[cassie66]

i will do. i can have what i choose in the supermarket
we went to physio no help really as soonaswegot so the place he started limping and holding my hand physio thinks he may be a trappped root nerve said he d refer him for an mri scan whch will be a few weeks wait. hubby asked for crutches too
soo as we got out from seeing phyisohubby stopped limping! he told physiohowmuch pain he wasin!

hubby says i cant go out in case he falls over!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Yes I know hun... Another phobia...

And it means constant pay, ( no bonus) but pay and guess what? NO WORK...

All I will honestly say is "Another phobia"... remember the others, they are all phobias, teach him that you know... State " Another phobia" I am catching a bus and having girly time.... You'll be fine.

STAND UP FOR YOURSELF.


CW

[WildChild]

Cassir this newest chapter really concerns me. There is no way you can get out without anyone getting hurt! No matter what you do he will be 'hurt'. But look at what he is doing to you and your life?! You have to protect yourself and your kids. He is doing to you exactly what he did to the doc in the docs office!!!! Why would he think he was entitled to Any of the proceedes from the sale of his mother's house!? He is a user and a manipulator, this is a form of abuse. Emotional abuse and the restriction of your physical needs and movements is physical abuse. Physical abuse isn't just hitting.

His mum got out from under him and made tracks, didn't she? You need to do the same. Where goes, what he does, isn't your concern. Make sure you get him off your bank account immediately and off any credit cards and such or I guarantee he'll run them up. My now ex got rather POd when we splitting up, he tried to buy a car on my credit card but I had put a Her only on the account and his card was expired. I had that account for 30 years. He was mad. Tough luck. He pulled money from the HELOC and bought it that way, that was the second vehicle he had added into the cost of the house and then it was all my fault that the HELOC balance is high! You can't win with this kind of thinking.

He is getting more controlling and more manipulative, you need to stop this. What happens as he spirals into greater dependency and relies on more manipulation and then you leave? I have a bad feeling about where this is heading. You need to cover your back and your kid's.

[cassie66]

i knw your right its just my kids come first
he s usuing my argos store card at the mo he can pay for it too! he s moody today
im just kinda trying to ignore him
now he s asking for dinner he s never cooked his own tea
says he s too tired
he s sat down all day on pc!

hewill never get his name on my bank account
its still in my old name i never got around to changing it

his mumwould nver take him back

i need him back at work!

[Guest]

ugh...i have seen this happen countless times.. the woman(or the man) complains about their sig other...yet will not leave them.no matter what they say the other person does,or how horrible they are,they continue to stay. the majority of the time,its just venting the person wants to do.or they leave and go right back soon after. its frustrating.
cassie... this is your life and your marriage,only you can decide what makes you happy and what your willing to put up with.nothing any of us say is going to change that.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

No, you need to get yourself a job and get yourself income for you and your kids, and you need to let him stand on his own two feet, and do that cooking and cleaning and shower or you need to tell him to get to his mothers.

CW

[cassie66]

he had another badnight heis awake he was grumty last night

wasin bedandi put my armaround himfor acuddle andhe saidget off you not touching me while you have been playing with yourseelf! he said i can smell you from here its disgudting and the smell lingers for days!

i just turned over after that insult i do not smell! i couldnt help the tears he just said dnt start and that was it

yesim really trying to get a job
i did think about buying and selling on ebay i know some people have made money that way

i have applied for lots of jobs i seem to get ignored
in order to leave him i need a good plan and some more money behind me.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

A sexual woman "smells" but the smell is sex... ok... it is a woman and her smell and men love it... if they have a sense of smell they can, what suprises me is that he can? Or is he lying?

Is he assuming that as he's not giving to you and your sexual you would do for yourself?

Anyways... the main point I want to get across is a woman's sent is sexual and if a man can smell that that's "mating" and it's perfectly normal you should be proud, your a sexual woman waiting in the happening.

Keep applying for goodness sake for all jobs till you get one, then kick him to the curb back to mummy who helped create this and is glad your taking on the slack instead of her, pfttt.

xx

CW

[cassie66]

im at breaking point thismorning
he s been having a go at me and sniping he called me stupid
he says alli care about is sexnot true
so i gotdressed and came down stairs
his mum has invited us for a meallater but wecannot afford it i saidno to him for once and he got nasty and said fine i l go alone
he cannot use his card as he would get overdrawn but hes aid he will
i said not to my card as cant really afford it and im not in the mood for socialsizing
i just feeel like running away. i cannot face his mum and pretend everything is ok

he said heistoo tired toget up and move and have sex yes maybe but not to tired to spend money we dont havegoing for a meal! i told him that and he got angry

im trying to hide my tears from kids but hard

[cassie66]

i dont smell! at least i shower