How To Lube A Fleshlight For The Best Experience

Using lube with a Fleshlight is safe if water-based and important because it reduces friction while increasing pleasure.
collage image showing product tester justin fanning open the orifice of a lubed fleshlight against a watery background with a bottle of fleshlube superimposed to the side
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Updated:December 2023

Lube makes just about any sexual experience better and that includes Fleshlight use because personal lubricant reduces friction to prevent chafing while increasing your pleasure at the same time.

Watch our video below to learn how to apply lube to your Fleshlight and why it’s so important:

Key Takeaways:

  • Fleshlights are made from proprietary Super Skin material, which is soft to the touch, but being a sex toy it doesn’t create its own lubrication — you ALWAYS have to add your own.
  • Although Fleshlights come with a sample packet of the brand’s own Fleshlube, just about any water-based lubricant you have on hand will be compatible as long as it doesn’t contain any oil-based ingredients.
  • Avoid using any personal lubes made from oil or silicone, as they can damage the toy’s material.
  • Applying lube to a Fleshlight is simple: drip it into the orifice and inner sleeve, add some to your penis (if you like), and you’re ready to go to town.

The sky is blue, the grass is green, and lube is your friend.

When it comes to using Fleshlights, the personal lubricant you select is just as important as whether or not you use lube at all — and trust me, you should.

Do You Need Lube With A Fleshlight?

photograph of product tester justin holding a bottle and sample packet of fleshlube in each hand

If you actually want to enjoy the experience of using your Fleshlight, lube is a necessity.

100%.

Fleshlight material may feel a bit like flesh-and-blood human skin, but that’s where the similarity stops.

Unlike a person’s body, a Fleshlight cannot lubricate itself — no matter how many sweet words you whisper to it in the heat of the moment.

The best — and only — personal lubes you should be using with your Fleshlight are those that are water-based.

Fleshlights come with a small packet of the brand’s Fleshlube to get you started and you can buy a bottle separately, but just about any water-based lube will work wonders.

Top Fleshlight Lube Recommendations

Water-based lubricants are the perfect ones to reach for before using a Fleshlight, and our team’s top recommendations are below.

Best Overall
Also Good
Runner Up
$11.95 (2.5 oz)
$27.99 (5.1 oz)
$14.00 (4.2 oz)
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Bottom Line: This lube is one of our team’s favorites because it's easy to use, lightweight, highly versatile, made with 95% food-grade NSF Certified organic aloe vera, and comes in 18 delicious flavors. [Full Review + Video]

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Bottom Line: This water-based lube is our team’s top pick for those looking for a thick, incredibly long-lasting lube for sensitive skin made with 96% organic aloe, and no added fragrance, flavor, or dyes. [Full Review + Video]

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Bottom Line: A tried-and-true favorite from Sliquid, our testing team loved this lubricant's silky-smooth (and truly liquid-like) texture that doesn’t drip or run, yet lasts for an incredibly long time and cleans up easily. [Full Review]

Best Overall
$11.95 (2.5 oz)
Description:

Bottom Line: This lube is one of our team’s favorites because it's easy to use, lightweight, highly versatile, made with 95% food-grade NSF Certified organic aloe vera, and comes in 18 delicious flavors. [Full Review + Video]

Also Good
$27.99 (5.1 oz)
Description:

Bottom Line: This water-based lube is our team’s top pick for those looking for a thick, incredibly long-lasting lube for sensitive skin made with 96% organic aloe, and no added fragrance, flavor, or dyes. [Full Review + Video]

Runner Up
$14.00 (4.2 oz)
Description:

Bottom Line: A tried-and-true favorite from Sliquid, our testing team loved this lubricant's silky-smooth (and truly liquid-like) texture that doesn’t drip or run, yet lasts for an incredibly long time and cleans up easily. [Full Review]

→ For more, read: The Best Water-Based Lubes

How To Lube Fleshlights

Lubing up a Fleshlight is a piece of cake: apply it to the orifice and sleeve, and your penis if you prefer, and you’re ready to go.

My best advice?

Just hold or stand that bad boy upright so the orifice is pointing toward the ceiling and dribble the desired amount in.

Depending on your lube (and personal preferences), this might be a few drops — or a lot more.

By applying lube in this manner, gravity does all the work — the lubricant will drip down through the sleeve, reaching most of the inside.

That will make insertion a lot easier when the time… comes.

photograph of product tester justin inserting a purple dildo into the orifice of a fleshlight to demonstrate insertion

For really even coverage, however, it might be good to get some fingers in there to spread it around, particularly if you’re using a textured sleeve.

Lubing your penis separately will also keep things running smoothly as silk once you insert it into the Fleshlight.

How Much Lube To Use With A Fleshlight

If you’re wondering how much lube you need in your Fleshlight, the answer is: it depends on the lube and your preferences.

In my experience, you don’t need a huge amount of lubricant — only a few to several drops — but it is best to apply a little more to avoid being left with dry spots that can cause discomfort within the sleeve.

