Should I Buy My Wife A Vibrator?
Well, of course, you should! Whether it’s her first vibrator, or she’s got a drawer full of them, a man can never go wrong buying one for his wife! Here’s why.
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TJ Thomas
Kerry-Anne Perkins

Well, of course, you should!

Would you buy your wife flowers? Jewelry? Lingerie? The answer to all of these is a resounding “Yes!”

(And if it isn’t, what the hell, man?)

While a vibrator is probably considered to be in a different category of gifts altogether, anything that shows you’re thinking about your treasured partner is never a bad way to go.

If your wife has never used a vibrator before, however, the decision to purchase one for her should probably include a heart-to-heart convo beforehand — just to make sure she’s into the idea.

Adding a feather in your cap though, a study published in the Journal Of Psychology & Sexuality directly associates the use of vibrators with higher sexual well-being in partnered women.

In this article, we’ll talk about: 

Why Would A Man Buy His Wife A Vibrator?

A vibrator is an essential tool to building an outrageous love life that lasts a lifetime. It is every husband’s best friend and a handy accomplice that will take your wife’s orgasms to another level.

In fact, a vibrator might even lift the veil from whatever fantasies you’ve been holding back from one another.

Here are 5 reasons why you should absolutely buy a vibrator for your wife:

  • A vibrator is the first step to the rest of your shared sexual journey.
  • A vibrator makes sex and satisfaction so easy that it might just become an every day (or multiple times a day) plaything.
  • A vibrator does a lot of the heavy lifting during lovemaking.
  • When you travel for work, you can smile on your way out the door knowing your wife will be having safe fun while she waits for your return — and some vibes are app-driven so you can play together while you’re away!
  • If you’ve been married for many years, a vibrator can bridge the gap between differing sex drives.

Being partners in life and love equates to being partners in passion, too!

Oftentimes, couples may feel like they’ve reached the end of the line with each other sexually before even considering the expansive world of sex toy experimentation.

Look, sex isn’t just about positions. It’s about bonding with someone to the point when you can drop your guard and fully experience intimate, unbridled, primal satisfaction together.

Vibrators could very well be the gateway to blissful heights if you take the time to explore them as a couple — and even if she uses one by herself.

After getting comfortable with a vibrator, your missus might find herself sneaking a little session in right before a bath to relax.

The sexy thoughts that were running through her head will still be there when you get out of the shower to find her curled up like a kitten in bed with a lazy smile on her face.

And that’s fantastic news for you. Like I mentioned earlier, vibrators can do a lot of heavy lifting during lovemaking.

I’ll be the first to admit that I don’t have the energy I did when I was 18, and I’m not always ready to go 12 rounds.

Using a vibrator on the wife is the easiest way I can make sure she’s satisfied — and I get to spend more time in my favorite positions!

In my experience, it’s always nice to make your lady orgasm before sex even begins because it takes the pressure off — she’s already cum at least once.

It also helps that she’ll be more than excited to return the favor.

For husbands who travel often, vibrators can provide a way to make sure the woman of your dreams is taken care of while she’s sitting at home alone.

Yes, you work hard to provide a good home, and if you’re always at a convention or prepping for the next one, you know how tough it can be while you’re away.

As men, we know that no matter how hot the porn is, it will never replace our wife’s soft, warm body next to ours — but we might forget that our women feel the same way about us.

Sure, they probably have more toys — and some might even be shaped like our members — but there is nothing made of plastic or silicone that will replace us in the bedroom entirely.

If you find you must spend a great deal of time away from home, there are even remote-controlled and app-driven vibrators for truly long-distance sex — letting you please your wife from anywhere in the world.

Finally, some spouses may experience a subtle or dramatic change in their sex drives after many years of marriage — and not always for the better.

If your wife has a higher sex drive than you, a vibrator might offer a way to provide her with the sexual satisfaction she needs.

Keep in mind that there are professional sex therapists who are qualified and happy to help you through this chapter with your favorite partner, as well.

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How To Select A Vibrator For Your Wife

If this is your first time buying a vibrator for your wife, you may require an introduction to the complete range of options available before you select one.

Another good place to start is to consider the type of stimulation your wife enjoys and the vibrator’s intended use:

  • Does your wife need clitoral stimulation?
  • Does your wife prefer G-spot stimulation?
  • Does your wife enjoy dual stimulation of her clitoris and G-spot?
  • Does your wife have any physical limitations that might require a vibrator that offers hands-free operation?
  • Will your wife be using this toy solo?
  • Do you plan to use the vibrator with your wife during sex?
  • Will the vibrator possibly be used in the bath or shower?
  • Does the vibrator require app-driven use over a long distance?

Off the cuff, it’s usually advisable to start with something simple before you attempt an upgrade to the Jackhammer 3000 — I made this one up, but with so many advances in modern technology, it’s anyone’s guess…

Your ideal “starter kit” vibrator should be soft, easy to use, equipped with multiple speeds and intensities, waterproof, and rechargeable.

Clit sucking vibrators can produce a body-convulsing orgasm, but they are generally more hit-or-miss than the clit massage variety.

Optionally, rabbit vibrators offer dual stimulation to her clitoris and G-spot, so if you already know that’s something she enjoys, you can buy one with confidence.

Whatever sort of stimulation your wife prefers, the perfect vibrator is just waiting to be discovered.

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How To Talk Your Wife Into A Vibrator

In my experience, it likely shouldn’t take much persuasion.

I once dated a woman who said she didn’t like vibrators at all. However, she didn’t have me holding and kissing her when she had used one in the past — and in the future, it made all the difference.

The first time we used a vibrator together, I massaged it against her clit during sex. The second time, she held it herself. I told her not to worry about me, just to cum whenever she wanted.

It didn’t take long!

That said, other women may not be so easily convinced.

If it turns out that a vibrator really isn’t your wife’s thing, after all, that’s okay — don’t be discouraged. Toys are not for everyone.

Keep an open mind and listen for clues so you can discover other fantasies she may have — including those she might not even know about yet.

Bottom Line:

A vibrator can make a wonderful addition to the time spent together with your spouse.

By the time they’re married, most women have owned or at least encountered a vibrator, so you’ll rarely be springing one upon your wife out of the blue.

Maybe you’ve never integrated toys into your lovemaking as husband and wife, but there’s no time like the present.

Don’t worry about the idea being shot down — it won’t be the end of the world. If nothing else, you’ll end up with a compact neck massager, a life lesson learned, and a funny story to laugh about!


Many folks have mixed feelings about purchasing sex toys for their spouses — or encouraging masturbation while in committed relationships. Have you ever considered buying a vibrator for your wife, or have you already done so?

We encourage you to share your thoughts and experiences with our readers! If you have any advice about coming to the decision to buy a vibrator for your wife, or for selecting one, share your thoughts with us by clicking on the “Discuss” link/button at the end of this article.

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TJ Thomas
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