What Is Vibrator Bondage & How To Explore It — Safely

Vibrator bondage is a great way to explore multiple kinks at the same time and discover how much pleasure you (or your partner) can handle.
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Updated:October 2022

Vibrator bondage — a combination of vibrator use with a partner, bondage sex play, and orgasm control — is a fun way to enjoy multiple kinks at the same time.

Here’s what you need to know about vibrator bondage:

  • As with any other type of kinky fun, vibrator bondage involves the use of restraints and heavily relies on trust and the respect of personal boundaries; it must be discussed and consented to by all partners involved — before and during the activity.
  • There are several reasons why people enjoy vibrator bondage, including the sensations associated with restraint and the power exchange involved, as well as testing personal limits and enjoying multiple forms of pleasure simultaneously.
  • Although there are many ways to play and explore bondage with vibrators, planning is a must.

The possibilities of pleasure, pain, and kinky explorations are almost endless with vibrator bondage but as with any form of BDSM play, it isn’t something you can jump into without thought, planning, discussion, and consent.
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What Is Vibrator Bondage

What Is Vibrator Bondage?

Vibrator bondage combines the use of vibrating sex toys with the power and control associated with restraints and bondage.

Partnered vibrator play during this activity can include orgasms, orgasm control (or even orgasm denial) paired together with bondage — and maybe even some pain.

Exploring BDSM with bondage takes on many forms.

Bondage with vibrators might mean that one partner (known as the submissive or bottom) is bound by restraints while the other partner (the Dominant or top) controls the vibrator.

Bondage restraints can also be used to tie the vibrator to a partner, letting the vibrations do the rest.

What happens during vibrator BDSM depends on what the partners involved enjoy and are willing to do (or endure).

On a low setting, the vibrator may tease the bound partner. On a high setting, however, it may force a painful orgasm.

Ultimately, during vibrator bondage, one partner is in control, deciding how to use the sex toy, while the other partner relinquishes their control and submits to the teasing — or the orgasms.

However, their submission must be consented to, and it’s important to have a way to immediately stop when your partner has enough — which we’ll talk about later on.

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Why Do People Enjoy It

Why Do People Enjoy Vibrator Bondage?

People like what they like, but the appeal of vibrator bondage is often about specific kinks or forms of pleasure they want to experience.

Combining vibrators and bondage lets you explore a variety of pleasures:

  • The feeling of restraint with bondage, whether it’s the sensation of leather straps with buckles or rope tied in intricate knots.
  • The pleasure of the vibrator on sensitive parts — with or without orgasms.
  • Giving up power and control over your body and the sensations you feel (consensually, of course).
  • Taking or assuming power and control over your partner and deciding what kind of sensations they’ll experience, as well as when and where they’ll feel them.
  • Exploring the personal limits of how much teasing or how many orgasms a partner can handle.
  • Combining multiple pleasures — bondage, orgasm control, and Dominance and submission — all at once

Vibrator BDSM focuses on two highly popular forms of pleasure (sex toys and bondage) and combines them into a kinky game with nearly endless possibilities.

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How To Try Vibrator Bondage

How To Safely Explore Vibrator Bondage With Your Partner

Before you get your kink on with a high-powered vibrator and a restraint kit like those carried by Adam & Eve, you’ve got to talk to your partner about it.

The first and most important step in exploring any BDSM fun is getting consent.

You do that through clear communication.

This means that, together, you talk about what you want to do, what your boundaries are, what’s allowed and what isn’t, how to stop if things go wrong, and any safety considerations.

Pro Tip: If you plan to use rope for restraint, you need some basic rope bondage skills first because there are risks associated with tying rope incorrectly.

Setting a safeword and maintaining plenty of communication before you get kinky is vital to the pleasure and safety of all involved.

A safeword is simply a word or phrase that doesn’t “fit” the moment and it is one that both partners remember will act as a signal to stop an activity.

Some people use the traffic light system: red means stop, yellow means slow down, and green means go.

Others use any random word they can think of, such as pineapple or hippopotamus.

Although restraints may prohibit this to some degree, establishing a safe gesture is also a good idea — a physical signal that acts as a means of communication if speaking is not possible, such as when one partner is gagged.

“You can also have the submissive hold an item that they drop if they want things to stop,” Dr. Susan Milstein, a human sexuality health educator on our medical review board, said.

“This can get tricky depending on the position they’re in, since the item drop would have to be noticeable,” she added, however, it is an option to consider if it might be effective in a particular situation.

Once you’re on the same page with your partner(s), it’s time to plan a scene and to do this, you’ll need to ask yourselves a few questions:

  • What kind of BDSM vibrator will you use?

Wand massagers are extremely popular for vibrator bondage but any vibrator that feels good and can reach the right parts is a good choice.

  • What kind of bondage will you use?

A restraint kit is often the easiest, especially if you’re just starting out.

You simply need a place to attach the restraints — like on the bed frame, headboard, or footboard — and the ability to buckle the wrist or ankle cuffs.

Many restraint kits are designed to allow easy adjustments to the length of the restraints and the tightness of their fit during use.

  • How will you or your partner be bound?

Hands over head, attached to the bed? Legs spreadeagled with easy access for the vibrator?

Think about positioning ahead of time and consider the comfort level that might be associated with the duration of the activity.

For instance, if the restrained partner will be on their knees, handcuffed to the headboard while facing the wall, this may become uncomfortable over an extended period.

  • How will you use the vibrator?

Asked another way, what form of orgasm control do you intend to explore?

There are a variety of options and they can all be combined in multiple ways.

  1. Teasing involves allowing your partner to feel the vibrator sensations but not enough to reach orgasm.
  2. Edging means you’ll bring your partner to the point of orgasm and then stop the sensation before they climax.
  3. Forced orgasms involve holding the vibrator in place and/or using high settings to bring on harder, faster orgasms. These can be done whether you are multi-orgasmic or a one-and-done kind of person.
  4. Post-orgasm torture means continuing the stimulation after the orgasm — when the sensations become painful instead of pleasurable.

What your vibrator bondage scene looks and feels like will depend on the desires you and your partner(s) want to explore together.

It can be a little or a lot, sensual or torturous, or a combination.

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Conclusion

In Conclusion

Vibrator bondage is a great way to explore multiple kinks at the same time and discover how much pleasure you (or your partner) can handle.

Make sure to talk about it with your partner so you’re both clear on what will and won’t happen.

Plan your scene together, keep the lines of communication open, and have a good time!

Editor’s Note: This article is part of our How To Use A Vibrator and Everything Vibrators hubs, in-depth and evolving resources that comprehensively explore all aspects of vibrators from the different types and how to use them, to materials and safety — created to help you achieve the sexual pleasure you deserve.

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