This is especially important if you’re using a highly-textured sleeve that contains a lot of little nooks and crannies inside.

diagram of the riley reid utopia fleshlight sleeve texture featuring coiled bumps and ridges

Typically, a few good drops from the packet or bottle will do the trick.

Just a heads up if you use the company’s branded Fleshlube: the bottle is pretty damn tough to squeeze.

If you can’t see the lube you’re applying because the lights are off, then check the inside of the sleeve with your fingers to see if you have enough to get the fun going.

Where To Apply Fleshlight Lube

You’ll want to apply Fleshlight lube to the orifice and inner sleeve, and also your penis if you desire extra slip.

The goal is to get the lubricant down inside the inner walls of the Fleshlight sleeve, so it’s best to drip through the opening where you are going to put your penis.

You can set the Fleshlight upright to allow the lube to drip down naturally, or use your fingers to spread it around the inside.

If you put lube on your penis as well, that will also help to ensure good coverage when you insert.

How To Apply Warm Lube To A Fleshlight

Applying warm lube follows the same process as room-temperature (or even cold) personal lubricant.

If you don’t have a lube warmer (yes, those really exist!), you can place your lube bottle in a mug of hot (but not scalding) water to warm it before applying.

Depending on the lube you’re using, however, the viscosity may change as it heats up, so keep an eye out for unnecessary dribbles.

Your favorite water-based lubricant may be runnier than usual after being warmed.

If you don’t mind getting your hands slippery, you can also warm Fleshlight lube by applying it to your palms and rubbing them together to let your body’s own heat do the warming.

How To Clean Up Fleshlight Lube

Once you’ve finished up and have had a bowl of Cheerios, or whatever your post-nut ritual is, it is time to clean up your Fleshlight lube with a good rinse and wash.

Thankfully, water-based lubes are easy to rinse away, being water-soluble.

To clean the lube from your Fleshlight, remove the sleeve from its case and rinse the inside out with warm, running water to flush it out.

Follow up with Fleshwash (soaps and detergents are not recommended), rinse again, and set the sleeve out to dry.

As for cleaning Fleshlube from yourself, a quick scrub with soap and water on your bits should do the trick.

Fleshlight Lube FAQs

photograph of product tester justin pouring fleshlube into his fleshlight

Here are some quickfire answers to the most searched questions about how to lubricate a Fleshlight.

Can You Use Fleshlight Without Lube?

No — using a Fleshlight without lube is not recommended.

Technically speaking, you could — your life is your own and you can do what you want — but using a Fleshlight without lube will probably lead to discomfort or chafing from the friction.

Fleshlights don’t generate their own lubrication — you need to add it yourself.

Precum is a natural lube of sorts, but you likely won’t produce enough for comfortable penetration through the sleeve, especially since the Fleshlight won’t add any the way a vagina might.

Does A Fleshlight Come With Lube?

Yes, if you’ve purchased a branded Fleshlight, there should be a small packet of Fleshlube waiting for you inside the box.

It doesn’t look like a lot, but a little can go a long way.

You may not need to use it all in one go, so after tearing open the package and applying what you need, use a paperclip or something similar to close it back up.

Are Silicone-Based Lubes Safe For Fleshlights?

Silicone-based lubes should not be used with Fleshlights.

Thanks to the proprietary Super Skin, which is not silicone but is made from largely undisclosed materials, you should stick to non-reactive lubricants.

A silicone-based lube could cause the Super Skin material to break down and make it more porous than it already is, making it more difficult to clean and potentially leading to an increased risk of bacterial or mold buildup.

Are Oil-Based Lubes Safe For Fleshlights?

Absolutely and under no circumstances should you use an oil-based lube with a Fleshlight, as the sleeve’s material is derived from mineral oil — which means the lube will react with it.

And not in a good way.

Oil-based lubes can break down the Super Skin sleeve, degrading it (and potentially ruining it entirely), not to mention making it more porous and more difficult to clean thoroughly.

What Fleshlight Lube Alternatives Can I Use?

You should really stick to water-based lubes only when using your Fleshlight, such as the provided Fleshlube, however, there are some rare exceptions.

Aloe vera gel can be used, as long as you’re working with 100% pure gel and you do not have an allergy to latex.

Fun science fact: The aloe plant has natural latex in it.

Saliva can also be used as a Fleshlight lube in a pinch but might not provide enough lubrication over time.

The same holds true for precum — it’s available only in limited supply, as we noted earlier.

Your own cum could also work, but if you’re by yourself that is kind of putting the cart before the horse, as it were.

Water might be a safe lube for Fleshlight, but it’s not thick enough to reduce friction.

Here are some other things you should definitely not use as lube with your Fleshlight:

Closing Thoughts

Learning how to lube a Fleshlight is as easy as can be.

Follow the instructions we’ve provided above and only use water-based lube.

Without lubrication, you’d be squandering the gift that is the Fleshlight and could possibly hurt yourself in the process.

Editor’s Note: This article is part of our Complete Guide To Fleshlights and Everything Fleshlight hub, in-depth and evolving resources that comprehensively explore and review all aspects of Fleshlights from the company’s discreet billing and shipping, to the types of products they carry, how to use them, materials, and safety.