Everything You Want To Know About Double Penetration

DP can be arousing to different people for different reasons. For some, it’s about seeking intense, overwhelming physical and/or visual stimulation. For others, it might be more about thrill-seeking or adding novelty into sex. — Dr. Justin Lehmiller

Double penetration, also known as DP, is sex that involves penetrating two different orifices simultaneously, or the same orifice with two things at once.

Double penetration plays a starring role in many sexual fantasies — nearly 40% of them — but the “hardcore” version that’s most often associated with porn is what typically comes to mind when people hear the term.

The truth is that double penetration does not have to involve two raging erections mercilessly pounding a single vagina, anus, or mouth — an activity that is fraught with great potential for injury, even though it is the most common image we see in pornography.

In case no one has told you this before, allow me to be the first: Porn doesn’t accurately represent real life.

Double penetration can be achieved through much “softer” (and safer!) means and in fact, some of them may involve subtle ways that you’ve probably already explored DP without even knowing it.

For example:

• If you’ve ever been fingered while giving a blowjob, congratulations: You’ve experienced double penetration.

• Likewise, if you’ve ever placed a finger in your partner’s vagina and anus at the same time, you’ve also taken part in DP.

• And, if you’ve ever had intercourse while simultaneously enjoying a finger in your mouth, that too was double penetration.

From threesome adventures to kinky sex featuring power and control, plenty of people — including lots of women — like the idea of experimenting with double penetration.

Whether you’ve already tried DP or you’re unsure if you want to, you probably already know that it could be intense — particularly if you explore the more hardcore versions of it.

That said, there are many soft ways to play with double penetration that will keep you safe while taking your sexual pleasure to new heights.

Again, you don’t have to mimic what you see in porn to enjoy this, or any, activity.

With enough preparation and the right mindset about what you want to get out of the experience, you’ll be checking this off your sexual bucket list in no time.

If you’re ready to take double penetration from fantasy to reality, here’s what you need to know.

What Does Double Penetration Mean?

So what is double penetration?

Is it just the threesome sex you’ve watched in porn or the kink scene with multiple partners you’ve read about online?

Yes, double penetration sex can definitely be that.

But it’s also much more.

In this section we’ll explore:

• What Double Penetration Is
• What Is Softcore DP?
• What Is Hardcore DP?

What Is Double Penetration?

What’s the first thing you imagine when you think of DP? It’s probably one woman having sex at the same time with two men.

That’s only one way to define it.

Dr. Justin Lehmiller, author of the book Tell Me What You Want, who also sits on our medical review board, explained double penetration this way:

“‘Double penetration’ is one of those terms that different people define in somewhat different ways. 

For example, some people define it as being penetrated in two different orifices at the same time (e.g., vagina and anus, vagina and mouth, etc.), whereas others may define it as having two partners penetrate the same orifice at the same time.”

Double penetration happens in many different ways and can include multiple body parts or sex toys — or a combination of the two.

You might penetrate two different orifices — like your mouth and vagina or your vagina and anus — simultaneously.

You can also penetrate the same orifice with two things at once, such as using two dildos in your vagina or having two penises in your butt.

There are, however, important distinctions to be made when it comes to the intensity of double penetration — and its safety.

As we’ll talk about next, there are two forms of double penetration: softcore and hardcore. The latter is considerably riskier in terms of personal injury.

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What Is Softcore Double Penetration?

The “softer” side of double penetration is probably also the lesser-known version of it, involving the use of fingers or smaller sex toys to explore simultaneous penetration of one or more orifices at the same time.

Although it can carry some degree of risk depending on the techniques explored, softcore double penetration is the safer form of the activity.

The most common DP sexual fantasies often involve threesomes between one woman and two men.

But that’s not the only way to indulge and as we mentioned earlier, it doesn’t have to mimic what you see in porn — nor should it.

In fact, some people may have experienced DP before without even realizing it.

For instance, if your partner has slipped a finger into your mouth during vaginal sex, that’s softcore double penetration. If you’ve ever been fingered while giving a blowjob, that’s DP, too.

