[cassie66]

my dad is aN old stubborn proud man he wouldnt understand

[rcoreyus]

It may be tough, but I'd still recommend asking. You are in a terrible spot - maybe your father will come through.

my dad is aN old stubborn proud man he wouldnt understand

[cassie66]

my dad wouldnt be able to put us up, besides its too far away from kids schooling

hubby was so irritating last night, he downloaded a train game and spent 4 hours on it! he even had earphones in listening to train sounds! even my daughters said he is sad lol

hubby due back at work tomorrow, and last night he said ooh me back ive got pins and needles etc he has to go back or we re trouble, we are short on cash now

[WildChild]

My guess is he'll avoid going back until you are penniless. Guessing you are close now anyway? Then Unless you get a job, he will have the upper hand, you will well and truly be stuck in this strange relationship you call a marriage. Stick to your plan. Find something - anything to start an income, keep it separate, have your own account, you can help with bills with him having access to your account. Learn to love walking and forget needing him to drive. You need to start owning your life!

[cassie66]

he has just had the results of the mri scan they said he has a narrowed disc what ever that means said iot didnt need surgery and wasnt srious and will heal in own time. dco told him to rest

he is just ringing up work to tell them he will be back tomorrow fingers crossed

yes we are prerry much peniless
i had to delve into my savings not the 600 i have in bag cos dauighter needs money for scholl prom and other daughter s 6th form disco is tonight and youngest needs a bathing suit fo rschool i had no opiton it was for the kids
i have to pay his petrol though or he cannot get to work

[cassie66]

hubby just spoke to work and hubby said they sounded surprised he was wanting to come back apparantly he has to have a docotrs note to state he is fit to k so if i cant get hubby into see doc early in morning to get the all clear to go back he cant

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Well, the Doctor said "rest" so I don't know if they will let him back at work then yet Cassie...

If he wants to work, then the Doctor could clear him for lesser hours, or with a few restrictions placed... I believe that his work is only covering their butt so to speak because if he has another incident without an all clear, then they are in trouble.

I am glad your not touching that 600 Pounds...

You know we mentioned your Dad, and R.. keeps mentioning it... I don't know why you can't just simply start with what was said regarding when your Dad passes away, about his home? That surely, has nothing to do with "old school", your Dad would listen to a bit more from there, I am sure of it. How about just mentioning that bit to start with? I know you can't stay with him but he may be able to move you somewhere for a bit, so you can get a job...

Have a think on that note sweet.

CW

[cassie66]

hello

hubby doesnt need a note to rreturn to work after all. he is going back today thank god lol he works shifts so wont leave until atfer 1pm a whole 10 hours alone lol well apart from kids

i hope he doesnt get back pain as work may send him home
we so need money right now
he gets paid next wed but it will be low again and wont be enough his petrol for the moonth is £200 plus rent £750 i go halfs out of child maintence council tax £127 i dnt have the cash for that all other bills and his debts since he has been off work we have lost £2000 in bonuses

i know when my dad does pass away everything comes to me he took ex hubbys name off will as he was execturor and made new will i have the will upstairs and current hubbys name is not on it im sole heir and executor
i know hubby has said i can sell the house well thats up to me, i wont let hubby bully me into anything i dnt want, and with the recession the house has lost value

i just want a man who wont be afraid ro give me foreplay, ive never come across a man who has a phobia about touching before, is it normal? every other man i have known has touched me.
im trying to be understanding, but have always touched him he just cannot bring himself to even try on me not tha we have done much in that dept lately he says the thought of touching me makes him wantr to heave. have you any idea how that makes me feel? and im the one who is clean!l

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Hello back...

Do you have free legal advice where you are? We do even a phone call, or else google and find out... I think if your married that's a different thing and you need to record all that you pay, every month and keep bank records and receipts for future.

Well, I guess there are two good things 1) a bit of money for now and more after and 2) 10 hrs on your own whoo hooo that vibrator can come out haha. SORRY Cassie, not.

Okay seriously , (did you laugh) lol.

No seriously, okay you keep talking as if your going to find a way to save this marriage, if only this, if only that, you know what I think?

Your afraid of your Dad and what he would say and so you intend to keep trying for what?

Non happiness? Non help? A child with your children? Non sex? Non enjoyment? Wrong partner?

Fess up you fell for words and also wanted love and didn't believe you could have it and still don't and so you "settle"...

Ah ha, do no settle.... You'll be 51 and wonder what the heck you did and why you did it for.

Save away, forget Dad and what he will think and just work towards you, as you are important or i will come over and smack you soon.

CW

[cassie66]

yes we have the law centre in town which gives free advice and the citizens advice bereau

i am scared of my dad, as he is stubborn and i was always closer to my mum that dad, he always talks to me like im 10 and i dnt want him to think im a failure and get the i told you so

i do want out i swear, i will continue to save where and when i can
if i had the money to leave now and didnt have kids then i would. i have to bide my time
i keep playing the lotto in hope slim hope lol
yes i will try vibrator lol but todat eldest daughter back from 6th form at 1pm and huby wont leave until 1 10pm so i may not get a chance until tomorrow.

we do dplit costs on bills as neither could afford the rent otherwise