Everything You Want To Know About Cumming Inside

Explore how cumming inside feels, why it’s a major turn-on for men and women, safety, precautions, clean up — and ultimately, if it’s right for you.
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There are a lot of questions and curiosity when it comes to cumming inside: 

  • What does it feel like?
  • Why do we like it?
  • Is it safe?
  • Is it messy?
  • What happens afterward?
  • Should you do it?

As with everything else in life, there are pros and cons associated with cumming inside your partner or allowing your partner to cum inside you, including the risk of unwanted pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases and infections.

If you’re considering taking your sexual prowess to the next level, it’s important to understand this intimate act in all aspects — especially if you’re trying to determine whether it’s the right choice for you and your partner.

What Is Cumming Inside — And What Does It Feel Like?

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Cumming inside refers to what happens when a man ejaculates in a woman’s vagina or anus during penetrative sex.

Popular slang for the act of cumming includes: nutting, busting a nut, jizzing, blowing your load, or blowing your wad.

Similarly, “creampie” is a term often used to describe ejaculating inside your partner — specifically, the act of seeing it fill an orifice.

While a man can technically wear a condom and cum inside a man or woman, for the purposes of this article, we’re referring specifically to the sexual act of finishing inside without one.

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Can You Feel When Someone Cums Inside?

According to several of our forum and team members, not necessarily.

“I don’t feel the ‘spurt’ like they write in all the romance novels,” one woman said.

“Sometimes if the man stays still while shooting and it comes out with enough force, I can feel it hitting something inside me down there,” another explained, adding that his penis has to be large enough and deep inside her for those sensations to occur.

“If we aren’t moving too vigorously, I will feel his penis get bigger for a few moments and then begin pulsing,” one forum user noted. “I am also conscious of things getting wetter down there. But I don’t actually feel spurts of semen.”

Although no two experiences are exactly the same, there are plenty of women who enjoy having their partners cum inside of them — they just don’t always feel it.

A woman’s vaginal sensitivity and physical position during climax can affect her ability to feel a man ejaculate inside, but it’s also possible that the cum itself is a factor, as well.

Our Editor-In-Chief, Alison Huff, said:

“Usually, the most I feel is a sudden rush of heat as it’s occurring, but it also depends on what position we’re in when he finishes. I have to wonder, too, if the amount of cum has an effect on whether or not I feel it. Not that I’ve ever measured the amount afterward to find out, but it’s possible that the size of the load makes it easier (or harder) to feel as it’s happening.”

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What Does It Feel Like For A Woman When Her Partner Cums Inside?

“I think it’s the peak of enjoyment, holding [his penis] tight inside and it just vibrates, fires like a gun, and releases.”

“I love feeling the man shudder and groan as he cums deep inside me. It’s so delicious and satisfying.”

“I haven’t had many partners, so I don’t have a lot to compare, but to be able to actually feel him release still blows my mind.”

These are just a few ways some of the women in our forums described their reaction to having their partners finish inside of them.

“I actually enjoy feeling wet the next day,” one forum user said. “Reminds me of the night before or the times to come.”

For women who find enjoyment when their partner finishes inside them, this part of the act plays a large role in their sexual satisfaction.

A 2018 study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine found the following results after interviewing 240 heterosexual, sexually active women about this very topic:

  • 50.43% of women found it important to them that their partner ejaculated during intercourse.
  • 17.4% of women reported more intense orgasms depending on their partner’s intensity during ejaculation.
  • 22.6% of women stated they enjoyed more intense orgasms when their partner ejaculated inside during vaginal intercourse.

Susan Milstein, who holds a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality Education and sits on our medical review board, said, “For some women, just knowing that their partner ejaculated can make them feel good about the experience.”

“It’s about them enjoying the actual feeling of a guy ejaculating inside them,” she explained. “That warm sensation can help turn them on and some women may get off on that feeling.”

Carol Queen, who holds a Ph.D. and is a staff sexologist for Good Vibrations, agrees.

“For some, internal ejaculation is more erotic and/or emotionally satisfying. It can make couples feel bonded,” she explained. “Some people fetishize it.”

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What Does It Feel Like For A Man When He Cums Inside His Partner?

“Finishing inside a partner feels like you’re eating the biggest, reddest, juiciest bison steak you’ve ever had the pleasure of sinking your teeth into,” says Jesse, a 42-year-old man from Sweden.

For many men, cumming inside a woman is considered to be the sexual Holy Grail because of how good it physically feels for them.

“It feels like being enveloped,” Chris Fernandez, CEO of Women’s Health Interactive, said. “You’re inside of something that’s warm, that’s protective, that’s inviting.”

“It’s carnal, instinctual, passionate,” he noted. “It just really kind of bonds two people together.”