There are many ways to experience double penetration, limited only by your imagination, available body parts and sex toys, and personal boundaries.

Softcore DP techniques include:

• Double vaginal penetration that may involve a penis and a finger, a narrow sex toy and finger, a finger from each hand, or two narrow sex toys in the vagina at the same time
• Double anal penetration that may involve a penis and a finger, a narrow sex toy and finger, a finger from each hand, or two narrow sex toys in the butt at the same time
• One finger in the vagina and one in the anus
• A finger in the vagina or anus while performing fellatio
• A finger in the mouth during vaginal or anal sex
• Simultaneous anal and vaginal sex with two partners at a slower speed with less vigorous thrusting
• Simultaneous vaginal and oral sex with two partners at a slower speed with less vigorous thrusting
• Simultaneous anal and oral sex with two partners at a slower speed with less vigorous thrusting

Any kind of double penetration that includes oral sex in conjunction with vaginal or anal sex is often referred to as a “spit roast.”

Imagine a rotisserie chicken spinning on a metal rod as it cooks and you’ll understand where the term comes from.

The softcore version of a spit roast involves penetration at either end that is done at a slower speed with less power and force behind the thrusting. This improves comfort but also lowers the risk of injury at the same time.

Beyond the smaller size of the sex toys or body parts involved in double penetration of the same orifice, what makes that activity softcore is the speed and power behind the thrusting.

Double penetration of the same orifice is safer when it is done slowly and with great care — and without stretching the vagina, anus, or mouth more than is comfortable for the person being penetrated.

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What Is Hardcore Double Penetration?

This type of penetration is a lot more in line with what is often seen in porn, particularly the simultaneous penetration of one orifice by two forceful penises or large sex toys.

Although hardcore double penetration may involve multiple partners, it can also be done alone.

What makes DP “hardcore” — and therefore more dangerous — is its intensity, which is determined by not only the speed of penetration and the force of the thrusting but also the girth of the body parts or sex toys that are providing it.

To give an example, two large, thick penises entering the same vagina will stretch it much further than a penis and a finger would.

Likewise, two bulky anal dildos will stretch an anus much further than two small ones would.

Particularly during double penetration of the same orifice, the size of the body parts or sex toys plays a massive role in how safe — or unsafe — the activity is.

As we mentioned earlier, hardcore double penetration is commonly seen in pornography, but that is not a reflection of real-life — nor is it necessarily the way “regular” folks explore DP.

Extreme caution should be taken if you decide to try hardcore double penetration.

Hardcore DP techniques include:

• Double vaginal penetration that may involve two penises, two large sex toys, or one of each in the vagina at the same time and at any speed
• Double anal penetration that can also include two penises, two large sex toys, or one of each in the butt at the same time and at any speed
• Simultaneous anal and vaginal sex done vigorously
• Simultaneous vaginal and oral sex done vigorously
• Simultaneous anal and oral sex done vigorously

As we talked about earlier, double penetration that includes oral sex in conjunction with vaginal or anal sex is often referred to as a “spit roast” because it resembles a rotisserie chicken spinning on a metal rod.

Although a spit roast is “softcore” when done at a slower speed with less vigorous thrusting, it can become hardcore when powerful thrusting is involved, risking injury to either the vagina or anus during penetration and presenting a choking hazard during oral penetration.

Likewise, any simultaneous penetration of the same orifice with two large penises or sex toys presents a risk of bodily injury to the person on the receiving end of it — no matter how much lube you use.

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Reasons To Try Double Penetration

Double penetrative sex allows you to explore desires, experience new sensations, and expand your sexual horizons.

While you don’t need a specific reason to enjoy DP, there are plenty of reasons so many people love it.

In this section we’ll explore:

• Why Try Double Penetration?
• Why Do People Like DP?
• What Does DP Feel Like?
• Does DP Hurt?
• How To Ask For DP

Why Should You Try Double Penetration?

