What Is A Couples Vibrator & How Do You Use One?

Any vibrator can be used during sex play but a couples vibrator lets both partners in on the action, together or apart, and we’ll tell you how.
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Any sex toy you use with a partner is a couples vibrator

If it vibrates and one or both of you feel it, you can confidently call it a couples toy.

That said, sex toys designed specifically for two people that focus on mutual pleasure — often during PIV (penis-in-vagina) sex — are the most common type of vibrator for couples.

Here’s what you need to know about couples vibrators:

  • Any vibrator can be used by a couple during sex play.
  • Couples vibrators are often designed for both partners to enjoy during vaginal penetration.
  • You may be able to use your couples toy for masturbation — but not always, depending on its design.
  • Lube can make the entire experience more comfortable.
  • As long as you choose sex toys made from high-quality materials that feel good to you and are kept clean, couples’ vibrators are very safe.

A couples vibrator can be used on erogenous zones that include:

  • Clitoris
  • G-spot
  • Nipples
  • Perineum
  • Anus
  • Testicles
  • Penis
  • Anywhere that feels good to you!

No matter what part of the body you use it on or what kind of toy it is, if it makes sex better for both of you and enhances your mutual pleasure, it’s a couple’s toy.

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What Is A Couples Vibrator?

Vibrators that are made for and marketed to couples tend to focus on providing stimulation and pleasure to both partners during sex.

These include vibrators that are worn by either partner during sex or vibrators designed for long-distance use, controlled wirelessly via an app.

One common example of a couple’s toy worn during sex is the classic C-shaped vibrator, like the Chorus from We-Vibe.

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We-Vibe Chorus We-Vibe Chorus
4.5
$209.00
Pros:
  • Great For Partners + App-Controlled For Long-Distance
  • Very Entertaining, Adjustable With 8 Vibration Modes + Squeeze Remote; Stellar If You’re Sensitive Down There
  • 100% Waterproof Body-Safe Silicone
  • Relatively Quiet With 90 Minutes Of Battery Life
Cons:
  • May Not Work With Huge Penises
  • May Slip Out
  • App Can Be Difficult
Bottom Line: The very well-liked Chorus is the wave of the future. It’s multifaceted and fun. Through the We-Connect app, you can sync it to an Apple watch! But the long-distance range can get frustrating. However, the Chorus has the new Anchor Link technology that allows for better connectivity. But that also makes it pricier than We-Vibe’s Sync or Unite.

This type of vibrator is inserted into the vagina with the vibrations being felt by both partners during penetration.

The wearer feels the sensations on their G-spot and/or clitoris — depending on the toy’s design — while the penetrating partner feels the vibrations along their penile shaft.

Another type of couple’s vibe you may already be very familiar with is the vibrating cock ring, like the Big O Multi-Stage Penis Ring.

Best Seller — Over 425,000 Sold!
Big O Multi-Stage Vibrating Penis Ring Big O Multi-Stage Vibrating Penis Ring
3.7
$19.99
Pros:
  • Simple One-Button Design
  • Beginner-Friendly & Easy To Use
  • Strong Vibration In Small Package
  • Stretchy Ring Accommodates Most
Cons:
  • Only Offers Single Speed Vibration
  • Material Is Porous, Cannot Be Sanitized
Bottom Line: A single touch of a button on this snug-fitting (yet stretchy!) cock ring will send waves of stimulating vibration while soft pleasure-nubs will tease the wearer’s partner. Its small bullet vibrator is encased in a rubber O-ring so this little piece of functional jewelry can be worn in the bath, shower, or hot tub for extra-steamy lovin’!

Cock rings restrict blood flow in the penis, allowing for longer-lasting erections and more intense orgasms.

The vibrating versions of these toys work for couples when the other partner has a vulva and can feel those vibrations on their clit during penetration.

A third example includes vibrators made for couples who are apart.

These are toys that one partner uses while the other controls it from an app on their phone, regardless of the distance between them, like the We-Vibe Moxie.

Submersible; App/Remote Fun!
We-Vibe Moxie+
5.0
$139.00
Pros:
  • Strong, Discreet Vibrations
  • Public Play Friendly, Waterproof
  • Secure Fastening Via Magnetic Clip
  • Remote Control & App (Customizable)
  • 45 to 85 Minutes Of Playtime
Cons:
  • Potential Connectivity Issues
  • Small, May Not Fit Everyone
  • No Panties Included
  • 90 – 120 Minutes To Charge
  • May Be Unaffordable For Some
Decibel Level: 44.9 to 52.4 dB [Note: 40-50 dB is considered quiet; 40 is the sound of a refrigerator hum; 60 is a normal conversation]
Remote Range: 20' to 30'
Bottom Line: If you want to party in public while those around you are totally oblivious to your sexy shenanigans, this panty vibe is discreet, secure, and hella easy to use. While connectivity may take a minute, good things “come” to those who wait for the naughty thrills this best-in-class vibrator offers — anywhere you go!
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The Moxie is a panty vibrator worn inside the underwear, but through the app, a partner can control it from anywhere in the world.

It’s important to know, though, that any sex toy can be used as a couple’s toy.

If it can reach your most sensitive spots and it makes sex better for one or both of you, ta-daaaah, you’ve got a couples vibrator!

How To Use A Couples Vibrator

The simplest way to use a couples vibrator is to put it in or on and start having sex with each other.

