[CHANDLERS WISH]

Cassie... at some point in time you have to realise you don't have a marriage and therefore, stop even talking to him... there is no need, you are just adding fuel to the fire, of where you say you want to end up, without him and with someone that will treat you right.

Don't give him reasons to upset him, ignore him, and if he does speak like that for what ever reason, you are right to say what you said.. If he says, he will do as he feels fit,then you say, yeah to your Mother, to me, grow up and walk off.

You were standing up to yourself and your half way doing it now but you have to add the rest into it, don't walk away and let him get the last word ever, in such a depremental, way.. He's not worth it.

And as for what mood he is in? Who cares, get out the house and go for a walk, and go to the shops and ask for jobs, put some lipstick on and start living your life...

IT IS YOUR LIFE.

CW

[cassie66]

he is fixing pcs im doing my best to ignore him

[cassie66]

he started about is sores this mornig lol said sex is aball ache. i ignored him
he was grumpy spending ages with pcs i dnt care

[WildChild]

Good for you! Why don't you do something nice for yourself today? It doesn't have to involve spending money, just some little indulgence. Take a walk with your girls or by yourself, make a cup of tea in your favorite mug or cup and curl up with a book for a little while? Go through your sewing stuff and find a project to finish or start?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

LOL.. see? When you ignore, he gets grumpy but you are not worried as much as you used to be... That's excellent.

Good idea above there WC.

[cassie66]

hi all
wasnt able to get on here much yesterday as he got up early and sat nexct to me and spend hours on pc trying to stream music/dvds through the shuttle he built

i did my best to ignore him, he still managed to shout at me whn i did speak kept saying i get on his nerves
and he brought up the subject of sore again lol yeah right i ignored him, then he shoved his big toe right in my face and said have a look at that is it an ingrowing toenail etc yuk!
im going to ring round more places about pet sitting today,once he goes work, i need to go to the school too too see if they will give me copies of there attendance records for csacos ex messing me about school reopens today after easter break then i must send info off straight away then i shall chase my holiday claim agian! il feel so much better once the money is back

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Don't forget, he opens your mail and so you need the holiday money to go to an alternate address if you can.

Also, your "rik" is a hacker huh? Hacks into the PC and obtains information illegally tut tut, get a diary and hide it safe, and start recording what you see i think may be a good idea, as a back up love.

You seem on track with what your doing, proud of you.

CW

[cassie66]

you think? thanks im a little scared at times silly huh?
ive just been to school and asked for info there going to ring me when they have it.
yeah he hacks into everything, he s very clever on a pc i ahve to be careful as he has put a special progarmme on the kids again some parental control where he can record everything they do what site they visit who they talk to etc he tried a test on my pc i made sure he deleted after the test!

i presume the holiday money would go direct into my bank account. i shall ring them when he goes to work
i have £230 saved to put into my bank i shall do that when he has gone x

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Ah Cassie, WELL DONE.

That's a good idea, check with them, and keep an eye on the holiday money because "yes" he checks your mail and "yes" keep records, what he is doing is illegal..

I am proud of you.

CW

[cassie66]

thanks
he has just asked me for the child tax credits money. he brought the subject up again, i said i need it to buy the kid some clothes he said only for one week then you can give me the rest
help please do i say they have stop the money? if i just say no he may go off all funny again ive paid the gas/electric bills now i need another excuse

he just getting dressed.