When exploring any new-to-you sex alone or with a partner, the main reason to try it is because you want to. But there are so many reasons double penetration is worthy of your sexual bucket list.

Has your sex life been a bit dull recently? Do you feel like you’re in a rut? Exploring softcore DP with a partner spices things up and gives you something new to try together.

For those who crave a sensation overload, DP is a great option. Multiple parts of your body feel pleasure at one time through double penetration, which can lead to bigger, better orgasms.

Got a growing sex toy collection and wish you could get more use out of them? Double penetration is great for that!

DP also allows you and your partner to explore different or new sex positions. “Boring” missionary — which isn’t boring at all — becomes a lot more exciting once you add a couple of penises or dildos to the mix.

One frustrating myth stops a lot of people from ever trying double penetration that involves the anus. So let’s clear things up right now:

No, anal sex or DP of the anus will not stretch out your butt permanently.

As we mentioned earlier, however, there is a big difference between the softcore and hardcore versions of double penetration.

For safety’s sake, it’s best to use only a penis and a finger, or two narrow sex toys during double anal DP — and don’t forget the lube.

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Why Do Men And Women Enjoy Double Penetration?

When done well, all forms of sex should provide plenty of pleasure in general. But double penetration offers a unique experience for both men and women when approached safely.

Dr. Lehmiller, the author and medical review board member we spoke with earlier, said:

“DP can be arousing to different people for different reasons. For some, it’s about seeking intense, overwhelming physical and/or visual stimulation. For others, it might be more about thrill-seeking or adding novelty into sex. 

It can also be about exploring a multi-partner sex fantasy in which you are the center of attention and are overwhelmingly desired by more than one partner.”

One sex forum user explained, “For me, double penetration is amazing and brings me to the most intense orgasms. Adding one in my mouth just increases the turn-on.”

People of any gender can use double penetration as a way to explore their sexual fantasies but as one survey discovered, only 9% of folks have actually tried it — although it didn’t make a distinction between the softcore or hardcore versions.

Still, that number stands in stark contrast to the nearly 40 percent who fantasize about double penetration.

DP offers just enough taboo to feel a little bit dangerous. Since it tends to incorporate sex acts people are most familiar with, it feels exciting (and a little risky) but still accessible.

Women often enjoy the additional stimulation they feel during this kind of sex.

Between stimulation of the clitoris, G-spot, A-spot, or perineal sponge (also known as the PS-spot), their orgasms can be incredibly intense, as we’ll talk about in just a bit.

Double penetration can also be a part of kinky sex fantasies that explore power and control.

You might experiment with dominance and submission roleplay or incorporate dirty talk, for instance.

With so many different ways to stimulate your body and mind during DP, the possibilities are endless.

As we mentioned earlier, this activity doesn’t have to mimic porn — nor should it. A vagina doesn’t have to be pounded by two penises at great speed to “count” as DP — that’s risky, and potentially painful.

Double penetration can be achieved by the use of fingers along with a sex toy or penis, and it can be as simple as being fingered vaginally while giving a blowjob, or having one finger in the vagina and anus at the same time.

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What Does Double Penetration Feel Like?

As with all sex, double penetration feels differently for everyone and it relates to which parts of your body are being stimulated — and how much.

One forum user explained how it feels for them:

“It is the most intense, mind-blowing sexual experience I have ever had. Feeling completely filled up and stretched is fantastic. I have had multiple overwhelming orgasms this way, so much so that I want to use a dildo when I’m with just one partner.”

Double vaginal or double anal penetration can make you feel stretched and full because two things in one hole means your body has to accommodate a much larger size — but it should be done slowly and carefully, and preferably with a penis and a finger or two narrow sex toys to reduce the risk of injury.

Double penetration that involves the vagina and anus creates the possibility of blended orgasms through G-spot or A-spot stimulation in the vagina and from the stimulation of the perineal sponge and the nerve endings in the butt.

The G-spot (Gräfenberg spot) is a sensitive spot on the upper wall of the vagina, although not everyone enjoys G-spot stimulation. Insert a finger and make a “come here” motion, and you should be able to find it.