“It’s almost like an expression of the truth,” Chris added. “It’s just a wonderful experience.”

David, a 29-year-old from Wisconsin, told us that finishing inside his wife makes him feel very close to her.

“Being physically wrapped around her womanhood is an incredibly emotional experience.”

Jamie, a married 42-year-old from Philadelphia, PA, explained that when cumming inside his wife, “There is a sense of total satisfaction and a release from primal energy that spews forth from the body. This is increased when my wife orgasms at the same time I’m releasing inside of her.”

Others find the act of cumming inside to be the ultimate representation of bonding physically and emotionally with their partner.

“I find a very deep connection when I release inside,” one member of Women’s Health Interactive’s sex forum said. “There has never been a time when it wasn’t wonderful.”

“One of the most connecting moments is after her orgasm and my ejaculation,” he explained, referencing “that time immediately following — when both bodies are trying to calm down from the intense release.”

“It’s in this moment when there is semen inside her and I know I have given her that special part of my substance,” he said.

“We just stay physically connected (inserted) and kiss passionately, I let her know how much I love her, [and] we look into each other’s eyes.”

Bottom Line: Cumming inside feels differently for men and women but the pleasurable sensations and physical reactions serve as very erotic turn-ons. Some women feel a rush of heat or wetness when their partners cum (although not all women do) and many enjoy knowing that their partner was satisfied. Men also feel closeness with their partners after cumming inside, which makes them feel bonded.

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Why Do Men And Women Like Cumming Inside?

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Men and women may enjoy cumming inside for different physical and emotional reasons, including an increase in stimulation or sensation when a condom isn’t being used and a heightened sense of intimacy between partners.

People enjoy cumming inside because:

  • Stimulation of the penis is more intense without a condom
  • Women enjoy feeling their partner’s release and the satisfaction of knowing they caused it
  • The fluid bonding between partners heightens the sensation of intimacy for both
  • It offers more sexual freedom and spontaneity when condom use isn’t a concern
  • It’s more instinctive, animalistic, and natural
  • It can be a kink or erotic fetish (for some)

We are all sexual beings and the act of cumming inside is a natural, primal, and instinctual one.

It’s also a situation where everyone wins when it is done with consent — and safely, as we’ll talk about later on.

  • Men Experience Greater Stimulation Without A Condom

A “bareback” penis — which is not covered by a condom — is stimulated far more intensely without a protective sheath during sex.

One man we interviewed told us:

“There is no comparison between sex with and without a condom for a guy. When I don’t have to wear a condom I can enjoy every single sensation that I’m supposed to have. A condom definitely weakens or in some cases totally removes a lot of the feeling for a guy and I’m sure it does for the woman, too.”

It’s similar to the body-bliss you might feel when sinking into a hot tub, concentrated around the penis.

And that’s hot — literally and figuratively.

  • Women Derive Pleasure From Feeling Their Partner’s Release

Women also like the feeling, or at least the idea, of a man cumming inside for many of the same reasons a man does.

“Like” may even be an understatement.

The truth is, many women love the feeling of a man ejaculating inside them. It heightens their sense of intimacy and the satisfaction of increasing the man’s pleasure.

One woman on our forums wrote:

“The sexy/exciting part of the pulsing isn’t physical pleasure but the emotional excitement and connection.

On the one hand, I know that he is having an orgasm inside me and feeling such pleasure, and on the other, there’s the knowledge that I have given him this pleasure and excited him and brought him to orgasm.

I am glad to have done this for him (selflessly) and at the same time I feel empowered (selfishly).”

There is also a great deal of sexual freedom found in being able to enjoy an impromptu romp whenever the mood strikes — and not only when condoms are within close reach.

  • Cumming Inside Heightens The Feeling Of Intimacy Between Partners

Part of the intense, mind-blowing orgasm a couple is aiming for is also tied to a closer, more intimate bond with each other — created by bare, skin-on-skin contact and fluid bonding.

This is especially important for men, as they tend to have more difficulty expressing themselves emotionally compared to women and may use sex as a means of communication.

The very act of being able to fully release and finish inside during their most vulnerable moment can become a very erotic and potentially bonding experience that increase’s the sense of intimacy in the process.

If you’ve been a couple for a long time, this may be especially true.

Dr. Lindsay Gibson, a clinical psychologist, and author, noted:

“Although emotional openness is increasing between the sexes, there is still an unspoken limitation on how much emotional openness is acceptable in a man. 

Women have societal permission to express their emotional needs, but males have been trained to be stoic. Only in the privacy of lovemaking does the man feel free to share himself at all levels with his partner.”

You can read more on her fascinating take by clicking here.

  • Cumming Inside Is More Spontaneous

For those who engage in cumming inside, the spontaneity of not stopping to reach for a condom can intensify feelings of intimacy the moment penetration begins and all the way through to the end.

