Well it might be based on which particular dimension he's well endowed in. Is he longer than normal or does he have more girth than average?

I'm a little shorter than average at just over 5 inches, and exactly 5 inches in girth which makes me average or slightly above in girth. That means I can probably skip foreplay and just go straight to sex with most women, provided they aren't virgins.

We only discovered this when we started using condoms. So it could easily be only his length. I`ve never measured him and he claims he hasn`t either. We,ve been together 20 years and were each other's first. Call it women`s intuition, even with my lack of experience I always thought he was better endowed than most.

[Obelisk]

a-dub, you're going nowhere fast with that attitude.

He's already at a disadvantage at his size. Maybe he's right not to care.

[jns]

If it is his right not to care, it is the right of women not to give him the time of day. Who wants a partner who does not care about them? Actions have consequences. Life is not fair.

[Lady Syrinx]

If it is his right not to care, it is the right of women not to give him the time of day. Who wants a partner who does not care about them? Actions have consequences. Life is not fair.

That`s the point. If you love or even romotely care about your partner then the pleasure should be reciprocal. It sounds like he doesn`t want to communicate with his partner. I learned firsthand how empty sex can be, even in a marriage when there,s a communication breakdown. Yes, my husband`s well endowned, but who`s to say it would be as good if he went out and had a one-nighter or longterm affair.. He knows my body which comes from time and communication.

[jen1447]

There's even a reason to feel sorry for men who don't properly care for their women sexually, because they'll never see the 'other side,' so to speak. When you bring a woman to her full sexual potential (or even anywhere near it), it, um, tends to be an eye-opening experience, let's just say. I've had men who've taken me there walk around like they're the Nobel Peace Prize winner for weeks afterward.

That sort of fulfillment is a huge boon to health and happiness, while simply getting off is just ...meh. Especially for men, because (most of) you can't really experience those true heights except vicariously. So not being as good as you can be to your woman would be like going through life seeing only black and white, or not hearing music.

Obelisk, being less than large might be a disadvantage, but you can make up for a lot by being an expert with the tongue. Not to mention other things like romanticism, attentiveness, consideration, etc. If I had to choose between a foot-long guy who didn't care and a 6 inch guy who gave it his all and could use his tongue and treated me like I was always his first priority, I'd take the 6 inch guy in a minute. They make foot-long dildos after all.

[jns]

I've had men who've taken me there walk around like they're the Nobel Peace Prize winner for weeks afterward.

I know this feeling. It will really keep a sheet eating grin coming back to your face for a long time. The most memorable times will be memories that can easily be recalled for decades.

[Stillness]

Is it true that men don't experience pleasure like a woman? How would you know? I've had some powerfully intense and pleasurable experiences. I seriously doubt that it's more pleasurable for women.

[Obelisk]

Obelisk, being less than large might be a disadvantage, but you can make up for a lot by being an expert with the tongue. Not to mention other things like romanticism, attentiveness, consideration, etc. If I had to choose between a foot-long guy who didn't care and a 6 inch guy who gave it his all and could use his tongue and treated me like I was always his first priority, I'd take the 6 inch guy in a minute. They make foot-long dildos after all.

Right, it seems that all the pressure is on the guy. The guy has to be huge, and if he's not, then he better be able to perform acrobatics with his tongue, and be attentive, considerate, and that whole other bunch of laundry list items women usually ask for.

I think I'm better off staying alone.