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There are plenty of guys who are "desperate to get laid" because they want to get laid and they simply will not get laid because they say the wrong things, never go out, never talk to anyone etc etc etc.

Wanting something does not mean you will get something. There are a lot of guys that try try try and try again but never manage to score with a woman for whatever reason, that does not mean a woman should just say "oh jeez your having a tough time I understand so I will bend over for you". A woman may listen to you, totally see where you are coming from, understand your situation and concerns but still not want to have sex just because you have an urge to. It still requires her being comfortable with you enough, as in getting to know you, before she makes the leap into the bedroom.

Please reread what I said. I did not say that. Just read it. You ate being so unbelievably unfair.

[liminal]

But it sounds to me like woman don't want to sympathize with my needs they just want to dismiss me as just another typical guy with no feeling who shouldn't be given a second glance. And that's not fair!

You are making assumptions about things that MIGHT happen but haven't. "It sounds to me" is not the same as something that has happened to you.

Look how itsasecret is talking to me.

oh jeez your having a tough time I understand so I will bend over for you".

That is completely not making me feel like I will be understood.

[ItsASecret]

That is completely not making me feel like I will be understood.

What I said is no girl is going to say that, they are going to sit there and listen to you talk, they are not going to get up and just have sex with you after you talk about your feelings. I know you did not say that, and I did not say that you will say something like that, I said other women are not going to approach the situation like that. If you let a woman know you are nervous and trying to figure things out she will listen to you, she will try to understand you, but there will likely be no sex. She again has to feel comfortable around you. A woman will have consideration of your feelings if she is that type of caring person. If she is a caring person it will not matter to her if you have Aspergers or not.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

liminal.

ItsASecret is not talking "at you, to you".... She is being hypothtical on possible "women's reactions" and she is also saying, we as women are "all different".. To play the guessing game as to how we will react? Think? is an assumption, because we are all different. Does that make sense?

We all have feelings, you know I have a friend in a wheelchair who is disabled and has lost all his muscle, great personality he can talk, communicate, however, he uses the card of poor me, no one will sleep with me on so many women... He has been kicked off facebook twice...He stalks.

It is these types that the women are referring to...They are being "general"...

Off course you have feelings, all men have emotions and feelings, all men feel rejection...You are not alone.

You are highly intelligent that is evident... I remember your origional Thread back in September 2010, perhaps people should read that as well, you are a mature man, searching and has come to the stage where you are confused on how to progress, having, possibly had enough of being alone, lonley and in that wanting intimacy as well.

Have you ever joined groups? Where people who are anti-social go, in order to try to learn more on social life today, each 10 years it is different as we grow, we are different.

If you haven't why don't you? You will meet likeminded people, and be able to talk, open up and even possibly meet a nice lady whom feels like you do...

It is in both genders....Lonliness, no sex, and the need to be heard, feeling rejected....

It is just as hard for women as it is for men, regardless of age, or social skills however, having said that, if you know it's social skills, then that is where you start to learn....and then you may be heard more.

CW

[liminal]

All I want to know is that if a girl sees that I am anxious to get laid. And the thing about me is I am often very transparent. Will she assume that I am just a player?

I don't want her to make that assumption that I am just A player and only a player.

I hope that she will see the real me.

[liminal]

We all have feelings, you know I have a friend in a wheelchair who is disabled and has lost all his muscle, great personality he can talk, communicate, however, he uses the card of poor me, no one will sleep with me on so many women... He has been kicked off facebook twice...He stalks.

Yes okay but how can he express his sexual wants then? It looks like getting desperate to get laid is normal from this example.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

The real you is what is "inside".... And that takes time for anyone to get to know....Hense the "get to know them first" suggestions.

Words are more powerful than body language, she may think one thing but words can clear that thought up.

Does that help?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Yes okay but how can he express his sexual wants then? It looks like getting desperate to get laid is normal from this example.

Yes, in this example, he puts it out there in hope someone, anyone will feel sorry for him, but he stalks as well remember, he bombards text messages, don't you love me (even if you are only a friend) and even if you are only a friend, and you end up in a relationship, he gets mad... No matter who you are... So, that comes across really bad....

He could assume that people are aware it's difficult for someone like him and he could be "nice" and treat all women with respect, and not stalk, and take it as it comes, someone is therefore for everyone in life, unless we stay behind closed doors.

[ItsASecret]

All I want to know is that if a girl sees that I am anxious to get laid.

If you say nothing about sex she has no reason to assume you are anxious to have sex. If you are on a date just laughing away at jokes or commenting on movies you have seen she will honestly assume that you are having just as good of a time as she is. No sex talk needs to be involved, she knows just like anyone else that everyone on the planet will think of sex at some point in their life. That does not mean it should be brought up on a date, remember the date is to get to know a person and not to just hop in bed. You both are seeing if you are interested in each other. She does not need to assume you are incredibly anxious to have sex if you do not present like that. If you present yourself on the date with honestly being interested in her, getting to know her, making her laugh, showing her a good time she will not think that you are after sex. But if you suddenly start saying "well I will be honest I want to get laid, I have all these ideas in my head and I really want to have sex" then yeah she is naturally going to have the thought of "well he is now bringing up sex so he obviously wants that instead of actually being out on the date".

[liminal]

You are highly intelligent that is evident... I remember your origional Thread back in September 2010, perhaps people should read that as well, you are a mature man, searching and has come to the stage where you are confused on how to progress, having, possibly had enough of being alone, lonley and in that wanting intimacy as well.

Yes my threads from 2010 would certainly give people a lot if context about what I am saying.