[WildChild]

It's all bs dear, manipulative stuff, He isn't willing to be on the street now is he?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

yes i know there are lots of time differences on here its almost noon here and i post whenever he is at work or in bed he will be abck at 230pm so wont eb able to get back on until the morning
kevin is not online much
i have just signed up to myspace not quite sure how its works but im called cassie on the site and asked for it to be private and accepting incoming freinds requests
well you have a good sleep i shall get lunch shortly

am i the only english person on here?
x

Am I the only Australian?

Answer, no, to both of us...

Yes, it is blackmail, so don't pay it, the day you stop paying, is the day he will start panicing and probably ask his Mother for help, remember, you are not his slave, or his bank.... neither.... it's time to just not do.. what do you have to lose? So you have to find somewhere else to go but in the meantime, you have saved all the money because you stopped paying for what he is organising (his needs) and kept it all, like another $2k, in a few weeks for not giving in and paying that makes sense to me.

[cassie66]

he s not having my savings to pay council taX. when he gets 30th april pay it should be more money so if it is and he will put it in my account i shall move some of that inot my account too. i dnt know how ling it will take to save enough but i shall keep on saving

and im not paying simon either

[cassie66]

he will give me some money tomoorw afternoon so i shall use his to pay council tax

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Sounds like you had a normal day for once, Cassie.

It's good that he is giving you some money and realises (thinks) you don't have it...

Must make you feel a little glad..

CW

[cassie66]

it was his idea bout 4 moinths back to put whats left over from his debts ( not been a lot lately) into my account the idea being all that is in his account s the direct debits so if he needs anything say ptrol food its on my account i know exactly howmuch is his and mine with him been off work so long last month all her could give me was 200 previous months have been 900 600 and 500 see the difference so when he gets paid tomorrow i think her l be lucky to scrape 1000 and as he needs 800 to stay in his accounbt to cover his debts/direct debits he l only give me 200 which isnt enough to survive a month i need 500 min so you see what i mean? so im hoping in 4 weeks time 30 apr he l have a better wage and i l work put what we need and put the rest into my other account he l never no ashe is so bad with money and figures and im good very good
until 30 th april wage its going to be tough as besides the money he has to keep so he doesnt go overdrawn (thus me having to pay his charges) he has 45 to pay on one bill 10 on another 7 on anthother petrol food and any other expenses to come out of that 200 not enough
he has been asked to fix sam s computer (florist shop he has known her for ages) he ehlped her choose apc last night was gone 2 hours she gave him £20 so i put that to one side and said its petrol money she has asked him to set it all up in her shop on satday good cos a, he l be away from me and b shel pay him again good the more she pays him the better for me so i dnt have too

[CHANDLERS WISH]

So are you saying, his debts are 200 lbs per week? and if there is anything left you get it, but then he asks you for money for petrol etc, and then you are trying to pay everything else, food, clothing, children, mortage, rates, water, electricity ?

So in other words, he takes most of that 200lbs back?

CW

[cassie66]

yeah pretty much his debts are 800 a month that includes half his rent whcih is 375 i pay other half plus his other bills i mentioned if he gets a good month i get 900 and i roughly need 500 so id have 400 left to hide anything spare is supposed to go towards saving for electric/gas which is every 12 weeks 600 pound i get 475 child maintence a month 185 c ben a month and 800 child tax credits a month and its those tax credits which are for the kids that he wants be to give him to help clear up his debts quicker im usuing that at mo to pay gas/eletric etc

his theory is if i give him my 800 a month then eventually he l clear his debt and have the 190 a month he crrently pays to his c card free
his shares in the company mature on 1st may it is 5000k his c card debt is over 10k so he is going to pay the 5k to half the debt then want to clear the rest with my child tax credits!

i want that to save in account for me and kids for future

no he knows i get 200 week and oncde ive paid current bills he l be after it so i need to think quick so he cannot get it
why should my kids suffer cos he wants me to clear HIS debts see what i mean?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

his shares in the company mature on 1st may it is 5000k his c card debt is over 10k so he is going to pay the 5k to half the debt then want to clear the rest with my child tax credits!

Frigg me.... So it's really me,me,me,me how much did you get from your Divorce that you spent on him? $15lbs?

Firstly, you need to do something for me.

You seem to have a pretty good idea, of what you pay per month.. I want you write that all down on paper... total it.

Show him and then state this... " stop trying to even consider manipulating me" you are not paying $5lbs to clear you debt, you are paying $2.5lbs and the rest is going towards our debts, not yours or else, here's the simple fact, I am sending you back to your Mother only she doesn't want you so where are you going to go? You need me, so quit being stupid and see the light.

"Have I changed?" Yep I have, i will help but you will too or else this marriage is over..

You need to add the last bit so he doesn't know what you are really thinking.

Do you think you can do that?

Why are you going to let him pay off his debt whilst you pay his?

Have a serious think madam.

CW

[cassie66]

i have no debts why should i pay his? yes he will half his c card debt soon he l still be left eith over 5k on it and still have a 10 loan which is 167 a month

i know exactly what all bills add up too and so does he its all written on pc!
dnt worry he s not getting anymore than neceassary again i l help pay gas eletric etc that i cannot avoid

i get just under £1500 a month from ex/government for kids but only while there in fulltime education once they leave i wont get a penny.
eldest had 1 more year so after that the money will reduce he knows this

i ask myself if this was the other waya round and it was me with me debt would he pay mine? i dnt think so
im careful with money and never had debts

he often asks for stupid stuff like i need another fish or some diy items not anymore i will always say my purse is empty
and he has the cheek to say im selfish! theres not a selfish bone in my body im generous and honest but fromnow on im thinking of me and my kids only
he can stop sponging off me ive had enough