The A-spot, also known as the anterior fornix, is further back in the vagina on the “back” wall, near the cervix. The more intense the penetration, the more likely one or both spots will be hit during sex.

The PS-spot, referred to as the perineal sponge, is located within the wall that separates the vagina from the anal canal, beneath the perineum near the openings of both.

The perineal sponge is part of the clitoral system and becomes engorged during arousal, making it sensitive to sexual stimulation — particularly during double penetration of the vagina and anus.

On the other end of things, any double penetrative sex that includes oral sex can allow partners to play with power and control (particularly dominance and submission).

The partner penetrating the other feels powerful while the partner being penetrated feels submissive or controlled.

With consent and when done carefully and safely, it’s a win-win for everyone.

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Does Double Penetration Hurt?

The number one worry most people have about double penetration is whether it’s going to hurt.

Can DP hurt? Yes. But it doesn’t have to — and it shouldn’t when done safely.

As we mentioned earlier, there is a difference between softcore and hardcore double penetration; the latter carries a significantly higher risk for pain and injury.

One easy way to reduce pain is to increase desire.

Women’s bodies, in particular, may take considerable time to become aroused fully. An orgasm (or even two) before double penetration begins can help to alleviate discomfort.

Even getting yourself as turned on as possible won’t always keep the pain away and if it hurts, it’s a sign that something is not right and the potential for injury is present.

Follow these tips to make double penetration as comfortable as possible:

• When you feel unwanted pain, stop what you’re doing and communicate with your partner if one is present.
• Go back to a previous step if you’re slowly introducing larger sex toys or body parts during penetration.
• Add more lube to decrease friction.
• Help yourself relax with stimulation. Touch your clit or nipples. Play with yourself.

When in doubt, stop what you’re doing — completely — and try again another day.

Double penetration isn’t worth the potential injury or stress you may feel from forcing yourself into painful sex.

If you’re exploring DP with a partner(s), always keep the lines of communication open — and use them often.

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How Should You Approach Your Partner About Trying Double Penetration?

If double penetration is a fantasy you’d like to explore, you might be wondering how you should bring it up with your partner.

“It’s important not to assume that your partner will know exactly what you mean if you say you find the idea of DP arousing or you’ve had a fantasy about it — be clear about what specifically you’re into,” Dr. Lehmiller, who sits on our medical board, advised.

He continued:

“When it comes to sharing sexual fantasies in general, start low and go slow, especially if you’ve never shared your fantasies before. Just coming out and saying you’re into threesomes or DP might be too much too soon for some people, so back up and start talking about fantasy and desire more generally to learn more about each other and build up trust and intimacy. Take some time to learn about each other’s fantasies and where your mutual interests are.”

It’s important to remember that double penetration doesn’t have to be the version you see in porn — nor should it necessarily be, especially when you’re just starting out.

DP can be achieved with something as simple as a finger in your mouth and a penis in your vagina at the same time. It’s okay to start slowly and work up to bigger (and possibly better) things over time.

Here are a few DP scenarios to consider:

• Double penetration as part of threesome or group sex. For women who like DP, one of the most common scenarios is partnering with two men. But that’s only one option. You can still have double penetration in threesomes that include all genders and all body parts.
• Double penetration with a single partner. If the idea of a threesome doesn’t work for your relationship, don’t worry. You can still get your freak on with one partner and sex toys.
• Double penetration as a solo act. Yes, you can masturbate with DP. You might need to get creative, but you can definitely indulge alone with the use of hands and sex toys.

An advanced version of double penetration, known as “triple penetration,” is also something to consider — once you have experience.

Like DP, it involves available orifices (mouth, vagina, and/or anus) and as many body parts or sex toys as you can handle.

One scenario might involve giving a partner a blowjob while a dildo and a penis penetrate your butt and/or vagina. But as with double penetration, you can do it alone if you have the right toys.

Double penetration allows you to dig deeply into your sexual fantasies while also discovering exactly how much your body can handle at one time — but it is vital that you do not push yourself (or your partner) so far that it results in personal injury.