But since any vibrator can be a vibrator for couples, there are multiple ways to use them, depending on what you and your partner enjoy.

  • Use a finger vibrator to tease your partner’s nipples or perineum.
  • Wear a vibrating cock ring during penetrative sex.
  • Put in a vibrating butt plug and feel the difference in sensations when your partner enters your vagina — they’ll likely feel the vibrations, too.
  • Hold your favorite vibrator against your clit during penetration.
  • Use a remote control vibrator and let your partner control the sensations.
  • Have each partner use their favorite toy separately during partnered sex. Example: Hold a vibrator to your clit while your partner wears a prostate vibrator. You’ll each feel separate sensations, but you’re doing it together!

When we talk about sex toys specifically designed to be couples’ vibrators, the uses tend to be a bit more specific and ultimately will depend on their design.

For instance, a C-shaped couples vibrator is inserted vaginally while a vibrating cock ring is placed on the penis before penetration begins.

App-controlled vibrators being operated over a long distance generally require a bit of setup beforehand — of the technical variety — pairing the device to phones or mobile applications.

In those situations, it’s best to work out the bugs and test connectivity and the vibrator’s operation before you plan to get busy with your partner.

How To Use A Couples Vibrator For Masturbation

Most, but not all, couples vibrators work well for solo sex.

In my personal experience, couples vibrators like the We-Vibe Chorus only feel really good during penetration.

Why?

Because the pressure exerted with the addition of my partner makes the vibrations more intense.

However, vibrating cock rings can be great for masturbation — especially if the partner with a penis wears it “upside down” with the vibrator touching the base of their penis, balls, or even perineum (if it’ll reach).

And if you use your favorite personal vibrator during partnered sex, of course, it’s going to be perfect for masturbation.

How Can You Use A Couples Vibrator?

The way you use a couples vibrator ultimately depends on the type of vibrator you choose.

One fun way for couples to have extra fun is to select a vibrator that includes a remote control or mobile app.

This allows you to use it when you’re together in the same room, during sexy fun times, or — if it’s app-controlled — while separated by miles or even in public.

If you’re together, let your partner use the remote or app to tease or (consensually) “torture” you with pleasure and enjoy the sights and sounds of your reaction.

When you’re apart, your partner can control your vibrator through an app, and you’ll feel like they’re right there with you.

How Can You Use A Couples Vibrator During Sex?

Using a couples vibrator for penetrative sex tends to be about mutual pleasure.

Either both of you will feel the sensations or one partner will (typically the partner with a vulva!) so you have better sex together.

C-shaped vibrators often focus on G-spot and clitoral stimulation, though some focus solely on the clit.

That’s great for the girlies who don’t get off through penetration alone.

That your partner may feel some vibrations on their dick is a definite bonus but not necessarily the focus.

Vibrating cock rings are perfect for couples who want penetration to last longer and for partners who need (or crave!) clitoral stimulation to get themselves off during sex.

Alternatively, you might use a finger vibrator and let your hands roam your partner’s body during sex.

  • Do You Need Lube With A Couples Vibrator?

In most cases, yes — personal lubricant is highly recommended for any couples vibrator.

For penetrative vibrators, it makes everything more comfortable, especially once you’ve got a penis and a toy in your vagina.

With cock rings, irritation from friction on a penis is a very real possibility, so always lube up.

The best type of lube depends on the material of the vibrator and any sensitivities or allergies you may have.

Water-based lube is always a great choice and universally safe for any sex toy material — you can check out our tested recommendations below.

Can You Put A Couples Vibrator Inside You?

It depends.

If the couple’s toy you have is designed for penetration, you can safely put it inside your body.

However, if you’re using a cock ring or a finger vibrator, you either physically can’t (with the former) or it might not be advisable (with the latter).

For penetration, it’s always best to use a sex toy that’s designed to be inside your body.

It should have either a handle or a flared base so it doesn’t get sucked inside you — especially if used anally.

Are Couples Vibrators Safe?

In general, a couples vibrator is usually extremely safe as long as you choose a body-safe material and clean your toy thoroughly when you’re done using it.

For any vibrator, the best material is usually silicone although you may find a vibrator made of stainless steel or glass.

(It’s rare but they’re out there.)

These materials aren’t porous and won’t hold onto bacteria or dirt, so they won’t get moldy or gross over time.

Cleaning a body-safe vibrator is easily done with soap and warm water or an antibacterial sex toy cleaner.

While you can sterilize silicone in boiling water or the dishwasher (top rack only!), it’s not usually possible with a vibrator because of the motor.

One thing to remember about penetrative vibrators: if it goes in your butt, it can’t go in your vagina until after it’s cleaned — unless you put a condom on the toy during anal and remove the condom for vaginal penetration.

Otherwise, this can lead to infections like a UTI or bacterial vaginosis.

Closing Thoughts

Couples vibrators are designed to enhance the pleasure for both partners during sex.

You can seek out vibrators explicitly made for two, or you can grab your favorite vibe from the nightstand.

All that matters is that both partners get what they want and need out of sex, and everyone has a good time.

Editor’s Note: This article is part of our How To Use A Vibrator and Everything Vibrators hubs, in-depth and evolving resources that comprehensively explore all aspects of vibrators from the different types and how to use them, to materials and safety — created to help you achieve the sexual pleasure you deserve.