11 Tips For Giving GOOD Head
Giving head is easier than you think and it’s a sexy, invaluable skill in your erotic arsenal, as oral sex is one of the most popular sexual acts.
Knowing how to give the best head step-by-step begins with putting a penis in your mouth or licking the clitoris if you’re performing on a vulva owner.
Then, it requires using your lips and tongue to stimulate the genitals.
But there’s more to it than that.
Here are several things you can do to give good head:
- 1. Consider your sexual health.
Oral sex is a common way to contract an STD, and not all symptoms are obvious. Unless you and your partner have been tested recently or are in a long-term exclusive relationship, be sure to use a condom or dental dam.
- 2. Always communicate your preferences with each other.
Get consent on things like perineum play, ball play, dirty talk, or anything else you want to do.
Wrap them around the shaft (spit on them first to reduce friction or use an edible lube). Stroke, squeeze, or give him a handjob while you’re sucking dick. This can also help manage length if deep-throating is difficult for you.
- 4. Use your tongue with purpose.
A pointed tip is more intense, while a flatter one covers more area. Swirl your tongue around the tip or clit like you’re slurping up soft serve, and press it flat and wide against their shaft or labia.
- 5. Follow your partner’s cues on what they like.
If they prefer you use your tongue one way but not another, listen and do what they like – not what you think you’re supposed to do.
- 6. Knowing how to give a guy head sometimes requires getting sloppy.
The wetter the blowjob, the more comfortable it will likely be. Spitting can accomplish this, but lube is a good alternative if you’d prefer not to spit.
- 7. Kneeling isn’t required.
You can sit beside your partner if that’s more comfortable on your knees, which can also change the sensation and allow you to put your booty on display.
- 8. Bring sex toys into the mix for a more mutually satisfying session.
If you can multitask, use one hand to hold a vibrator or any sex toy on yourself or turn to an angle where your partner can pleasure you with their hands or mouth.
- 9. If you have gag reflex issues, don’t start with deep-throating.
It can make your throat hurt or cause you to vomit. As an alternative, you can direct the penis towards the roof of your mouth instead of down into the throat. You can also curl your tongue toward the roof of your mouth to act as a “barrier” of sorts — one that helps to keep the penis from hitting the back of your throat (even accidentally).
- 10. Discuss whether you’ll spit or swallow before you begin.
If you don’t want to swallow, this can help avoid an unpleasant surprise. Cumming on the face, chest, or another body part can be just as hot – as long as both partners are into it.
- 11. To give good head to a woman, don’t spell the alphabet on her clit.
Instead, kiss, lick, and/or spread the labia. You can also gently suck on the clit. But remember, build up to the main event rather than starting with the clit as some people are very sensitive here.