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How To Perform Double Penetration With Partners

Okay, so you’re completely sold on the idea of double penetrative sex with at least one partner. Great!

The next big step is figuring out how to do it — and safely.

There are a lot of ways to experience DP with a partner.

One forum user said:

“My wife really enjoys this [double penetration] as do I. We normally do this with her vibrator with a handle that she holds with her in the doggy position. I enter her from behind and slide in alongside the vibrator already in there.”

And that’s just one of the almost infinite ways to try it.

Here’s what you need to know to get your DP sex groove on with one or more partners.

In this section, we’ll explore:

• Preparing For DP With Partners
• DP With Multiple Partners
• Double Vaginal Penetration
• Double Anal Penetration

How Should You Prepare For Double Penetration With One Or More Partners?

Before you jump into bed with multiple partners or a partner and all of your sex toys, there are a few things to do first.

The first step in double penetration with any number of partners is to discuss what you want.

Everyone should have a clear understanding of what will and won’t happen — and that includes the exploration of softcore or hardcore versions of double penetration.

Next, talk about your boundaries and respect your partner’s boundaries.

All of you have the right to only do what you enjoy and nothing you don’t.

Be upfront about your experience with double penetration. If you’ve never done it before, admit that. If you have a preference in sex toys used or sexual positions to be in, let everyone know.

Before you get naked, consider a safeword (a random word that doesn’t fit the moment, but both partners agree means “no” to stop all action) to make it clear if one or more of you need to stop for any reason.

Additionally, a safe gesture — a visual signal that conveys the need to stop the action — should be established as well, so participants who are unable to speak during oral penetration can communicate with their partners.

That will help make sure everyone’s boundaries are respected, too.

Discuss safer sex practices if you’re bringing in a new partner that you’ve never had sex with.

Be ready to answer: Will barriers be used? What is each person’s STI status? Is conception prevention a concern?

Finally, make a plan of action about the sex you want to have and let yourself talk about all the fun you want to have together, including what, if any, sex toys you’re going to use.

It’s important, as well, to consider the size of all partners who will be involved to ensure a comfortable match.

Ultimately, it’s important to be realistic with your partners about what you’ve done or haven’t done and what you want or don’t want.

Remember too that if it doesn’t work out this time, it doesn’t mean you can’t experience double penetration later.

Experimenting with the various forms of penetration is only one part of good DP sex. To have the most satisfying experience, you’ll need plenty of personal lubricant.

Lube makes all forms of sex easier, but it’s really important during DP. Reducing friction increases your comfort and pleasure, as we’ll talk about later on.

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How To Experience Double Penetration With More Than One Partner

Once you’ve had the discussion about what you want to do with each other and how double penetration will work between all partners involved, it’s time to make it happen.

Navigating DP with more than one partner requires a delicate balance of preparation, communication, and expectation management — perhaps more than any other sexual activity.

Keep these things in mind:

• Make sure any sex toys you plan to use are clean and ready.
• Ensure that all partners are in agreement regarding what will (or won’t) happen and that safewords and/or safe gestures have been established before any sexual intimacy begins.
• Place your lubricant and any condoms or other barriers nearby so they’re easily accessible. Use water-based lube if you’re using condoms, and an appropriate condom-safe anal lube if anal sex is on the menu.
• Start slowly and ease into the right frame of mind.
• Think about the type of double penetration sex you plan to have (softcore or hardcore) and plan your sex positions accordingly:
  • Spit roast (oral with vaginal or anal sex) usually requires you to be on all fours.
  • Double penetration that includes both vaginal and anal penetration can be done in modified missionary or even modified cowgirl positions.
• Consider using a cock ring to help guys or anyone with a penis last a bit longer during DP. This way, no one feels rushed or worries that they’ll get off too soon.

If you’re not ready — mentally, emotionally or physically — don’t proceed with the activity. You might have “planned” to explore double penetration but that isn’t etched in stone.

