How To Use A Vibrator During Sex: The Best Positions & Types

Discover how to use vibrators on erogenous zones all over the body and which types work best during partnered sex to skyrocket intimacy and pleasure.
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Vibrators aren’t just for lonely nights when you need an orgasm but don’t have a partner around.

They can absolutely be used during sex with your partner!

Vibrators can be used on erogenous zones all over the body, regardless of gender, making them a versatile tool for increasing sexual pleasure and intimacy between partners.

If you’re at all intimidated by approaching your partner to explore vibrators with you, that’s understandable.

The thing to remember is this: Vibrators aren’t a “replacement” for sex.

They’re an enhancement — one that can take your partnered sex life to entirely new levels of pleasure.

In this article, we’ll talk about:

Editor’s Note: This article is part of our How To Use A Vibrator and Everything Vibrators hubs, in-depth and evolving resources that comprehensively explore all aspects of vibrators from the different types and how to use them, to materials and safety — created to help you achieve the sexual pleasure you deserve.

How To Use A Vibrator During Sex

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If you think your vibrator is just for solo fun, think again!

Whether you grab your favorite toy from a drawer or you buy one just to use with your sweetie, vibrators make a perfect addition to sex.

Vibrators aren’t just great for vulvas and penises.

You can use small finger vibrators or bullet vibes on nipples, testicles, and any other erogenous zone. As long as the buzzing sensation feels good on the body, go for it!

Erogenous zones you might explore with a vibrator during sex include:

  • Nipples
  • Vulva
  • Labia
  • Buttocks
  • Anus (externally)
  • Shaft of the penis
  • Testicles
  • Frenulum (beneath the head of the penis)
  • Perineum (between the genitals and anus)
  • Neck
  • Behind the ears
  • Inner thigh
  • Backs of the knees
  • Any external area craving stimulation

Keep your lube handy, though.

Even if your vibrator won’t be used for penetration, you may still desire a little less friction against the skin during use.

What kinds of vibrators are good for sex? Anything that fits against or between your bodies and feels good.

Finger vibrators and bullet vibrators fit well in the hand and add extra sensation while your hands roam each other’s bodies.

Additionally, they’re not intimidating in the slightest.

They aren’t phallic like vaginal vibrators — so there won’t be concerns about “penis envy” — and they’re easy for anyone to use, regardless of experience level.

Plus, they make fantastic oral sex vibrators — you can use them while performing cunnilingus or fellatio without them being “in the way.”

Additionally, smaller wand massagers and other compact vibrators are perfect for clitoral orgasms during penetration.

Vibrating cock rings let you experience hands-free vibrations during penetrative sex.

There are so many ways and types of vibrators to use during sex, the possibilities are practically limitless.

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Best Sex Positions For Using A Vibrator During Sex

Any sexual position that lets you comfortably hold or use a vibrator is a good one to try using with a partner.

But if you need a few ideas for having partnered sex with a vibrator, we’ve got you covered.

  • Missionary position: This one is great if you’d like to wear a vibrating cock ring or hold a small finger or bullet vibrator between your bodies.
  • Spooning: The “little spoon” (the person laying in front) can hold a vibrator against their body in any way that feels good while their partner penetrates them from behind. If the vibrator is powerful enough, both partners may feel the vibration.
  • Cowgirl and Reverse Cowgirl: If you use a wand massager, both of you will feel the vibrations while you’re on top. If your partner wears a vibrating cock ring, you can control how you feel the sensations as you grind against them.

And let’s not forget the joys of mutual masturbation.

There’s no single “best” position for this, but if you’re interested in experiencing something different in bed, mutual masturbation is a great option for satisfying partnered sex with a vibrator.

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Using A Vibrator On Your Partner

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Because most of us use our vibrators on ourselves, we forget that we can turn the tables and, with consent, use them on our partners.

They don’t have to do anything but lie back and enjoy the sensations.

Before you bring a vibrator into your relationship and or dive into an activity like vibrator bondage, however, make sure you have a conversation about it. They need to be willing, and this shouldn’t come as a total surprise.

If they already know what they like, follow their lead on where to touch them and what kind of vibrator to use.

If they don’t know what type of stimulation they’ll enjoy, experiment with different erogenous zones and settings on the vibrator.

Start low and slow if they’re new to the sensations, and just have fun exploring them together!

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How To Use A Vibrator On A Woman

Many women who like and use vibrators know exactly where they want it to be used — it’s often on their clit, though that’s not universally true. It may be the G-spot or a combination of both.

No matter how you use a vibrator on a woman, make sure their preferred spots are on the list of destinations — and in most cases, it’s perfectly safe to use a vibrator on a pregnant woman.

The type of vibrator you’re working with will dictate (to some degree) the ways you’ll use it on a woman.

You can also use a vibrator on other sensitive spots on her body like her nipples or anus.

Start with a low setting on the nipples, as some women can be extremely sensitive here.

Stick with external stimulation against the anus.

Unless you’re using a vibrating butt plug or some other anal sex toy, don’t insert the vibrator into anyone’s anus.

It could get stuck, and then you get to have an awkward conversation in the ER.

Listen to her and follow her lead on what feels good and what doesn’t.

Some women only need a little stimulation to feel good or get off while others need a lot more power in their vibrator. And sometimes what she likes can change based on her mood.

Take your time and be patient.

The build-up to orgasm, even with a vibrator, can take a while for some women. The point is to provide pleasure to your partner, not to rush her.

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How To Use A Vibrator On A Man

Yes, some men enjoy using vibrators.

You can choose vibrators specifically designed for people with penises like prostate massagers and masturbators, such as Fleshlights and strokers that can be found at Adam & Eve — or you can use any vibrator you already have.

When using a vibrator on a man, take your time finding the right setting and the right spots.

The penis and testicles can be extremely sensitive, so you don’t want to start at the highest setting. It might feel like a jackhammer on his balls.

But don’t be surprised if your guy loves more intense vibration, either.

Try applying the vibrator to his nipples, the shaft of his penis, glans, testicles, or perineum.

You both might be pleasantly surprised at just how good a vibrator will make him feel.

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Best Types Of Vibrators For Sex

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I sound like a broken record but let me say it again:

Any vibrator that can fit comfortably against your body during sex and feels good is the best vibrator for partnered sex.

It’s all about what you and your partner enjoy!

Finger vibrators and bullet vibrators that are easy to hold tend to be better for sensitive areas like the nipples.

Larger vibrators, like traditional wand massagers, are great for anyone who prefers a lot of stimulation or wants both partners to feel the sensations during sex.

Vaginal vibrators or G-spot massagers can do the work of penetration while your partner is doing other things (like oral sex).

Vibrating anal toys are another great option for this, too!

And don’t forget vibrators for your men: cock rings, prostate massagers, and masturbators.

If you’re ready to add a vibrator to your sex life, consider some of these toys:

With so many vibrating sex toys to choose from, you’ll never be left wanting when it comes to discovering new things to explore with your partner!

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In Conclusion

If you already love using a vibrator solo, consider using one during sex.

And if you’re looking for an easy and orgasmic way to spice up your sex life, bring a vibrator to the party.

You may be pleasantly surprised by how much better sex is when you add a toy.

If you’re still searching for your perfect vibrator, don’t miss our Everything Vibrators guide.

And if you don’t know what kind of vibrator to try — or have never used one before, take our vibrator quiz to find your perfect match!