[cassie66]

ok i hear you and i have said to him many times s its my account you ncant make me he just always has an answer for everything like you l do as your told woman
well he cant touch my savings account as ive swapped it to another and im awaiting new details in the post but he doesnt know that
we have to pay the council tax today he said last night he can give me 300 so i l take council tax out of that i have had some tax credits go in today but thats towards the gas bill and mondays child ben will pay food bill so i cannot pay his charges

my mum was a very strong woman and i miss her every day ven though she died in jan 2000
i cant believe ive been so stupid and got myself into another situation like the kids dad
how could i have thought i was in love?
i couldnt have stayed in previous home anyway wasnt suitable and i hated the town
i hate been alone but i also like to be independant and able to please my self where what etc i do or think in a relationship you have to compromise but its seems like im doing all the comprosmising

[cassie66]

him been married to me doesnt mean he owns me ormy account he seems to think so!

i hate it when he shouts and gets moody all over nothing his mum says he has atemper iver told him not to shout at me he says he never has and its a discussion and that i would no about it if he really lost his temper

you wnat to hear him on the phone! if he s mad he really lets rip example he got a final demand for phone bill last week we never even had the bill! so he rang up and ranted and raved and shouted down the phone to the asian your .......(oops not allowed on WH) Cassie.

you should see him in the car if someone cuts him up he presses the horn and sticks 2 fingers up at people

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Ok, so your Mum is your insirpation that's ok... You do hear me huh.. You haven't been stupid, rather we learn... You will not ever do this again... YOu wanted love, you hoped... I didn't I just believed... But this is you... this is what you want and so you must see into the future, they must make your toes curl, haha, seriously, you will know...

Yes you do have to compromise but you have to weed the using from the real.

If you didn't pay those bills and stopped stressing as I said before, HE HAS NO CHOICE and he WILL ask his Mother.

QUIT IT... you can't, you don't have it ( shhh ) on what you do...

Stand TALL....
Finally. please.

CW

[cassie66]

ok i will
cannot see him mum paying simon hubby will have to pay him in installents as he s afreind he may a garage wouldnt, he is supoposed to be fixing sams pc on sat so he cannot be in 2 places at once so he haS double booked himself not my problem

you wanna hear him in the supermarket i take no notice now best thing is now he is abck at work i ca go supermarket and get the ferw items he moaned at me for getting

so this afternnon whn he checks account and moans i will says its not my fault something else came out etc he l still say it is
post come come we have a reminder for the gas bill.

he needs to fix sams pc so he l get some money towards his petrol costs we are still down by a few hundred this month
i really am dfed up of him getting in a mess and expecting me to bail him out

he hasnt tried to have sex with me in ages and ive ignored him too he just gets in bed says goodnight dear and turns over.
he wakes me up every morn too this week he up at 4,45am and complains its ok for u u csan stay in bed til 7 yesbut next week when im up at 7 he wsill stay in bed til 11

[CHANDLERS WISH]

ahhh how else can I friggen tell you?

I just told you my past life, fortunately not my life for past 2 years and way not past 9, 8, 7, 6, etc...

You can already see what he is.

You can already see a child.

You really think his Mum won't help her son when that's all she did? All she wanted more than anything was him not living with her, not so much financially but her own listening to abuse? You need to just say to her NO MORE, you created it you deal with it woman.

You think in his "childish mind" goodnight dear, he is not smiling? He is waiting waiting for you to "want him , need him, after all that's his calling card to control you.

You've already said, that you know what the heck did you do? So you need to as I saId, WC said, R said, why are they not answering anymore? Cause you are listening but to parts, not all.


Review past 40 posts,think,understand,and see..

I am, we are proud of you seriously, but your missing bits,


xx

CW

[cassie66]

im trying my best honeslty and im listening but when he s is shouting at me its not nice

he has always called me dear and lately thunder thighs he knows i hate that he can be very chidish
so when he turns over and says goodnight dear do you think he is waiitng for a reaction? in the past i have pestered him to have sex but it neevr got me anyway it always had to be when HE wanted it, not me
he also says he cannot cuddle me for more than 2 mins because his shoulder hurts and he hates skin to skin contact so likes a gap in the middle he is always pulling bed clothes off me too

im trying to be brave and say /do right thing but i always sound weak to me i am trying to me strong

[cassie66]

when he comes in at 230 he always peaks his head over the fence and then ducks up and down a few times and then makes a movement with his hand that he wants a cuppa

he walks right by kitchen sits down and says im thirsy make me a cuppa dear my back is killing me

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Ok, I have to get.

I don't know if I want to cry or scream or laugh?

He can't even call him a man seriously can he?

The buck lies with you Cassie. You are fueling the fire. You need to laugh and say, I'm 6ft I can whip your butt, make your own friggen tea... child.

Ok, I am just saying he knows, he knows, your stuck he knows, this is but a game, he knows.

Soooooo... I'm thristy beach make me something... huh? And then uses owee, sorry back sore, you say, I'm hungry man, make me something oh and i am not sore, but would like to be, followed by pftt and walk.

Yeah i know those words are wasted, but you need to see, what he is doing, you really want some guy to have you by the balls? seriously?

You know he won't last, it's gone soon, why are you letting him control you why?

I get what he's doing, I get that you see "some of it" I don't get that even though your pieved, that you think that if you don't adhere, to his egg shells that you lose? Do you really?

Get more advise next week then tell us, but as I said, good for you for at least seeing some... not all but some of this.

I'ts worth it... You will grow with this...

CW

[cassie66]

is it best to ignore him when he starts? does he expect me to say/act/do etc

even my eldest says he is soo childish and after witnessing him never wants to get married
i do see some but not all am i blind/stupid?

i thought i had good judgment common sense

i try to tell you/rememebr all he does says etc so you can try to make some sense out of it

i reeally cant see him asking his mum for money she giives him 60 a month now that goes to my argos card which he got stuff from

thinking back to the homeymoon had me in tears 5 times! over nothing most of our arguments were over sex or now its money
last night for example he was trying to fix a pc with a prob i dnt know much knowlwdge but made a suggestion he said dnt talk out of your a.... think now i will keep quiet

i will get advise

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Yes sweet, that is what he is "ACHING for" he is laughing all the way to the bank so please ignore.

I am sorry if i sound frustrated, I just don't know how else I can help you but want to so much ok.

Your children are important to you so see that now they are even scared of marriage, as you state so schools may not be as important as you think, rather a stable happy environment.

Yes you tell us all, me all again I am sorry I am just so angry myself with him, I stay here to be with you at night and then I go to bed mad, I try to find your answers, for you, but I know your not ready for get f... ( we can't use * in words) you may have noticed I deleted a couple, but I feel your position ok.

That is sad, if I marry again, it will be my first, I will not share mine here.. as i have no baggage. But point being, we can all make mistakes.

Night Cassie, IGNORE him... It's not your fault simple.. You already know that, just tell him... Goodness sake it's your friggen account not mine, deal with it and walk away.