[cassie66]

my worry is when i get a job he will want my wages for bills etc. i wil have to lie how much iu earn, no good iof he asks to see a wage slip

i dnt know how he is going to pay for his car repairs. he needs petrol too. money is inmy handbag, im just lucky no one has found it.
i am working towards tomorrow, withoutg cash i cannot do anything
i wil try to save some of the child maintence money but i know we have bils to pay.
i will save when i can, it just means i cannot give my kids anything, i cannot tell them im saving up to leave.

i havw my ex hubbyh causing trouble too. he keeps ringing up child support, trying to claim some money back he cant he is lying through his teeth telling them he has shared cared and fater money, no he doesnt! he has ro prove it first

im fed up, but i must remain strong
thanks for been here for me, i have no one

[CHANDLERS WISH]

my worry is when i get a job he will want my wages for bills etc. i wil have to lie how much iu earn, no good iof he asks to see a wage slip

i dnt know how he is going to pay for his car repairs. he needs petrol too. money is inmy handbag, im just lucky no one has found it.
i am working towards tomorrow, withoutg cash i cannot do anything
i wil try to save some of the child maintence money but i know we have bils to pay.
i will save when i can, it just means i cannot give my kids anything, i cannot tell them im saving up to leave.

i havw my ex hubbyh causing trouble too. he keeps ringing up child support, trying to claim some money back he cant he is lying through his teeth telling them he has shared cared and fater money, no he doesnt! he has ro prove it first

im fed up, but i must remain strong
thanks for been here for me, i have no one

Never say thank you cause honestly, that's what we are here for, hey... but i appreciate it...

Well seems you have new issues, you can prove the ex so don't worry.

Yes, that's my concern with you finding a job now, he will screw you for all... but you must remain strong you are and you are working towards a future...

Tell me.........what happens if he went back to Mumma... Where would you be financially? with all the bills?

What happened to something that you were trying to claim back, I can't recall but you were chasing some holiday money?

Did you ever confide with Dad? I mean i know you were scared to but with the new information of my husband wants you dead and collect?

CW

[cassie66]

im still chasing holiday money, nothing yet. if he went back to mums, i cud not afford to stay here and he knows it
i havnt told dad yet, didnt think it was right time, as he is not to well at the moment

i went upstairs to hubby and guesds what? he s sore so no sex no surpirises there then
he just said i know lets goes bowling! i said i cannot afford it, he said use savings acount oh no! i said you cnt bowl what happens if you put your back out again? he is due back wed and if he lifts a 14lb bowling ball his back may hurt he says i think back is ok now what if thats his plan? to put his back out so he cant go back?
i said we cant affoird it and he said i know use the money you got from the ticket you sold on ebay nightmare! im running out of things to say help

[CHANDLERS WISH]

well you used that money for the kids, as you were using their money to pay bills and you don't have a cent to your name now.

You need to bluff...

How's that? Makes sense sweet.

Doesn't it.

He will only pull tricks if, he thinks the river has run dry of money...

If he thinks you can cope? Then he willllllll pull his back as a problem...

The river has run dry right..........

RIGHT CW

[cassie66]

i think i have put him off for now at least

[WildChild]

Hi Cassie,
Sounds like he is losing it. You know when he threatened to sleep in the car you should have said, "Good Idea! Why don't you go live in it?" Don't you know anyone who could help you move? Someone who owns a car or a light truck? I moved everything my kids and I had with a station wagon and a freind's SUV - could have done it with just the car. There were a few things I couldn't move but it was an opportunity to simplify. What about some of your kids freinds?
This guy sounds like a total jerk! You don't need this in your life.
You aren't running out of things to say, just keep saying NO. People who can't pay their bills don't spend money for bowling or pubs or any kind of going out. You don't need to justify or make excuses, just say NO. You certainly don't spend your savings for him. Seems like your handbag is the first place he would look, don't you have someplace else you could put the money? A true hiding place? The removable base of a lamp, in an envelope well taped to the underside of a drawer in a piece of furniture he isn't likely to use anyway? Someplace no one will stumble across accidentally or if they are snooping?

Have you considered a two prong work approach? Maybe one job that pays in a verifyable manner and another that pays cash - like cleaning or gardening? You are still wanting sex with him, are having a hard time telling him no, it sounds like you may be miserable but you aren't Really clear yet as to wanting him out of your picture. You need to get clear about it, you're moving in that direction. Once you get there things will start to fall into place.

[cassie66]

he is busy cleaning his fish tank at moment so i will quickly chat
he is moaning about needing new gravel, im ignoring him
i dnt have anyone to help me move. i ahve no freinds or relatives just my dad who is elderly and disabled he has no car

hubby constantly moaning either its my cooking its not that bad honest lol he says its either to hot to cold not cooked enogh over done etc my daughter said if your not happt with mums cooking do it yourself he didnt answer her

he should be back at work wed god i hope so peace then i can come on this site more often without worry

i just want to feel wanted

[kcmasseur4u]

Dear Cassie,
Note, Everyone is wired differently and Everyone needs either, Mental, Social, Physical, Spiritual, or Emotional stimulation. Find out what his love language is... and go from there.
Good luck

[rcoreyus]

Cassie, I think you need to go to your father for help. No one should be living with someone like your husband. Your children are starting to notice. If your father won't help, you will need to think of something else, but I think it is time to ask.

[mewhenim]

Yeah, I've been working like CRAZY trying to get out of my financial hole. Hubby (almost ex) is screwing me into the ground And now I'va caught some sort of flu... awsome. I'm just not in a great place right now. However I did get to go see Taylor Swift the other night which was awsome.