What Is A Remote Control Vibrator & How Do You Use It?

A remote control vibrator is a sex toy that provides stimulating vibrations in one location while being operated from another, using a remote or mobile app.
Aerial Photograph Of Woman Holding Remote Control Vibrator While Using A Mobile Phone App

A remote control vibrator is a motorized sex toy that provides stimulating vibrations in one location while being operated from another, using a remote control or mobile app to adjust the vibrator’s speed, settings, or functions from a distance.

Here’s what you need to know about remote-controlled vibrators:

  • They enable you to hand “control” over to someone else across the room, in the same building, or even hundreds (or thousands!) of miles away.
  • They allow partners to experiment with using vibrators in public — discreetly.
  • They make it easy to enjoy hands-free pleasure by yourself or with a partner.
  • They are suitable for all genders and offer an array of stimulation types to choose from.

A remote-controlled vibrator can be used on erogenous zones that include:
  • Clitoris
  • G-spot
  • Nipples
  • Perineum
  • Anus
  • Testicles
  • Penis
  • Anywhere that feels good to you!

Where you feel the sensations and how your remote-controlled vibrator works will depend on the type you choose.

If you’re ready to learn more, we’ll explain everything you need to know about using remote-control vibrators.

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What Is A Remote Control Vibrator

What Is A Remote Control Vibrator?

A remote control vibrator is one that can be operated remotely — either through a detached (usually wireless) control pad or a mobile app.

Remote control vibrators have come a long way since their invention.

In their earliest days, bullet vibrators were attached to remote controls through a cord that was only a few feet long, and yes — those styles still exist!

Wireless remote vibrators, which are much more common now, function in the same way as the old-fashioned options did, only without the cord.

Untethered though they may be, the distance between the remote and the device is still a factor.

The remote needs to be close enough to the vibrator for both to work together, usually within 10 to 15 feet and no further than 25 to 30.

That said, we live in a modern world and many remote-controlled vibrators are operated through mobile phone apps.

While proximity still matters for Bluetooth options, you often have more control and a wider array of options for adjusting the sensations and intensity of the vibrator.

Bluetooth vibrators tend to require 50 to 100 feet of proximity between the remote and the vibrator.

Mobile app-controlled vibrators that connect via the internet or WiFi, however, can be controlled from anywhere in the world as long as your partner has the app on their phone and you both have a good connection.

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Using A Remote Control Vibrator

How To Use A Remote Control Vibrator

Photograph Of Man Holding Remote Controlled Vibrator With Lube On It

Using a remote control vibrator is as simple as turning the toy on and placing it against your body, using the buttons on the control or the options in the mobile app to cycle through the vibrator’s functions.

While the original remote-controlled vibrators were most often bullet vibrators, there are so many more options now – for every body part and erogenous zone:

If a vibrator exists for a body part, there’s usually a remote-controlled version of it to try.

And yes, men and anyone with a penis can use a remote-controlled sex toy just as easily as they can use any other vibrator.

How you decide to use a remote control vibrator is up to you, but it’s great for solo fun and fun with a partner.

With a remote vibrator, you can explore:

Remote-controlled vibrators take everything that makes vibrators amazing and turns the heat up a few notches — with ease.

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During Masturbation

How To Use A Remote Control Vibrator For Masturbation

You don’t need a partner to enjoy a remote-controlled vibrator and you can use any style that works best for your body and your budget.

Wired remote vibrators will be limited in their use, however.

You won’t be able to go totally hands-free and in most cases, the device is not going to be waterproof.

But a wired remote control is great for small vibes like a bullet vibrator while you’re learning the ropes and to make changing the settings easier if you’re just learning how to use a vibrator.

Wireless, Bluetooth, and mobile app vibrators give you a lot more freedom and generally, offer a lot more flexibility in their settings.

Look for a remote-control vibrator that provides the versatility you need, is as discreet as you want it to be, and doesn’t require you to pay constant attention to the remote.

Once things get good, you should be able to ride the waves of pleasure without worrying about buttons or mobile apps.

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As A Couple

How Can Couples Use Remote Control Vibrators?

Couples have so many options when it comes to enjoying remote-control vibrators together, from playful explorations at home to naughty teasing in public, or even sharing intimacy while miles apart.

Go out on a date and have one partner wear vibrating panties or another type of wearable vibrator while the other partner keeps the remote.

You can make a game out of not getting caught or letting your face or body give you away.

Long-distance relationships can still have plenty of sexual intimacy with a vibrator that works through an internet-connected mobile app.

Both of you will need to have the app downloaded to your phone and open at the same time, but it’s a great way to get in some sexy time even when you’re far apart.

