How To Use A Butterfly Vibrator Solo Or With A Partner In Public

Butterfly vibrators are creative and fun sex toys designed to be worn that provide clitoral stimulation and can be enjoyed solo or discreetly with a partner.
Closeup Photograph Of Purple Butterfly Vibrator With Matching Purple Harness Laying Against White Background

A butterfly vibrator is a clitoral stimulator that usually looks exactly like — yep, you guessed it — a butterfly!

Also known as a vibrating butterfly, this vibrator’s signature design typically features clit-tickling antennae and wings that spread across your entire vulva, delivering pleasure that may just fly you straight into your own personal metamorphosis.

A butterfly vibrator can be used on erogenous zones that include the:

  • Clitoris
  • Labia
  • Vulva
  • G-spot and anus (if there is an insertable shaft for penetration)
  • Nipples or other erogenous zones (if its design or your creativity can accommodate this)

Butterfly vibrators often come in bright, spring-like hues — lots of pinks and purples — with varied wing designs meant to tease your entire vulva in different ways.

They can also be used for some super sexy partner play – privately or in public.

We’ll explain everything you need to know about butterfly vibrators, but if you’re thinking about trying one, click here for our top recommendations.

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What Is A Butterfly Vibrator?

Colorful Photograph Of Woman's Open Hand With Butterfly Vibrators Fluttering Around It

A butterfly vibrator, also known as a vibrating butterfly, generally includes any sex toy that flutters and flits against your clit.

Even if it doesn’t look like an actual butterfly.

Most well-known butterfly vibrators resemble their namesake, featuring clit-stimulating antennae and wings that spread across the vulva to deliver teasing vibration over its entire landscape.

That means some vibrating butterflies have quite an impressive wingspan!

Staying on the theme of Mother Nature, modern-day butterfly vibrators aren’t always shaped exactly like butterflies.

I’ve even seen dolphins and flowers being classified as “butterfly” vibrators, but they all have the same purpose — to flutter against your clitoris and splay across your vulva.

Butterfly vibrators can offer many features that may include:

  • A harness to hold it in place (in some models that require this)
  • Texturing for additional stimulation
  • Multiple settings for speed, pattern, and vibration
  • Programmable settings for customized speed, pattern, and vibration
  • Pulsation that will sync with music or ambient noise
  • Remote or app control via smartphone or computer
  • Dual stimulation through an insertable shaft (sometimes with separate speed, pattern, and vibration control for the shaft and clit stimulator)
  • Robotic “come-hither” motion of the insertable G-spot shaft (in some models)
  • Long-distance use (with internet-driven app control only)
  • Being waterproof
  • Being rechargeable
  • An intentionally “pretty” design that doesn’t overtly look like a sex toy

Seeing the need for a hands-free vibrator, sex educator and author Joani Blank created the original butterfly vibrator after she founded the feminist sex toy store, Good Vibrations.

The first vibrating butterfly came equipped with straps that attached around the waist and thighs to hold it in place against the vulva during use.

Variances on that original design still exist today — with most butterflies functioning as wearable vibrators.

That said, many of those old-school harnessed butterfly vibes are made from porous sex toy materials like rubber, which we don’t recommend.

Modern butterfly vibrators are crafted from silicone and contoured to fit cozily in your vulva, so you get direct clitoral stimulation — often without the use of a special harness.

Some butterfly vibrators even feature insertable shafts to provide simultaneous G-spot stimulation.

Their overall designs are often very “pretty” and frankly, it’s fun being able to choose from all sorts of colorful designs and shapes.

The noise level of a butterfly vibrator can vary depending on its materials — silicone vibes tend to be quieter — and whether it has an insertable shaft that is “muffled” during use inside the vagina.

The price of a vibrating butterfly can vary a bit depending on its design and available features, and where you go to buy your vibrator.

Adam & Eve, a sex toy retailer we reviewed personally, carries butterfly vibrators ranging from about $20 to $180 so there’s something for every budget.