It’s okay to skip it if you (or your body) are not ready to engage in DP.

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How To Perform Double Vaginal Penetration

Double penetration that focuses only on the vagina requires time, patience, and planning.

As we mentioned earlier, the double penetration of any single orifice is safest when it is softcore — slowly using minimal force behind the thrusting, and with a finger or narrow sex toy if in conjunction with a penis.

Do these things to have a better double vaginal penetration experience:

• Make sure partners use a condom if planned for in your previous safer sex discussions.
• Apply lube to both the penis and/or dildo being used and the vagina being penetrated. When in doubt, always add more lube.
• Allow only one penis or dildo to penetrate first before introducing the second. This will minimize any pain you might feel.
• Gradually add in the dildo or second penis. Fingering may help to stretch the vagina and create space.
• In and out strokes should be kept to a minimum until the penetrated partner is comfortable. Don’t be afraid to stay still for a few minutes until you feel ready for more.
• Add more lube as needed.
• Thrusting should be slow for both partners or the penis and dildo to find a comfortable rhythm for everyone involved.
• Try clitoral stimulation or tease your nipples to increase desire. This can help your body relax.

During double vaginal penetration, speak up if something hurts and don’t be afraid to stop if it’s just not working for you.

There are plenty of other ways to enjoy your time with two partners even if double vaginal penetration doesn’t work out.

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How To Perform Double Anal Penetration

Double anal penetration is very similar to double vaginal penetration. The biggest difference will be in how comfortable anal penetration is for the partner on the receiving end.

For newbies, double penetration shouldn’t be your first experience with anal sex. Get used to penetration with one penis, dildo, or butt plug first. Then try anal DP later.

As we mentioned earlier, the double penetration of one orifice is safest when it’s softcore — use minimal force behind slow thrusts and a finger or narrow sex toy if in conjunction with a penis.

Not an anal beginner? Here’s what you can do for a great experience:

• If this is your first double anal penetration, start with smaller items like two small dildos or a small butt plug and a finger.
• Gradually work up to two penises or two dildos only if you want to.
• If you do, find the position that feels most comfortable for all partners.
• Add lube before you begin and more lube during penetration.
• Keep any thrusting to a minimum until the penetrated partner feels ready for more and always respect their boundaries.
• Stimulate your other erogenous zones to increase arousal and help your body relax.

If more than one partner is involved in anal penetration, they should work in tandem during thrusting.

It’s sexy and practical for one partner to wrap their hand around both penises or objects to prevent anyone from popping out before you’re ready.

It may take a few (or even several!) attempts, so it’s best to approach the activity with an explorer’s attitude: take your time, experiment without pressure, and stop the action if you need or want to.

Don’t be afraid to take a break or call it off if you’re not enjoying yourself. You can always try again another time.

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How To Enjoy Double Penetration Alone

Double penetration is a common display during hardcore orgy porn, but that’s definitely not the only way to enjoy it. You don’t even need a partner to do it.

You can do it alone while masturbating.

In fact, that’s a great way to explore your own body, learn more about what you like, and have fun with sexual fantasies.

Who says you need a partner for double penetration? Not us!

In this section we’ll explore:

• Enjoying DP On Your Own
• The Best Sex Toys For DP

What Do You Need To Try Double Penetration During Solo Masturbation?

You probably already have everything you need to explore DP while you masturbate.

Got a free hand with some fingers on it? A sex toy or vibrator collection? Some lube?

That’s all you really need.

Double penetration can be achieved during masturbation in many ways that may include:

• Inserting one finger into your vagina and another in your anus
• Inserting one finger into your mouth and another in your vagina or anus
• Using a butt plug in your anus while fingering your vagina
• Using a vibrator in your vagina while fingering your anus
• Inserting a double-ended dildo into your vagina and anus
• Inserting a finger and a sex toy into your vagina or anus at the same time

To get started, grab your lube. Make sure you have plenty of it and that it works well with your chosen sex toys if you’re using any.

