How To Use A Vibrator For Public Play

Now that you’ve selected a vibrator and you’ve got it in hand — it’s charged and you’re horny — you’re just about ready to head into the world for a little public play.
Almost.
If you’re ready to get your public vibe on, here’s a quick rundown of what to know before you wear a vibrator in public.
- Make sure to use a brand new vibrator at home first. I know you’re excited about taking it outside to play, but “practicing” with it at home ensures you know how to operate and control it.
- Remember to check the noise level of your vibrator’s operation across multiple settings before you leave the house. Can you hear it over the TV at a normal speaking volume? If so, it’s probably too loud for most public environments.
- Choose your location wisely. When starting out, it’s best to choose a location that’s comfortable and at least somewhat familiar, such as a movie theater or your favorite restaurant. And make sure to check state and local laws before you go.
- Double-check your battery situation. If your vibrator uses a remote control, put fresh batteries into the remote before taking it out in public to prevent a sudden loss of connectivity and control during use. If batteries are rechargeable, make sure to charge them fully before use.
- If you use personal lubricant, make sure it’s a high-quality, body-safe lube that works with your vibrator’s material. It probably goes without saying, but make sure to apply your lube before you leave the house, as you won’t be able to reach into your underwear to do it while in public.
- If using your vibrator with a partner, establish a safe word and action beforehand. A simple word like cashmere or bananas can act as a signal that the vibrations need to be reduced or turned off completely. Additionally, a safe action, such as tucking your hair behind your ear or scratching your elbow, will send a visual signal that alerts them of the same if you’re not within speaking distance of one another.
Above all things, check your vibrator’s noise levels at home before you go out.
In general, the quietest vibrators operate at 50dB or less, but the sound level is ultimately relevant to the surrounding noise during use.
Try to estimate what the ambient noise will be at your preferred destination and if you’re not sure, always err on the side of caution and assume the location will be quieter than you expect.
You should run two sets of sound checks: One while wearing it, and one as though you’re pretending to be a person standing nearby as it’s in use.
Sound Check #1: While Wearing Your Vibrator
- In a quiet room, turn your vibrator on its lowest setting.
- Adjust the settings higher, cycling through them one by one (moving it away from your body slightly if the vibration becomes too strong) to see how loud it operates at its highest settings.
- Return your vibrator to its lowest setting.
- Turn on a radio or the television and open the window (if applicable) to fill the space with some ambient noise that matches the location where you’ll be using it. Adjust the volume as necessary to match the anticipated space.
- Cycle through the settings of your vibrator again, listening for the threshold where the vibrator becomes audible over the sound of the ambient noise.
- Note the quietest settings you can use discreetly, based on the amount of noise in the room when quiet and with added sound.
Sound Check #2: While Standing Away From Your Vibrator
- To mimic the sound-dampening effect of a vibrator being worn, place your vibrator beneath a pillow in a quiet room.
- Stand a few feet away, as someone else might while you’re in public, and run through the same steps outlined in Sound Check #1.
By completing both sets of tests, you’ll have a much better idea of how discreet your vibrator will operate in the real world before you even step out of your front door.
You’ll also want to make sure your vibrator stays firmly in place while being worn.
- Place your vibrator in your underwear, inserting it if it is meant to be worn vaginally and making any adjustments to the fit or placement as needed.
- Walk around as you would normally to ensure it’s secure and stays in place, as it will be difficult (if not impossible) to adjust it while in public. You do not want it falling out of your pant leg during use!
The best thing to do, especially with a new vibrator, is to take it on a test run once or twice at home.
Don’t use a brand new vibrator in public the first time you use it.
By playing with it at home first, you’ll become familiar with how to control it, what the stimulation feels like, how it fits, and how responsive it is.
This is especially important if your position will vary between home and public use. You might lay down while using your vibrator at home but in public, sitting, standing, or walking may change things quite a bit.
Experiment with your vibrator at home in a way that matches how you’ll use it in public.
You don’t want any (bad) surprises while being diddled in the middle of a crowded room.