How To Have An Orgasm With A Vibrator (For Beginners & Pros)
While orgasms are not the key to great sex — nor do they necessarily have to be the end goal — they certainly add a whole extra layer of pleasure to the experience.
Many people use vibrators to reach orgasm regularly but if you’ve never used one before — or if you’ve never had an orgasm to begin with — you may not know where to start.
Whether you’re wondering how to orgasm with a vibrator or simply looking for new ways to do it, this article is for you.
Editor’s Note: This article is part of our How To Use A Vibrator and Everything Vibrators hubs, in-depth and evolving resources that comprehensively explore all aspects of vibrators from the different types and how to use them, to materials and safety — created to help you achieve the sexual pleasure you deserve.
How To Have An Orgasm With A Vibrator
It can take a bit of time and mental preparation to achieve a stellar orgasm with a vibrator, but I’m here to tell you that it is SO worth it, especially if you’ve yet to experience your first orgasm.
For many women, orgasms relate directly to mental and relationship factors.
This 2014 study analyzed data about the orgasm rate during sex for single women vs. men.
Women reported having an orgasm only 62.9% of the time compared to men who reported an orgasm rate of 85.1%.
It’s no secret that men typically reach orgasm a lot faster than women.
And that’s where the vibrator comes into play!
Many women like vibrators because they help to speed up both the arousal and orgasm processes, allowing more possibility for multiple orgasms and extensive pleasure.
Additionally, clitoral stimulation is an important part of reaching orgasm for many women.
One 2015 study noted that out of a survey of over 1000 women, 36.6% required external clitoral stimulation to orgasm while another 36% said it made their orgasms better during sex.
Luckily, when it comes to clitoral stimulation, vibrators reign supreme.
The trick is knowing how to use a vibrator to reach orgasm.
Reaching Orgasm With A Vibrator — If You’re A Beginner
If you’ve never used a vibrator before, you might be wondering, “What does a vibrator feel like?”
Many people (including myself) will tell you that it feels spectacular — although the experience is entirely subjective to the user and not everyone enjoys them.
One thing to keep in mind is the fact that not all vibrators are created equal — and that’s a good thing!
Some feature more rumbly and strong vibrations while others offer pulsating suction or buzzy patterns.
For the best chance of enjoyment, you’ll need to select a vibrator based on the type(s) of stimulation you enjoy, how sensitive you are, and how you intend to use it.
Thanks to today’s booming sex toy market, there are vibrators of all stimulation types to choose from.
Once you’ve got a vibrator in hand — one that provides the stimulation and settings your body needs to reach orgasm, it’s time to experiment with it.
If you’re a first-timer attempting to cum with a vibrator, you should:
- Set the mood (and make sure to charge your vibrator): You’ll want to be relaxed and in a sensual frame of mind before you begin. If you find it helps, tap into your fantasies to increase your desire and turn yourself on. Additionally, you’ll want to make sure your vibrator is charged — especially since you might be playing with it for a long while as you explore the sensations it offers.
- Minimize distractions: Putting your phone away and turning off notifications will ensure you won’t get taken out of the mood.
- Focus on deep breathing: Taking deep breaths helps to relax the body and mind, helping you to focus on pleasure as you experiment with your vibrator.
- Take your time: Give yourself lots of time — alone — to take some of the pressure off finding your orgasm.
- Play around: Test out all of the patterns and settings on your vibrator to find what your body enjoys the most.
- Don’t focus on reaching orgasm: If it happens, that’s wonderful, but if it doesn’t, that’s perfectly okay, too. It can take a while to get used to the sensations — some of which you may not even enjoy. Focusing on reaching orgasm can add unnecessary pressure to “perform” — having the opposite effect in the end.
If you’re using a vibrator to reach orgasm for the first time, I recommend turning off your phone and putting on some music or porn, like that found on Adam & Eve Plus, that gets you in the mood.
It’s always a good idea to familiarize yourself with your toy’s functions before you start playing with it so that you don’t have to keep starting and stopping if or when you decide to add a bit more speed or try a new vibration pattern.
Know where the buttons are and understand what they do before you begin.
From there, start by teasing the areas of your body that are most receptive to stimulation — whether that’s directly on your clit, along either side of your labia or vulva, or elsewhere.
You can use a vibrator on any erogenous zone you wish — there are no rules, so do what feels good to you.
Above all things, explore and experiment.
Keep doing what feels great, stop doing the things that don’t.
Give yourself time — even if it takes multiple tries.
You’ll get there eventually.
Reaching Orgasm With A Vibrator — If You’re A Pro Looking For New Tricks
Perhaps you’ve stumbled on this article looking for some new ways to experience orgasming with your vibrator.
I get it.
It’s easy to fall into a rut with your sex toy routine and sometimes you have to get creative by finding new ways to play.
Try these tips if you’re looking to try something new with your vibrator:
- Getting wet: If your vibrator is waterproof, take it with you into the bath or shower so you can get clean and get off all at the same time. Using a vibrator in the shower is a way to experience new sensations you might not have explored before. Additionally, it’s the perfect place for some busy folks to get away and enjoy some much-needed self-care — if you live with others, sometimes the only private time you have is found in the bathroom.
- Turning it around: Try new positions with your vibrator — such as using it from behind if you typically mount it and vice versa. It’s easy to go for the same old lie-on-your-back position when using a vibrator but you’d be surprised at the range of sensations you can experience when you explore new positions.
- Trying it somewhere else: As I mentioned earlier, don’t limit your pleasure to only your genitals. Try using your vibrator on your nipples, inner thighs, and other erogenous zones to activate your arousal and feel new sensations.
- Challenging yourself: If you normally use your vibrator at a high speed, try and challenge yourself to use it at a low speed and see how long you can stand edging around an orgasm. Alternatively, you can see how much you can handle by putting your vibrator on full blast.
Even if you’ve been using vibrators for years, there are always new things to learn about how to give yourself pleasure.
How To Use A Vibrator For A Strong Orgasm
The best way to experience a strong orgasm with a vibrator, possibly one that even makes you squirt, is through edging — getting close to orgasm without actually letting yourself have one.
To do this, bring yourself to the brink of an orgasm and then pull back until the sensation passes.
Once it does, restart the stimulation again.
You can do this as many times as you’d like to build a bigger and more intense orgasm in the end.
If you want to cum strongly with a vibrator, you should:
- Try edging: Edging is a great practice for building and achieving strong and intense orgasms. The longer you hold out on having an orgasm, the stronger it will be.
- Go for round two (or three): Don’t stop at just one orgasm. Oftentimes your second or third orgasms can be stronger than the first. Some women cannot have multiple orgasms in short succession, however — but you don’t have to. Enjoy one orgasm with your vibrator, go do something else for an hour or so, and come back to enjoy a second one.
- Take it up a notch: Using your vibrator on its strongest setting is one way to experience a big and powerful orgasm, although it can sneak up on you pretty quickly! Depending on the type of vibrator you’re using, the strongest settings may be too powerful (or borderline uncomfortable) so only use higher settings if it feels good.
In Conclusion
Vibrators can help to make orgasms easily achievable, fun, and wonderfully intense.
With so many vibrators to choose from, your options are endless — so it’s best to experiment however you like.
How does that old saying go…?
Practice makes perfect.
If you’ve yet to experience an orgasm with a vibrator, you should check out our Everything Vibrators guide, and if you’re not sure which is best for you, take our vibrator quiz to find your perfect vibe match.
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