If you’re curious about kinky games with an element of domination or submissiveness, a remote vibrator can be an excellent way to play with orgasm control.

One partner uses the remote or app to decide how much or little sensation the other partner will feel — with full, enthusiastic, and informed consent, of course.

You can also play with mutual masturbation if both partners use a remote-controlled vibrator and swap remotes with each other.

Make it a game to see who orgasms first, who drops the remote first, or who can handle the most stimulation.

There are so many ways couples can have fun with remote-controlled vibrators.

It’s a great way to explore new sensations and new forms of intimacy together in your relationship.

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During Sex

How Can You Use A Remote Control Vibrator During Sex?

You didn’t think we forgot that couples can use remote-controlled vibrators during sex, did you?

We saved the best for last.

You can do everything mentioned above and call it sex.

But if you’re looking for ways to incorporate your remote control vibrator into intercourse, it’s easier than you realize.

You might experiment with remote control bullet vibrators, egg vibrators, or butterfly vibrators that provide clitoral stimulation during penetration.

Additionally, there are plenty of sex toys that allow for both internal and external (that’s clit and G-spot) stimulation once you insert it, yet leave space for penetration of the vagina at the same time.

Many couples’ vibrators are designed in this way.

The remote means you don’t have to fiddle with the settings during penetration. Even better, your partner may also feel the vibrations and gain extra pleasure at the same time!

Another option is to choose a vibrating cock ring that can be controlled by a remote or an app.

The partner wearing it stays harder, longer.

The partner on the receiving end during penetration gets external stimulation with every thrust — so everyone has fun.

The bonus is that the remote makes it easier to focus on your pleasure while keeping the sensations fun and exciting.

  • Do You Need Lube With A Remote Control Vibrator?

In general, lubricant makes everything better, so it never hurts to use it.

If your vibrator is designed to be inserted vaginally, lube can reduce potential friction and help it glide in more easily.

For remote vibrators designed for anal stimulation, lube is an absolute must.

Any sex toy experience can be improved with a bit of lubricant, even when you don’t (technically) need it.

A water-based lubricant generally has a texture that’s similar to your body’s natural lubrication and pairs well with toys made from any material — which is especially good if you’re not exactly sure what your toy is made from.

Always consult your remote control vibrator’s manual if you intend to use silicone or oil-based lubricants to make sure they are compatible with your toy’s material.

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Can Remote Control Vibrators Be Inserted

Can You Put A Remote Control Vibrator Inside You?

In many cases yes — but it’s best to do so only if it’s designed for penetration.

Some panty vibrators or wearable vibrators are meant to be used inside the vagina and that’s perfectly safe.

Likewise, prostate massagers and anal plugs are made for the anus and safe for that type of use.

If your vibrator is not made for insertion, use extreme caution.

Before you stick a vibrator up your butt, make sure it has a tapered tip for easier penetration and a wide or flared base so it doesn’t get sucked into your rectum.

If you intend to insert a toy in your vagina, make sure it’s long enough to easily remove from your body or that it has a handle or cord to make removal easier and safer.

The last thing you want to do is go to the emergency room to have a sex toy pulled out of your body.

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Are Remote Control Vibrators Safe?

Are Remote Control Vibrators Safe?

Yes.

Most of the remote control vibrators on the market today are quite safe because they’re often made of high-quality silicone or ABS plastic — two of the safest sex toy materials available.

If you’re shopping for a remote control vibrator, avoid products made of rubber, jelly rubber, thermoplastic rubber & elastomer (TPE/TPR) blends, and other unsafe sex toy materials that might potentially be harmful to your health.

If you’re worried about a remote control vibrator desensitizing your clitoris, don’t.

It’s extremely rare and you’d need a lot more stimulation than what your remote control vibrator provides.

Although extended use of a vibrator may lead to temporary desensitization — which is nowhere near the same thing as permanent nerve damage — taking a short break is enough to fix it.

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Conclusion

In Conclusion

Remote-controlled vibrators are great for anyone who wants a different type of vibrator experience.

Use it by yourself for hands-free solo pleasure.

Hand the remote to your partner for kinky fun in public or to feel something new and exciting.

Thanks to new technology and a wide variety of vibrator styles, there’s a remote-control toy available for anyone who wants one, no matter how you like to get off or where you want to feel the buzzing sensations.

If you’re still searching for your perfect vibrator, our Everything Vibrators guide will help you to explore everything available.

And if you don’t know what kind of vibrator to try, our vibrator quiz will set you on the right path!

Editor’s Note: This article is part of our How To Use A Vibrator and Everything Vibrators hubs, in-depth and evolving resources that comprehensively explore all aspects of vibrators from the different types and how to use them, to materials and safety — created to help you achieve the sexual pleasure you deserve.

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