No matter if you’re a fan of clit stimulation only or you’re searching for something that’ll hit your G-spot, there’s a butterfly vibrator that’ll send your orgasms soaring.

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How To Use A Butterfly Vibrator

Rear And Side Photograph Of A Woman Holding The Evolved Butterfly Effect G-Spot Massager At Her Bare Hip

The design of your butterfly vibrator will help you determine exactly how to use it.

In terms of versatility, butterfly vibrators may be used on erogenous zones beyond the vulva, but that largely depends on their design.

An insertable shaft on a butterfly, for instance, might be fantastic at teasing your nipples, inner thighs, or even a penis or testicles.

You may need to get a little more creative when using clit-only butterfly vibrators on other erogenous zones, however, as their curvature might hinder their use beyond the vulva.

My best advice?

Try it and see!

If it vibrates strongly, you can probably caress any erogenous zone with your butterfly!

Otherwise, using a butterfly vibrator is very simple:

  • The wings spread across your labia
  • The head or antennae fit over (or around) your clitoris
  • If there is a shaft, it slides into the vagina (lube is a good idea)
  • If there are straps, they go around your waist or thighs — simply adjust them to fit

Now you’re ready to fly away!

It’s a good idea to familiarize yourself with the buttons or controls beforehand, even cycling through all of the speeds, patterns, or intensities to get a feel for what it can do before you turn it on.

Lube isn’t necessarily a requirement for clit-only butterflies, although it can certainly offer a more sensual experience.

Vibrating butterflies with an insertable shaft will likely be more comfortable when used with lube — water-based is generally best, especially if your butterfly is crafted from silicone or if you’re not sure of its material.

  • Can a butterfly vibrator be worn all day?

As long as it fits well and is comfortable, you can wear your vibrating butterfly all day long.

That doesn’t mean you need to have it turned ON all day, but if you’re into sporadic pleasure on a whim, there’s no reason why you can’t walk around wearing it all day as long as it’s completely comfortable.

It’s important to keep in mind that a butterfly with an insertable shaft that remains inside the vagina may not be comfortable for all-day wear.

So how long can you wear a butterfly vibrator? For as long as it remains comfortable — if you experience any discomfort or pain, it’s time to stop wearing it.

Make sure that hygiene is a top priority and that the toy is kept clean to avoid any risk of toxic shock syndrome (TSS), which is caused by staphylococcus aureus bacteria.

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How To Use A Butterfly Vibrator For Masturbation

If you want to enjoy some fluttery, hands-free masturbation, you’ll want to choose a butterfly vibrator that features straps or a shaft to hold it in place.

Otherwise, the way you use a vibrating butterfly for masturbation will largely depend on the model.

Most butterfly vibes are designed to fit snugly against your clitoris, with the wings splayed across the vulva.

If your butterfly strap-on vibrator features a harness crafted from non-stretchy material, it’s best to adjust it when you’re in the position you intend to be in while using it — whether standing, laying down, or bending with your legs spread.

Some harnesses have a little elasticity to them — such as those made of silicone or rubber — but not all of them do.

Nylon butterfly harnesses may offer little in the way of “give” and that can present a challenge when switching positions — you’ll likely have to readjust the harness as you go.

If there’s a shaft for G-spot stimulation, like those found in a butterfly dildo vibrator, it’s a good idea to insert that first — with a little toy-safe lube — before getting the wings and clit stimulator into place.

At this point, it should feel comfortable — if it doesn’t, adjust it where needed.

It’s important to note that dual-stimulation butterfly vibrators may need bending or adjustment of the shaft and/or clit stimulator to suit your anatomy, so you may need to experiment a bit.

Additionally, we noted before that not all butterfly vibrators look like butterflies — and these will often need to be hand-held during use.

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​​How Can Couples Use Butterfly Vibrators?

A butterfly vibrator can be a lot of fun for couples.