If you’re not sure what kind of lube to use with your sex toys, there are a few things to keep in mind:

• Water-based lube is best for sex toys made from silicone, TPR/TPE, rubber, jelly, and other porous materials, although we generally advise using toys made from safer materials.
• Silicone-based and oil-based lubes are safe for toys made from glass, metal, and ABS plastic.
• Use your favorite natural lubes if you know it feels good and works well for your body and sex toys.
• Avoid using silicone lubes with silicone sex toys unless otherwise noted by the manufacturer.

Next up, get your sex toys ready. Make sure they’re clean and charged (or have fresh batteries).

If you’re using your fingers to penetrate yourself vaginally or anally (or both), make sure your fingernails aren’t too long.

Alternatively, you can wear nitrile or latex gloves if trimming your nails isn’t an option. Use water-based lube with gloves.

The final step to solo double penetration is to get comfortable.

You may need to try different positions to reach the orifices you intend to penetrate while discovering what feels best.

Lying on your back is a good starting point but some people find being on all fours or lying on their stomach more comfortable.

Think of double penetrative masturbation as an advanced-level move. It may take more time to reach your usual orgasm. You might even feel like you don’t know what you’re doing anymore.

Be patient with yourself and go as slow as you need. Make sure you have the privacy and time you need to have the best experience possible.

If you’re double-penetrating the same orifice, softcore DP is safest — use narrow sex toys or a finger in conjunction with a thicker dildo or vibrator to prevent pain or injury.

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What Are The Best Double Penetration Sex Toys For Solo Masturbation?

The most important part of great solo double penetration can be the sex toys you’ll use, which should of course be made from body-safe materials.

Additionally, your sex toys and vibrators should have the features you want — such as being waterproof or offering variation in patterns and intensity — but they should also be an appropriate size for your level of experience with DP.

Looking for a new sex toy to use during double penetration? We have a few recommendations:

• Try a dildo that will comfortably fit your body. Start with slim dildos and work your way up in size. A flexible double-ended dildo may work well for vaginal and anal sex. If you’re looking for the perfect toy, Adam & Eve carries many dildos to choose from.
• Consider a double penetration sex toy made specifically for DP for vaginal and anal sex. The larger shaft goes into the vagina while the smaller shaft goes into the anus.
• Insertable vibrators, like G-spot vibrators or an anal vibrator, will provide added stimulation during penetration. You’ll help your body relax, making DP easier.
• Butt plugs are ideal for double penetration with anal when you’re first starting out. Start small and work your way up in size.
• Anal beads are perfect for double anal penetration. The beads start small and work their way up in size.
• Anal hooks are great for solo use or for a partner to hold onto during anal penetration.
• Anal probes work well because they’re long and slender. Think of them like an anal dildo but without being too overwhelming.

Always consider how firm your toy is and the sensations you prefer. Some folks enjoy the softer texture of silicone while others would rather use a harder sex toy made from ABS plastic, Lucite, or even glass.

Ultimately, the best sex toy is the one that fits your body, feels good, and is easy to use.

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Safety Tips For Double Penetration

There’s no such thing as “safe sex” — only safer sex. This is especially true with double penetration.

Remember, you’re stretching your body’s capacity in this kind of sex — even during softcore DP. And you’re overwhelming your senses. Plus, you might even be adding a new partner to the mix.

Getting your freak on safely means everyone has a better time.

In this section we’ll explore:

• Having Safe DP
• Going Slowly With DP
• Using Lube During DP

How Can You Have Double Penetration Sex Safely?

Safer double penetrative sex requires pre-planning the kind of sex you want to have before you even begin.

As we mentioned earlier, there is a stark difference between the softcore and hardcore versions of DP — the latter is most commonly seen in porn but is much more dangerous because of the risk of bodily injury it invites.

Dr. Justin Lehmiller, the author and medical review board member we spoke with earlier, told us:

“Some of the things we fantasize about can be hot in our minds, but don’t always work out in real life. So take some baby steps toward acting out your fantasies to test the waters. 