Disturbing the continuity of lovemaking or the absence of spontaneity associated with condom use can interfere with that intimacy — at least very briefly — although this is perhaps more common among less-seasoned sexual partners.

Pausing for a safety break as the most passionate moments are about to begin can be a potential mood-killer.

You’re excited, breathing heavily, red-faced, and ready for action until everything comes to a screeching halt as you fumble with putting on a condom.

Or, worse yet, while leaving the room to retrieve one if it’s not handy nearby.

Although that is a completely normal part of safe sex, it can be awkward and a bit of a temporary buzzkill.

  • Cumming Inside Is More Instinctive, Animalistic, And Natural

There’s a very primitive urge for a man to ejaculate inside, so it increases his sense of intimacy with his partner when it happens.

The innate drive to perpetuate the species through sexual activity is, after all, human nature.

Possibly rooted in his evolutionary need to reproduce, this impulse may influence a man’s strong desire to finish inside, even if his common sense tells him that it’s not the right time or that it could have unintended consequences.

  • Cumming Inside Is Kinky, Erotic, And A Fetish For Some

Finally, there’s a subset of folks that get super turned on by the chance of making someone pregnant or becoming pregnant, which can bring a greater sense of intimacy between partners during the act of cumming inside.

Even if it isn’t necessarily a full-blown fetish, the idea of cumming inside being taboo or “off-limits” can absolutely increase its desirability — and the erotic charge you get from just thinking about it.

Bottom Line: Cumming inside is enjoyable for both partners for many reasons. It’s the exclamation point of lovemaking and accents the intimacy of the moment, but it also acknowledges our softer, more sensitive side — as well as our most basic instincts and erotic desires. It can increase spontaneity and enable people to explore their human nature more freely, but it is also an erotic act that can be a fetish for some.

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Is It Safe To Cum Inside Or Let Someone Cum Inside You?

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The answer to this question depends on a few important factors relating to the use of birth control and the STD or STI status of both partners.

As we talked about earlier, we know it might be appealing to cum inside or have your partner cum inside you, but is it a good idea?

If you’re reading this and contemplating the question for yourself, there are many possible scenarios you may find yourself in:

We’ll discuss each of these, but let’s begin with a simple flowchart to help you visualize your decision.

Flow Chart Infographic To Help You Determine If You Should Let A Man Cum Inside You

Cumming Inside While NOT On Contraceptives

If you’re a woman who is not on birth control and aren’t actively trying to conceive a child with a willing partner within a stable, healthy, long-term relationship, you may want to think twice before deciding to let him cum inside you, no matter how much you want to satisfy him — or yourself.

This is an equally important consideration for men who may be thinking about cumming inside female partners who are not on birth control.

The truth is that about half of the pregnancies in the U.S. are unplanned.

It’s important to remember that pregnancy can occur as a result of sexual intercourse with or without any form of contraception.

If you are not ready for (or trying to have) a baby with your partner and there is not already some method of birth control involved, using protection in the form of condoms is the best way to avoid finding yourself in such a situation.

You might be uncomfortable with purchasing them in person, but online retailers like Adam & Eve offer a variety of condoms to choose from, along with discreet billing and packaging.

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Cumming Inside While Contraceptives ARE Being Used

Women’s contraceptives, including the birth control pill, implant, the patch, Depo, the ring, IUDs, and others, all have exceptional success in preventing pregnancy with proper use so cumming inside can be safe if STDs or STIs are not a concern — which we’ll talk about next.

This is made possible (mostly) through hormonal changes within a woman’s body elicited by such medications, so it’s very important to understand how various methods of contraception work and the potential risks involved with each.

If used correctly, it is highly unlikely for pregnancy to occur while using these tried and true birth control methods — but it still can.

It isn’t necessary to use a condom in conjunction with them, but it does further improve the odds of preventing an unwanted pregnancy.

If you’re not ready or planning to have a baby with your partner, you may still want to use condoms in tandem with another birth control method — and skip cumming inside altogether.

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What About STDs, STIs, And Other Health Concerns?

It’s important to note that the birth control methods discussed above DO NOT protect you from STDs (sexually transmitted diseases) and STIs (sexually transmitted infections).

It’s also worth mentioning that condoms do not offer complete protection from all sexually-transmitted diseases or infections, either.

Human papillomavirus (HPV), for instance, can still be transmitted between partners even if a condom is used because it may not fully cover the genital skin that is affected by it.

The most effective way to make sure you’re both safe while cumming inside is to take an STD/STI test.

Having negative test results in hand is a step in the right direction towards determining what decisions should be made in regards to your sex life and whether cumming inside is the best choice for you as a couple.