Vibrating butterflies that feature remote or app control can be used at any point during sex play at home, with one partner controlling the other’s pleasure.

For instance, if you’re taking a bath and your butterfly is waterproof, your partner can take charge of the device from another room entirely.

They’re a great tool for mutual masturbation, as well — with both partners pleasuring themselves in full view of each other, or with one using a remote control butterfly vibrator on the other during partner masturbation.

If a butterfly vibrator is discreet (and quiet) enough, it can even be used during date night while you’re out on the town together!

You’ll want to be careful when using a butterfly vibrator in public, however — some locales may consider this sort of activity as a form of public indecency.

We’re talking potential trouble from the law.

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How Can You Use A Butterfly Vibrator During Sex?

Butterfly vibrators are really versatile and can be used in almost any position you can think of — particularly if they offer clit-only stimulation.

Just make sure it can stay in place with a harness, or you have a free hand to keep it from flying away!

When using this type of vibrator during sex, it’s probably best to forgo the G-spot shaft so vaginal penetration can come from your partner, but if you’re excited about the idea of double penetration, a butterfly vibe might be just the ticket.

In fact, wearing a dual stimulation butterfly vibrator will triple your pleasure during anal sex — not only will you experience pleasure anally, but vaginally and clitorally, as well!

When it comes to oral sex, however, a butterfly clit vibrator will often get in the way — because many are designed to cover the clitoris and vulva fully.

That said, experiment — you might just come up with an innovative way to use your butterfly while giving or receiving cunnilingus!

  • Do You Need Lube With A Butterfly Vibrator?

Lube is the icing on the cake — even when it comes to butterfly vibrators.

Although they’re not always used for insertion, a little lube will allow them to glide easily over your skin, even if they’re only being used against the clitoris.

Water-based lubricant feels pretty similar to your body’s natural lubrication. It’s excellent for sex toys made from any material, which makes it a good choice if you’re not exactly sure what material your sex toy is made from.

Remember to check your butterfly vibrator’s instructions and specifications if you plan on using silicone or an oil-based lubricant. That way, you’ll be sure they’re compatible with your toy’s material.

→ For more, read: The Best Butterfly Vibrators That’ll Make You Flutter With Pleasure

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Can You Put A Butterfly Vibrator Inside You?

You certainly can — if it has a shaft for G-spot or vaginal stimulation.

Not all butterflies offer this feature.

Those designed only for clit stimulation really aren’t going to be compatible with insertion due to their wingspan and overall design.

Vibrating butterflies that have a shaft can be inserted, of course. Additionally, they may be compatible with anal penetration as long as there are wings that will ensure it won’t get lost inside your anus.

It’s important to note that if you do use a butterfly vibrator in this manner, make sure to clean it thoroughly before using it anywhere else — especially in your vagina.

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Are Butterfly Vibrators Safe?

Yes, butterfly vibrators are safe.

As long as they’re crafted from body-safe materials — we highly recommend silicone or ABS plastic — they are completely safe.

When it comes to all sex toys — butterfly vibrators included — it’s best to avoid anything made from:

  • Jelly rubber
  • Rubber
  • Thermoplastic Rubber & Elastomer (TPE/TPR) blends
  • Other porous materials

Additionally, a butterfly vibrator won’t desensitize your clitoris.

Long-term use of a vibrator could lead to a little bit of temporary desensitization. But taking a break is enough to rectify the issue.

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In Conclusion

If you’re all about clitoral stimulation with the added benefit of diffused labial sensations, a butterfly vibrator is calling your name!

They’re creative and fun — not to mention they’re often adorable to look at — and many of them even provide G-spot stimulation to add to your pleasure.

If you’re looking to add some color to your sex life by spreading your wings and trying something new, a butterfly vibrator might be perfect for you.

If you’re still searching for a vibrator, check out our Everything Vibrators guide to consider all of your options.

And if you don’t know what kind of vibrator you should try to begin with, our vibrator quiz can help you find your ideal match!