For example, with something like DP, there are sex toys designed to simulate this experience that you can try with just your partner to see if you like and enjoy the sensation.”

Will it be a solo DP experience with you and your toys? Are you and a partner adding a sex toy? Or are you bringing in a third partner?

The answers to those questions will determine how to have safer DP sex.

If you’re exploring double penetration with new partners or those you don’t typically engage in sexual relations with, it is vital to discuss STI statuses (including test results!) and everyone’s preferences for safer sex before any contact begins.

Dr. Lehmiller added:

“If you decide to bring someone else into bed, then have extensive conversations with your partner beforehand about your rules and boundaries in order to protect your health and the health of your relationship. 

And communicate with the third person as well to talk about what everyone wants and to clarify the rules of engagement. Establishing a safeword might help in the event that things don’t go according to plan.”

The physical act of double penetration can be performed safely as long as you follow certain precautions.

• Add the second penetration slowly during vaginal and anal sex, giving your body time to adjust. Sex toys like anal beads or butt plugs allow gradual anal penetration. Single fingers or very slender dildos can make vaginal penetration easier and safer.
• Use plenty of your favorite type of lube. Add more as needed.
• Add in other stimulation (such as clitoral or nipple stimulation) if it helps you relax. Sex toys can be great additions to this.
• Understand that pain is a signal to the body that something is wrong. Listen to your body and stop immediately if you feel pain.

If using sex toys, be sure to clean them before and after using them — but also during sex if you switch between orifices.

You risk infection if a toy that was in the anus is then placed inside the vagina without being cleaned first.

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Why Is It Important To Go Slow During Double Penetration?

As exciting as double penetration can feel, don’t be in such a rush to get your groove on. The point is to have a good time and stay safe.

Moving too quickly during double penetration sex can cause real injury to the partner being penetrated.

Is anal part of your DP? Remember that the lining of the anus is extremely delicate and can tear when penetrated too quickly or with something too large.

Too-fast double penetration can also cause the vagina to tear. Yes, the vaginal canal stretches, but it needs time, patience, and a little help first.

No matter what kind of DP you try, going slowly gives the body time to adjust and relax. Slower double penetration lets you feel more pleasure and lowers your risk of injury at the same time.

Use that extra time to touch yourself or your partner in all the right ways. This will increase your mutual arousal, making penetration much easier.

Don’t forget that the softcore version of double penetration can be explored easily with the use of a finger in a second orifice during any type of penetration.

You don’t have to mimic what you see in porn — and you shouldn’t. Just because hardcore DP on the screen is “real” sex doesn’t mean it’s real life. The two are vastly different from one another.

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Why Is Lube Important For Double Penetration?

You can experience double penetration in countless ways. There’s no single right way to do it.

But there is something that you must always have: lube.

Personal lubricant decreases friction between your body and your partner’s or your sex toy. This allows for easier, smoother penetration.

The right kind and amount of lube also reduces pain during penetration. More importantly, you’re less likely to injure your vagina or anus.

Just remember: all sex feels better with lube, but especially double penetration.

• An Important Note On Numbing Lubes:

You might be tempted to use a numbing or desensitizing lube to reduce any pain double penetration of the same orifice might cause.

We caution against this, as these can hide the signs of injury as it occurs. If you use numbing lubricants, we highly encourage you to proceed with caution and care.

In Conclusion

You’re definitely not alone if double penetration is on your list of fantasies to try.

Yes, hardcore DP is popular in porn, but that doesn’t mean the softcore version is inaccessible to the rest of us.

Alone or with a partner, you can experience safe double penetrative sex in many ways — and you might have already done so without even realizing it.

What matters most is taking things slowly and preparing yourself for it.

You don’t have to plan an elaborate threesome — unless you want to. Double penetration can be done with one partner and a sex toy or no partners and all the sex toys.

If you can’t stop thinking about what DP might feel like, that’s a sign you should give it a try. Take your time, focus on pleasure, and have fun with it.

Because that’s what real double penetration should be — nothing but sexy (and maybe even kinky) fun!

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