If there are any doubts as to the health status of your partner(s) or your own, use a condom for protection — or skip the sex entirely.

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Does Semen Disrupt A Woman’s pH Balance Or Vaginal Health After Cumming Inside?

It is important to understand that when semen is introduced into the vagina, it is likely to result in changes to the pH level inside, at least temporarily.

Changes to vaginal pH can cause yeast, bacterial infections, urinary tract infections, unwanted vaginal odors, and irritation that can be bothersome after intercourse.

For women prone to vaginal infections, using condoms will decrease the odds of this recurring.

Sex with a condom or even personal lubricants can cause changes as well, but it’s more likely to occur when bodily fluids are exchanged.

On a similar subject, some people are allergic to semen — specifically, proteins that are found in it — although the true rate of incidence is unknown.

Those with a semen allergy, also known as human seminal plasma hypersensitivity, may experience a range of symptoms that can include swelling, itching, or urticaria (hives) in areas that experience contact with semen.

In rare cases, it can cause life-threatening reactions or anaphylaxis.

This type of allergy can sometimes be misdiagnosed as vaginitis, a blanket term used to describe disorders that can cause irritation, inflammation, or infection of the vagina.

Those who have an allergy to semen should avoid contact with it, using condoms as an effective barrier.

Bottom Line: The choice to let a man cum inside you should be weighed against the potential for pregnancy (whether you are on birth control or not) and the intimidating risks of STIs and STDs whenever you have unprotected sex. Semen can temporarily affect vaginal pH, which may lead to irritation or infections in women who are prone to them. Additionally, some people may have allergic reactions to semen; in such cases, cumming inside is ill-advised.

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How To Clean Up After He Cums Inside You

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It’s easy to get so caught up in a moment of ecstasy and arousal that you may not be thinking ahead to the aftermath. The good news is that it doesn’t take much effort to get things back in order after the deed is done.

With a little planning ahead and effort, the “chore” of cleaning up after sex doesn’t have to feel like one.

  • Is Cumming Inside Messy?

It can be — but that isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

Some men and women are incredibly turned on by the resultant “creampie” and after flow that results from cumming inside.

Post-sex cleanup isn’t always pretty but it also doesn’t have to be a big ordeal, as we’ll talk about later, especially if you plan ahead by having any of the following items nearby and ready to go:

  • Wet/damp washcloths
  • Towels/hand towels
  • Unscented wet wipes or baby wipes

Regardless of your chosen method of post-sex cleanup, delayed leakage is common — but don’t be too surprised if you find that you actually enjoy it.

In fact, some women report that feeling a little remnant cum seeping out later — especially in awkward moments — reminds them of the hot sex they had and can be quite a turn-on, while providing a renewed erotic charge because of its taboo nature.

However, wearing a panty liner is a solid solution for women who can’t — or don’t want — to risk having such an experience at the wrong place or time, such as during a work meeting, family event, or while celebrating a special occasion.

  • How Do You Clean Out Your Vagina After A Man Cums Inside?

You don’t have to do anything “special” to remove semen from your vagina after sex.

The basic steps include:

  • Sitting on the toilet (or over a towel) to “empty” it out, letting Kegels or gravity do the bulk of the work
  • Urinating if you’re able, to flush bacteria that may have made its way into the urethra
  • Washing your vulva (not vagina) with mild soap and warm water

It helps to have a hand towel nearby to catch the semen as it drips out, which can then be tossed in the hamper and forgotten about until laundry day.

Although we don’t recommend douching to remove semen, there are some innovative products available to help you dispose of it after your guy cums inside.

The brilliantly named Dripstick from Awkward Essentials is an insertable medical-grade sponge that soaks up excess bodily fluids from the vaginal canal after sex.

This “after sex awkward remover” ships discreetly and puts an end to post-sex semen leakage once and for all.

Will modern wonders never cease?

Bottom Line: Cumming inside may not be the cleanest way to reach climax but with some planning and healthy investment in quality towels or products, handling the aftermath doesn’t have to be an awkward nuisance.

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In Conclusion

It takes solid communication, trust, and maturity to determine whether a woman should take things to the next level and let her partner cum inside, or for a man to take that next step and ejaculate inside of his partner.

Couples should make sure they’re both on the same page regarding birth control, STD and STI prevention, and what to expect after cumming inside.

It might not be sexy to discuss or think about post-sex cleanup beforehand but planning ahead can save you a lot of time — and awkwardness — in the long run.

When you’re ready, willing, and well-informed, it’s okay to invite a partner to cum inside or cum inside of them. At the same time, understand that you can revoke that invitation whenever you desire — you are your own best advocate.

Cumming inside is a natural and primal urge that, when explored safely and wisely, can take your sexual pleasure — and your partner’s — to brand new heights.


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