The Best Way To Use A Vibrator With A Partner

Using A Vibrator During Foreplay

Although heteronormative, the term “foreplay” implies the activity as being something that comes before penetrative sex, however, foreplay is really just sex without penetration.

For many women, it’s the warm-up for penetrative sex later.

Foreplay is what gets you hot and bothered, ready for however you define sex, but it is a part of sex.

Vibrators are great for this warm-up.

You can use a vibrator during foreplay with your partner in a few ways:

• Use a finger vibrator on your partner’s neck, nipples, or inner thighs, letting the toy become an extension of your hand.
• Before penetrative sex, you can also make sure you (or your partner) get off with a wand massager, G-spot vibrator, clit sucker, or another favorite vibrator.
• Play with a bit of power and control by using a couple’s vibrator together. One partner applies it to their hot spot while the other plays with the button or app that controls it. Additionally, if you’re into BDSM, vibrator bondage is an exciting way to play with Dominance and submission.
• During a night on the town, a wearable vibrator can be worn by one partner discreetly in public for teasing thrills that are controlled remotely by the other.

Vibrators are great for teasing and ensuring plenty of orgasms are enjoyed — long before penetration occurs, if it does.

Using A Vibrator During Masturbation

Masturbation doesn’t have to remain a solo act.

It’s a great way to have sex with your partner with a lot less energy required and orgasms are practically guaranteed.

Grab your favorite vibrator and let your partner watch you get off.

This can be a great learning opportunity for them or a big turn-on if they’re a bit of a voyeur.

You might experiment with a couple’s vibrator that uses a remote control, such as a wearable vibrator or an app-controlled toy.

Get yourself started and then let them take over.

Mutual masturbation is also a fun option for using a vibrator with your partner, with two ways to play.

1. Lay in bed together, side by side, using your favorite toy on yourself while they use their vibrator. You don’t have to talk or even touch but you can have a satisfying experience with masturbation — together.
2. Play together by using a vibrator on your partner as they use one on you. Warning: You may forget what you’re doing when the orgasms start rolling in.

Using A Vibrator During Sex

A great way to make sure you and your partner both get off during sex is to add a vibrator to the fun.

Any vibrator that feels good to you and reaches your sensitive spots is the right one to use. Toys work in almost any sex position that’s comfortable for both of you, too.

The right way to use a vibrator during sex with a partner involves making sure that the toy is cleaned between partners and orifices to mitigate the spread of bacteria, particularly when play involves the vagina and anus.

If using a condom over your toy, make sure to change the condom when switching between partners or orifices, as well.

Additionally, you’ll want to make sure to use the right lube during vaginal and anal penetration.

If your lubricant of choice is water-based, the lube’s pH must be suitable for each activity — so you’ll need two separate lubricants.

Silicone and oil-based lubes do not have pH and are generally more compatible with vaginal and anal sex interchangeably.

Safety precautions aside, all that matters is that you talk about it first and do whatever feels good for both of you.